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How to overcome perfectionism and love yourself more

Today, Perfectionism is a crippling disease plaguing lots of people i.e. perfect looks, relationship, job, school, grades etc. It hinders your success, health, mindset and even productivity.

 

It’s human nature to want to be the best and to have the best of everything but we see overtime the desire to be perfect has had a worse impact on people. Perfectionism hinders you from being the real ‘you.’ The global industry today has made us join the rat-race of perfection and little time is taken for you to appreciate the best in ‘you’- to love ‘you’ with all your flaws, weaknesses, talents etc.

 

So, how do we overcome this? Here are three simple ways to overcoming perfectionism.

How to overcome perfectionism and love yourself more

Allow yourself to be vulnerable

Brene Brown says“When we lose our tolerance to be vulnerable, joy becomes foreboding.” Perfectionism hinders vulnerability…you’ve got to allow yourself to be ‘you.’ You’ve got to look at yourself and appreciate all your experiences-good and bad, flaws, weaknesses and love yourself like that. Vulnerability requires courage….it takes courage to say #imnotperfect and realize not being perfect is okay! Besides, in our own abilities, we will fail. We’re humans, we make mistakes….we can’t be perfect in our own self. So, why don’t you challenge yourself to be vulnerable…tell yourself this is me and this is how I want to be or this is what I want to improve on. Let go all of your insecurities and complexities. What perfectionism wants….is to make you “faultless,” and that’s impossible. Our very failures shape us into the person we were born to be and so does every experience we go through but learning to accept mistakes as a part of life and success is key in overcoming perfectionism.

 

Move with people who appreciate the real ‘you’

It’s important to find friends who love you for being ‘you.’ – Friends who are willing to see your dark sides and not criticise them. That’s a real friend….Having a perfect friend doesn’t count…but having someone you can trust with motivation and encouragement in times of distress is key. One thing perfectionism does is it prevents authenticity. There are so many perfectionists around…but if you take a close look at their lives….you’ll find out they aren’t original and most times the company they keep aren’t genuine either. You must take the responsibility to ensure you have the right support group around you. Sometimes, it means giving up a friendship or relationship…but you’ve got to consider your well-being and what makes you happy. Although it might seem selfish, but your happiness at the end of the day is key.

 

Be willing to make mistakes

We are usually fearful of making mistakes and perfectionists are good at that…..but how do we excel if we don’t make mistakes? How do you become the best at anything without failing one or twice or even thrice? Look at the great heroes of the past and today, they failed many times and were willing to keep trying until they reached their goal. We must realize that failure is a key ingredient to success. It offers you experiences, life lessons that education can’t give….The important thing is the willingness to get up and learn from those mistakes in order to improve yourself and fulfil your purpose on earth.

 

It’s important that as we go through life; we strive for progress and not perfection.

 

What was your favorite tip in overcoming Perfectionism? Be sure to leave your comments below. For more articles within this genre, see my blog: MotyInspires.