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7 Ways to Make Your Arguments Stronger

7 Ways to Make Your Arguments Stronger
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  1. Maria says:

    An interesting article…but is it really about winning an argument or remaining true to you self and the other person. If you follow these guidelines when engaging in an argument it’s like a business transaction each time and yes whilst you night win the argument. the long term you are really leading the flow and the opponent will at some time realise this. Thus in the longterm you have not really won but tricked your ego. I agree with stating the facts and not getting emotional in a professional setting. On a personal level though I think you need to show the other person how you feel because that is what makes us human and vulnerable.

  2. Ash says:

    You bring up some interesting points. Thank you for sharing your ideas here. I have my own thoughts I would like to share…

    “If you want to tell someone that what he did was wrong, don’t let him see how hurt or devastated you are.”

    I don’t agree with the idea of perceiving someone as “wrong.” The fact is, everyone has a reason for what they’er doing. If they did something that upset you it’s either because they think YOU are the bad guy. Their interpretation of your words and behavior have them feeling threatened and offended. Whether you meant it that way or not, you did something that put a thorn in their side. Don’t go thinking you’re “right” and they’re “wrong.” There’s clearly a misunderstanding on BOTH SIDES. So don’t go thinking you’re behavior is all well and justified while there’s is not. You ticked them off, and there’s a reason why. So find out.

    “Don’t interrupt. Act like you understand and agree with every word they say. That may take a while, but you’ll win their trust in this way.”

    Yes. I agree that it’s crucial for us to find common ground with people, but the message that seems to be being communicated here is “pretend you give a shit and pet their ego by acting like they’re right.” We obviously don’t want to escalate a heated situation, but being phony is no way to connect with people. People want people to REALLY give a shit. Thus, I think the answer is to find something in the other person’s argument that you can relate to.

    Ask this person questions about it and get to the root of what’s really going on. Once you understand what issue they’re hot about, then you can begin asking questions that dig down to what’s so “wrong” about it. Once you’ve got that down, you can ask questions about their own thoughts and behaviors which will point out fallacies and errors. In this way, you can “win” the argument, but I think that need dies at this point because now it’s about connecting with someone and bringing ideas together.

    If you care about winning, you’ll step on whoever you need to so that you get what you want. If you care about understanding people and addressing the actual issue at hand… Well, then you’ll actually have something good to contribute to this crazy fucking world. We could use some good here, so please consider it.

    Thanks for the opportunity to “argue.” 😉

    1. an exchange of diverging or opposite views.
    2. a reason or set of reasons given with the aim of persuading others that an action or idea is right or wrong.

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