Taking the leap into a new relationship can leave you feeling terrified and overwhelmed.
On the other hand, you may be experiencing an intimacy and openness with your new partner that you previously thought was unimaginable. But how do you know if this is “The One?” There are the obvious signs, like you think about each other constantly, you laugh at all the same stuff, and the intimacy is off the charts.
But what are the other signs that you have met your soulmate?
5 Signs You Have Met Your Soulmate
1) You Feel Safe
When you have met your soulmate, you are comfortable being vulnerable, and are able to share the good, the bad, and the ugly about yourself. You are also able to share all of your hopes, fears, and fantasies. Bottom line: you can tell this person absolutely anything without fear of being judged or risking the relationship.
2) More Than Words
You can finish each other’s sentences. You can share a thought with just a glance. You know each other so well, that your non-verbal communication can tell the whole story. Not only can you tell what your partner is thinking, but you can read their mood or how they are feeling, all without ever saying a word.
3) You Can’t Imagine Life with Anyone Else
Try as you might to envision a future without this person, the thought is physically painful. There is no other person that you can imagine going through life with. Your love for your partner is unexplainable, and so deep that there aren’t enough words in the world to describe it.
4) Electric Chemistry
You know your love is something special when just the other person’s touch ignites you. But chemistry isn’t just about the physical connection that you have with your partner. You just get each other; everything clicks. You can talk endlessly and wonder where the time went. Your thoughts are consumed by your love and when you will meet or talk next.
You know you have met your soulmate when you can be confident in your relationship, and are secure in the knowledge that you are the only one. You don’t feel threatened by your partner’s need for some time alone or out with other friends. You have a mutual respect for each other’s independence.
All of these factors are definite signs of a solid bond and strong relationship. But don’t underestimate the importance of sharing common interests and values. While seeing eye-to-eye on absolutely everything is near impossible, knowing that you have a mutual respect for each other’s opinions and the ability to communicate openly and honestly are sure signs that you have met your soulmate.
But then what? Once you know you have met your match, you need to begin laying the groundwork for a solid foundation.
How To Build a Foundation
1) Don’t Push Buttons
Nobody knows your partner better than you – and this can be dangerous. You know the exact button to push that will cross the line and hurt your partner’s feelings. Depending on how hard you push, you can really damage a relationship quickly if you are NOT careful in the heat of an argument.
2) Say I’m Sorry
Nobody is perfect. You are bound to act in a way that hurts your partner at some point in your relationship. Don’t let your pride get in the way when you know you need to apologize. It is impossible to move forward from an argument or disagreement until you set your ego aside and say, “I’m sorry.”
3) Build Trust
One of the most important building blocks to any relationship is trust and honesty. With complete transparency, you are able to deepen your connection and really get to the heart of who your partner is.
4) Be Responsible for You
It can be a hard pill to swallow, but realizing that you cannot “fix” your partner is the reality. You can only be responsible for your own emotional health, and vice versa. Of course, you can support each other as you work through challenges. But ultimately, you must each do the work necessary to heal yourselves.
5) Lose the Judgment
Practice compassion and listen to your partner without judgment. By slowing down your thoughts and seeing them with an open heart, you will be able to choose your response more thoughtfully instead of simply reacting.
But love isn’t all work and no play. Even though the heat you feel when you are first starting a relationship and building a foundation may fade. There are numerous ways you can fuel the fire and sustain your connection.
How to Keep the Spark Alive
1) Put down the phone, and check in with each other daily.
Remember when you first met, and you couldn’t keep your eyes off of each other?
Bring back that feeling by instituting phone-free time each day when you check in with each other and ask the simple question “How are you doing today?” While this is really a simple question that may not be very sexy, you can find out a lot from your partner by simply taking the time to listen.
The daily hustle and bustle of life can pull you both in opposite directions. But by taking the time to stop and check in with each other daily, you will only strengthen the connection that you already have.
2) Re-create the time when you fell in love.
Do you remember the moment when you thought, “He or she is the one!”? Or maybe there was a specific date night that always brings a smile to your face and a tickle to your tummy when you think about it?
Every now and then, it can be fun to try to re-create these scenarios and bring yourselves back to a time when a mere touch could feel electric. Make a point of setting aside at least ONE night a month when you do nothing but focus on each other and the activities you love doing together to re-ignite the spark.
3) Play hard to get.
The longer you are with your soulmate, the more likely you are to go straight to the main event when you have the time to be intimate. Every now and then, it can be fun to play hard to get though. Have an epic make out session, our make your morning goodbye kiss a little more memorable.
Be sure to let your partner know your plan though. Otherwise, he/she may feel like you are giving mixed signals and may feel rejected if your kiss goes no further.
4) Try something new.
Nothing brings two people closer together than sharing an experience – especially if that experience is terrifying and/or exhilarating. Add some spice to your date night by trying an activity that will get your heart pumping and your adrenaline flowing. Zip lining, a fun amusement park, or even trying out a new exotic restaurant will bring you closer together.
Planning a surprise for your partner can say so much about how you feel. Not only will your S.O. feel special because of the time and thoughtfulness you put into the surprise itself, but they will also see how much you care for them. Not to mention, by giving yourself and your time, you are showing your partner that you are making them your priority.
What about you, have YOU found your soulmate?
If you put these simple tips into action, you can move from thinking he or she is the one, to knowing they are by taking time to invest in your relationship.
It is easy to let your emotions take hold of your heart. But keep in mind that it is a conscious commitment to someone that makes your soulmate a once-in-a-lifetime relationship.