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10 Ways To Add More Courage To Your Life



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Courage is strength in the face of pain or grief. It’s doing something that frightens you.


We face situations of courage most days. Those situations provide us with choices and the way we respond to those choices determines our future.


You probably know someone that appears very strong. They’re able to make courageous decisions even if those decisions may seem insignificant to others.


Do you feel that you’re a courageous person?


You don’t need to be a hero that goes boldly into war, but you can make changes in your life to make your situation better in the future.

Courage Is Best Done Daily

Before we get into the ways you can add more courage into your daily life it’s important to note that courage is not something you do once in awhile. There are times when you need to be courageous in an important moment, but the real change will come from the things you do everyday.


The change you need to make happens everyday. You can do something once and it maybe feel good, but unless you commit to doing that same thing and other things everyday then you won’t see the change that you really want in your life.


Let’s get into some ways you can be more courageous starting now.

1. Stop Dreaming, Make A Plan

You probably have something that you want to accomplish with your life. Maybe you want to start a business. Maybe you want to go on more trips around the world. It’s pleasurable to have those dreams and it’s okay.


But if you really want those things to come to fruition you need a plan. If you don’t make a plan for the things you want to accomplish and do in your life then those things will continue to be dreams. Over time, you’ll start to feel resentful as a result of your dreams not coming true. You may fall into the trap of blaming circumstances in your life.


Making a plan is not as fun as having a dream. But the real reward in life is realizing the dreams that are most important to you, creating a plan, putting in the work everyday and making your dreams reality.

2. Stop Doing What You Hate

It’s easy to complain. When things in our life aren’t go the way we want it seems to be a natural reaction to find someone that will listen to us complain. It makes us feel better at least in the short-term.


You can go on living life this way if that description fits you, but deep down you probably want to make a change. Taking action on something that you hate is courageous. It may not seem like it, but it is. It’s courageous to do something that frightens you and in a lot of situations we’re afraid to change things because we aren’t sure what the alternative is.


Let’s say you hate your job. You can complain. You can find excuses to convince yourself that you can’t leave, but be courageous and find an opportunity and a plan to leave.

3. Turn A Big Obstacle Into A Small Obstacle

Let’s say you just started a new business. You’re off and running, but you’re not getting the sales that you want each day. You know that you should be making cold calls to grow the business, but cold calling seems like a big obstacle. And it is a big obstacle when you look at it from the viewpoint of needing to make many calls each day and each week.


Take a step back and turn the obstacle into a small one. Instead of thinking about all the calls you need to make simply step back and focus on the one call you need to make first. It may not go well. It’s your first time, but after that first one is done then focus on the next one.


Making hundreds of calls is a big obstacle. Making one call is not so bad.


Turn your big obstacle into a small obstacle.

4. Do Something That Others Scoff At

You know what your situation is. Others can see a few of the things going on with your life on the surface, but they don’t really know the whole story. You have to be comfortable doing things that you know are right, but that others may scoff at.


Let’s say that you drive an old used car. You know that you have other expenses. You know that life is just fine with that old used car. It gets you where you need to go and you can use the money you save on other, more important things.


Some may scoff at you driving around in that old car, but you know that it’s the best thing for your situation.

5. Turn A Big Problem Into A Small Problem

This one looks like #3 on the list, but what I mean by this is that most of the problems in our lives are not as big as we make them out to be. I think we have a tendency to make problems seem bigger so it gives our lives more significance.


I’m not saying that a problem can’t be a big problem. But if you put the problem you’re having into a different perspective you may realize that it’s not really a big problem and is really just a small problem.


For example, you lose your biggest client. That can seem like a big problem. But you’re still breathing. The sun is going to come up tomorrow. Get back to work and find a new client or two new clients. Keep moving forward and don’t dwell on something that really isn’t a big problem.

6. Let Go Of What You Can’t Control

This is a big one. I think it takes courage to live life this way. It’s really easy to hope for others to change so your situation can improve. It’s easy to wish that the universe would give you a break and if only that would happen then you could be happy.


But you’re responsible for your own life. Most situations present a choice to wish that the other person would change, but you have to look at every situation by what you can control.


Maybe your boss has been giving you unnecessary criticism. It would be easy to sit back and think that it’s the boss that needs to change. But you can’t control that. You can control how you react when your boss is around. And you can react by perhaps leaving that job. It’s about what you control.

7. Let Go Of People Holding You Back

This is a tricky one. I think it’s courageous to be there for people that need you. The difficult thing, however, is being able to tell if someone wants you to be there for them. If that’s the case then be courageous and be there for them, but if the person isn’t ready to accept help and they’re holding you back then it’s courageous to move on from them.


This kind of builds on the previous point. Someone may be holding you back in some way, but to some degree you’re also letting them do it. Maybe it’s a client that never seems pleased with the work you’re doing. You’re spending too much time trying to please them and it’s never working. At some point you have to realize that you’re better off walking away.

8. Blow Up Your Daily Routine

Not happy with your life? It might be time to blow up your daily routine.


If you’re not happy then it’s time for some spring cleaning and that means getting rid of things. Cleaning your life is not about rearranging the things you’re already doing. It’s about scrapping everything and starting over from scratch.


This means everything you do during the day. You work. Your morning habits. The food you eat. The drinks you drink. The way you interact with people. Blow it all up and start from scratch by adding the things that really matter to you to your daily schedule.

9. Respond With Kindness

This one is a challenge. Some people just seem to feed off getting a reaction from others. They’ll berate you, insult you and make you feel enraged. The natural reaction is to respond in kind, but that never accomplishes anything. It only feeds the fire on both sides and only negative things happen.


When things get negative and nasty it’s always best to take a breath and respond in the kindest way possible. The other person might continue to respond negatively, but remain calm and kind and look for a way to find a resolution.

10. Send A Note To Someone

We’ll end with one that can change your life and it really doesn’t take too much work.


I’m a golf fan and two of the greatest golfers of all time send regular notes to people.


Arnold Palmer continues to send congratulations letters to every winner in the pro golf world. I think he may even do it for the big amateur events.


Gary Player congratulates all the pro winners each week on Twitter.


It’s a simple gesture, but if you get in the habit of sending a note to someone everyday it can really make a lot of people feel good. And it will make you feel good too.


You can congratulate someone. You can just tell them hello and ask how they’re doing. You can share a funny story. Just send a quick little note to someone. It’s a little step, but it can be frightening and that’s why it courageous to do it.

Final Thought

It’s easy to recognize courage in big situations. But most of the time it’s the little situations in our life that require courage. If we’re able to make changes to our daily lives it can have a big impact and that is the real courage that most of us can benefit from. Try one or two or a few of the things in the list above. If you’re looking to add more courage to your life you don’t have to do it in big ways. It’s the little things that can lead to the change you’re looking for.

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Can You Receive A Compliment Without It Getting To Your Head?



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Receiving compliments gracefully isn’t as easy as it should be for some people. How about you: are YOU ready for someone to give you a pat on the back? To be pushed to doing more? To have someone give you a supporting hand? To be picked up when you fall down?

Sure, we may think that’s what we want. But is it what we need to develop, to grow, and to get better?

If someone complimented you on every little improvement you made while learning a new skill, would you not start to feel a bit marginalized? That perhaps they didn’t really think you could do it? What about when you do something that seems pretty easy and everyone made it into a big deal?


Receiving Compliments When You Are Not Ready For It

Why You Are Not Receiving Compliments

Developing new skills is never free of trouble. We all know the level of foundation that must be built to get from being a novice, before reaching greatness. In the learning process, we all know when we are in that frustrating stage of not being quite as good – but we know what we have to do to get there.

It’s in these moments that receiving compliments on your every action could minimize your efforts. That’s because if they truly knew you, people would be holding out for when you make that big, defining leap. 

As we overcome hurdles in our learning and development, friends, family members, and colleagues will know when the time is right to provide encouragement. They know that when that moment comes, those words will have the right amount of impact on you.

Think back to when you were growing up, playing some elaborate game. Perhaps you spent hours creating this game: building a fort, putting together things that the rest of your characters in the play could use. You pushed through despite the trials and problems.

It would have served absolutely no purpose for someone to congratulate you on every step (and misstep) along the way.  You would have lost your flow as you worked through the problem, constantly being interrupted – all while you were still trying to figure it out and understand where you needed to go.

Why You Are Not Receiving Compliments


When Receiving Compliments Makes You Content with Present Achievements

You might never have finished if someone patted you on the back early in that moment, content in the knowledge that you “thought up” the idea and that was enough. If everyone was saying you did great simply for thinking up something new, would it have compelled you to stop?

Maybe. Perhaps you would have stopped with that compliment.

As a parent, you learn when to encourage your children. Usually, it’s not when they show up, and not when they do what kids around them are able to do as well. It’s when they push themselves to do more. When they pick themselves up and still lose, when they try something new for the first time, fall over and fail, not sure if they should do it again.

Those are the moments when kids should be receiving compliments – NOT when they have done the same thing over and over again, or when they didn’t try their best but won anyways.

Kids know this. They can feel it when people give false compliments or encouragement because they did something they’ve always done. But when it is something meaningful, something they have worked hard for, they know the encouragement will be there to help them.

Why You Are Not Receiving Compliments

The reason you might not be receiving compliments or encouragement when you want to is because you haven’t earned them or don’t deserve them yet.

Maybe your coaches, leaders, parents, or other people who support you know you are not ready for it. Perhaps they need to see you making that next big leap in your growth and development.

Those compliments might not come today, tomorrow, next week, next month, or next year. But look at those around you – the great people you have chosen to surround yourself with – and you’ll see that they are waiting to give you that push. They are waiting for you to make it happen.

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3 Ways to Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart




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I truly believe that dreams must extend beyond wishes of self-improvement; that its goal should be to contribute to the world around you.

The heart is a fickle thing. Imagine how many amazing things wouldn’t have been accomplished if great minds simply stopped when they “didn’t feel like it”.

It’s human nature. I’m sure that during the course of over 300 bank rejections, Walt Disney had days when he felt like giving up. But he didn’t. He kept going. Why? It was because his dream went far beyond himself.

Here’s how YOU can keep going – even if it feels like your dreams are falling apart.


3 Ways to Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart

1.) Remember The “Why”

Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart

Often times, I find that dreams extend far beyond the simple purpose of making one happy. For example, being a songwriter in and of itself does not make me feel happy and fulfilled. Imagine if my life’s work was to write songs that no one would ever hear. That doesn’t elicit any feelings of happiness or fulfillment (at least to me).

Seeing and hearing the healing effects that come from the songs I create for others to hear? Now you’re talking. Healing and helping others is the part of my dream that keeps it alive. It gives me purpose in this world that goes far beyond myself and my skills.

I’m reminded of the character Ebenezer Scrooge from Dickens’ “A Christmas Carol”. Scrooge’s goal in life was to have money – and lots of it. He set aside love and relationships for that dream. The result of this life goal was a lonely, cold, bitter old man.

I won’t ruin the whole story for the very few of you that may not have heard it. In the end, Scrooge discovered that what brought him fulfillment and happiness were community and generosity.

So what is the “why” to your dream? How is your dream going to affect those around you? Get beyond yourself. As many have said, YOU are your biggest obstacle to success.


2.) Take Off The Rose-Colored Glasses

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You know what I’m talking about. The “I’m going to make it big” and “I’m going to famous/rich/etc.” I hate to take a pointy realistic needle to your big ideas, but I’m doing it out of love. Here it is:

Your dream isn’t going to look exactly how you pictured it.

Take a minute to take that one in. Still here? Yes. Alive? Yes. Not Bleeding? No? Hurt a bit?

It’s OK. I know. I’ve been there. Dreams are vulnerable. We spend countless hours imagining what it would be like and how we will get there. But the truth is, in my experience, they have never turned out exactly how I have imagined. Why? We live in a world of people and circumstances that we can’t control.

Here is where the “why” comes in. The beautiful thing is that your works are a direct result of your heart’s intention…and what you put out into the world never comes back void. Here’s an example:

As a singer-songwriter, the common idea of making it big for my line of work is to have a hit song or perform in front of a sold-out crowd at Madison Square Garden (I’m more inclined towards Red Rock Amphitheatre, but you get the picture).

Let’s say that I work and strive tirelessly to do everything I need to do to reach that goal. I release a song, I tour around the US, develop a large following, get on the radio, etc. Along the way, I hear stories of how this song has impacted the people who have heard it. Stories describing how it brought healing, encouragement, and hope.

To go further, what if I never even make it that far? What if circumstances happen and I can’t tour? What if everything “falls apart”? What if I end up playing at open mics for the rest of my life? What if it doesn’t happen in the next year? Two years?

Does that change the fact that my song helped heal and open the heart of a broken and depressed Vietnam Vet? Or how it helped encourage an author to keep going and writing? Or how my song started a conversation on how to look past the labels overshadowing soldiers and their families?

It’s all about your perspective of success, my friend. To me, because my “why” and my heart’s intention are to help people, those stories above are my version of success. It’s what keeps me going. If I get to Madison Square Garden (or Red Rocks), well that’s just icing on top of the cake.

Keep going on your dream. Make a plan, and in the words of .38 Special, “Hold on loosely, but don’t let go.” Roll with the punches and understand that even greater things can come when things don’t go according to your plan.


3.) Make Your Dream Your Job

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No, I don’t mean quit your job and have no income while you work on your dream. That’s an entirely different article (and completely up to you). I’m talking about treating your dream like it is your job.

For example, if you completely failed at a presentation at work, would you just quit and not go the next day? No! You have a livelihood and an expectation to show up. So why quit on your dream at the first sign of failure?

Treat your dream like your job. Make a plan, show up every day, and understand that it may take a while to see any results. I know many songwriters who wrote hundreds of songs before they wrote a hit. However, they never would have reached it if they didn’t take that first step, made a commitment, and wrote 100 songs first.

Dreams don’t just happen. They take work. So go get started!

My best advice under this theme is check out the book “The War of Art” by Steven Pressfield. It is by far the best resource I have discovered in my journey of living out my dream.

Here’s the deal. With every goal that I have set and achieved, I never sat at the end and thought to myself, “man, look at what I did”. Believe it or not, I was more overwhelmed with the thoughts of the journey that I had to take to get there – the good and the bad.

I would admire and laugh at the unexpected things that came. I would smile and enjoy the character it built, the person that I became in the process. In the end, the best thing about dreams and goals isn’t their achievement, but the journey that you take to get there.

Never forget that the dream in your heart was put there for a reason. You were made to make an impact on this world.

Enjoy the journey and never, ever give up. Keep going.

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