Negativity will spoil the relationship between friends in such a way that they will not want to be around, talk to, or even engage with one another. Negative friends can rob you of happiness, peace of mind, and the ability to progress towards your greatest potential.
Negativity amongst friends does NOT strengthen the friendship. On the contrary, it has the greatest potential to do more harm than good! Here are five core reasons why you should get rid of all of your negative friends – ASAP!
1) Negative friends are draining.
Have you ever thought negatively when you were around your negative friends? Have you ever tried to avoid conversations with them because they were too pessimistic?
I am sure the answers to these two questions are both an absolute YES! Oftentimes, negative people become draining because it takes a lot of time and effort to “deal” with what is going on in the negative person’s life.
You are caught up in the drama! You have to be present and available for someone who is zapping the energy out of your mind and your spirit. This brings you down in such a way that you become depleted. Remember: it is important to be around people who empower you and “pour into you”.
What is meant by a person ‘pouring into you’? These people have the ability to encourage you when you are down and allow you to see the light at the end of the tunnel. They also recognize that you can reach that light.
If you are the only one in the friendship that is doing this, then you become depleted. Your energy is sabotaged, your sanity may be affected, and your ‘wholeness’ can be compromised as well.
2) Negative friends do not have your best interest in mind.
In the grand scope of things, friendships are not created to bring you down.
Friendships are created to empower you and take you to your next level. Many motivational speakers inform their audiences to find people with the same mindset as you. This is because they will hold you accountable, they will build you up, they will empower you to be great, and they will do what is necessary to get you to your next level.
Negative friends have no regard for your best interest. They are sucking the energy out of you by “needing” your help, to such a point that they are not concerned about what you may be experiencing at the time.
They only have a desire to be heard. If you are the “listening ear” every time they have something going on in their life, if your friends are always speaking negatively, if they are always concerned about the detriment of others, then they do NOT have others or your best interest in mind.
The only concern for anything is for them and not anyone else. You definitely need to get rid of this type of person!
3) Negative friends do NOT want you to be successful.
Have you even heard the following questions/statements?
1) Are you sure you want to do that (doubt)?
2) I don’t think that’s a good idea (fear).
3) What about me (selfishness)?
If you have heard these questions and statements before, this has nothing to do with you and your success. That negative friend who is not encouraging you towards success, has no desire for you to be successful.
They will want to include themselves in YOUR plans. They seem to not understand that you are their friend and that they should be empowering you – NOT attempting to include themselves in your plans. It is important to note that friends who do not see themselves in your plans may become negative because they fear they are being left out.
With this in mind, they do not have a desire for you to be successful because YOUR success has nothing to do with them. The main fear of negative friends is that they will be “left behind”. If you have these kinds of people, who do not seem to want you to be successful, it is time for you to leave the friendship!
4) Misery loves company.
This is one of the most popular sayings ever heard and also one of the truest! Negative people want to be surrounded by other negative people.
There are two main reasons why you must NOT be around your negative friends when you are striving for success:
A) The misery that your friend is ‘putting out’ can rob you of your positivity. There can be times where the negativity can be so infectious to the point that you start doubting yourself and your abilities. With this in mind, if you have negative friends, they will actually encourage you to STOP pursuing your goals.
B) Your mind has to be open to instruction when you are geared towards success. When you are bombarded by a negative friend’s conversation, you begin to be closed, guarded, and the people who you need to trust will not be trusted. This is due to doubt. It is important to note that doubt happens across settings.
This means that if you have issues with trust because of the negative mindset of your friends, you will not trust people on the professional world who are there to help you to your next level.
You CANNOT compromise your goals for these negative friends who really want to see your failure. GET RID OF THEM!!!
5) Your potential to be great is at risk.
When you are on a path to success and you have a desire to be greater than what you are now, you must remember that negative friends can rob you of that chance!
Negativity is contagious. Negativity can take the place of the greatness that you are destined to have. Do not allow this! You have the right to be GREAT.
If anyone is conflicting with your positivity with their negative thoughts, actions, and personality, you should let them go. Negativity and positivity are like oil and water: It does not mix! You cannot be a positive person with negative friends. It just doesn’t work.
Your potential is at stake when you have surrounded yourself with negative people who are NOT actually concerned about your success. A negative person does not have the appropriate mindset for success. You need to align yourself with like-minded folks who can encourage and empower you to the level of success that you desire.
Be careful of the company you keep!
By engaging in conversations and activities with negative people, you are compromising the potential that you desire. Do NOT allow them to derail you from the path of success. It is important to be around people who will encourage you, as well as hold you accountable.
If you have friends who are always draining your energy with their negative behaviors, conversations, and actions, you MUST get rid of them ASAP. Your life, success, potential, and sanity are all at stake!