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10 Negative Body Language Signals To Avoid



Negative Body Language Signals To Avoid

Whether you realize it or not, your posture, movement, and gestures all have a major influence on the way people see and react to you and your ideas…


…whether that be positively or negatively.


A person’s body language signals to the world (mostly on an unconscious level) if they’re a leader or a follower, confident or nervous, focused or distracted, and a whole lot more.


So if you have a to advance in your career, improve your love life, or gain a wider social circle, what your body language is signaling to those around you is an influencing factor to achieving what you want.


So for the sake of your success, take a moment and do a quick check-in to see if you’re guilty of these 10 negative body language signals that can kill conversations, sabotage rapport and drive people crazy.

Negative Body Language Signals To Avoid

1) Avoiding Eye Contact


Avoiding eye contact is a big one. When talking to another person, you don’t want your eyes down on the floor or darting around the room.


This might signal to people that you’re not confident in yourself or what you’re saying, which makes them less likely to believe it. It might show that you’re even nervous or intimidated. Maybe even bored about what they’re saying too.


When talking to someone, make sure you maintain some sort of eye contact. Make it natural, not a creepy deadpan stare of course!

2) Forced Smiling


Next is the forced smile.


A forced smile refers to a smile that is obviously, well, forced. The person faking a grin is usually pretty easy to spot. And it can come of as pretty disingenuous.


It’s important that your smiles, and any other forms of emotional response, come out naturally as a person’s unconscious mind is really difficult to fool.


Even if consciously, a person was glad that you gave them a big grin, if you didn’t mean it their unconscious will likely register that something fishy was up.


3) Touching Your Face


There are plenty of examples for this one, from propping your head up with your hands to rubbing your forehead.


There are very few situations where touching your face when talking to someone else is a positive.


Depending on what exactly you’re doing, it can make you look nervous, dishonest, disinterested, or distracted.

4) Crossing Your Arms


Crossing your arms is one example that’s not entirely negative. It can actually give the appearance of strength in some situations.


But there are plenty of others where folded arms communicate something less-than-positive.


It can make you seem impatient. Think about your mother crossing her arms in response to your latest bout of mischief. It’s defensive, as you use your arms to put space between you and the other person. And can also come across a little arrogant.


5) Covering The Sensitive Parts Of Your Body


This one goes deep into our subconscious and evolutionary past.


We use our hands (or other objects) to cover places on our bodies like our stomach or genitals when we’re nervous or intimidated. We see the other person as a threat so we cover up the places on our bodies that are the most vulnerable to injury.


This type of posture can also make your body look smaller and weaker. Which could hint at the fact that you’re nervous or not confident. Avoid it.


6) Shutting People Out


It should be pretty obvious that turning your back to someone isn’t a good conversation starter. But there are many other ways that we shut people out of conversations – sometimes without even realizing it.


If you want to show someone you’re listening, make sure that your body language is open to them and not cutting them off. This means facing them with your entire body – legs included.


7) Narrowing Your Eyes


If you want to stare a hole in someone, narrowing your eyes is the way to go. But if you’re trying to have a good and positive interaction, it’s probably not a good idea.


Narrowing the eyes is subconsciously connected with anger, since it’s most people’s (and animal’s) natural reaction when they get fired up.


Yet some people have the habit of narrowing their eyes when they’re thinking. If you don’t know the person you’re talking to very well, they may get the wrong impression and think you’re skeptical of or dislike what they’re saying.


8) Repetitive Movement


Many people have certain physical habits or ticks for when they’re nervous, stressed, or just bored.


This could be tapping your finger or foot, biting your fingernails, shifting your weight back and forth, or fidgeting with your clothes. None of these communicate good things to the person you’re speaking to.


This could have others seeing you as distracted, nervous, compulsive, or they may even find your fidgeting annoying. So it’s a good idea to stop with all the twitchy movements. It may be tough to stop them immediately and all at once, but you’ll get the hang of it.


Note: This doesn’t apply to “talking with your hands”, which can actually make you more charismatic.


9) Playing With Objects


There’s no quicker way to subconsciously tell someone “I am not paying attention to you” than to sit there fiddling with your smartphone through your entire conversation.


But this habit of messing with things predates cell phones by centuries. It could be a pen, a piece of paper, or a chewing gum wrapper.


Whatever it is, just put it down slowly and step calmly away.


10) Slumping And Slouching


You’d be amazed at how good posture can improve the way people see you. It’ll make you seem more confident, attractive, and in control.


This means standing and walking with your back straight, shoulders pulled back, and chin up. But don’t overdo it. If you puff up your chest and walk around like you own the place, certain people might get the wrong idea – like your boss!


Your Words Matter Too


Eliminating these negative body language habits will help you make the right impression on whomever you happen to come into contact with.


But you’ll only get so far just standing there. If you really want to be successful and influential in your interactions with everyone from your boss to your date, it’s important to learn how your language influences others too.


You can learn more about using your language to ethically influence people here.

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3 small steps that could make the biggest impact on your life



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“The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.”Lao Tzu

Every day that passes by, there is someone who is living a life that does not fuel their passion or purpose. Each moment feels like they are just existing or living life by accident. This could be due to fear of change, or limiting beliefs within them that say “you’re not worthy” or “I don’t deserve to be successful”.

It could be a number of things. Believe it or not, I used to be this person. I was stuck in a 9-5 job, in a 7-year relationship that was emotionally draining, and I was 75 lbs. overweight.

Then came that ONE day that would forever change my life. I remember it as if it were yesterday. I looked at myself in the mirror and saw what I had become. I didn’t recognize myself. I immediately burst into tears. This was NOT the life I wanted to live. I had neglected the most important person in my world: ME. 

It was then that I had to make an important choice. I decided to take the first step towards creating the life I would often dream about. That very next day, I promised myself that I would do just one thing that made me feel more connected to the goals I wanted to accomplish.

Not two or three. Just one. It didn’t matter how small it was. The point was it was a small step in the RIGHT direction. This has led me to the level of success that I am at today.

Here are three small steps that will help you make that same important decision and transform your life.


3 Small Steps That Could Make a Big Impact In Your Life

1.) Have a heart to heart with yourself.

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Take time to get away from people, places, or things, and just spend some time with yourself. In order to truly make any step towards the success you desire, you must have a great sense of self-awareness.

What is it that you want to accomplish and why? What truly makes you happy? What are you passionate about? How will accomplishing this change your life? How would it make you feel?

Be completely honest with yourself, your thoughts, and your intentions. Having these questions in front of you will keep you from going around in circles. They will give you more clarity and vision that should help you determine which small steps you need to take.

As a result, instead of being frustrated or reluctant to leave your comfort zone, you will be more confident now that you have a plan in place.


2.) Do ONE thing everyday that is connected to your goals.

small steps in the right direction

Always remember that you don’t have to always make massive amounts of progress at one time. The important thing is that you are continuously moving in the right direction. After all, Rome wasn’t built in a day. It took consistent daily, focused action. Over time, it became one of the most celebrated cities on the planet.

We live in a world that is bombarded with messages of instant gratification. But the truth is, any level of success is the result of a daily routine of the right things done for a certain period of time. That time can vary from days, weeks, months, or even years.

However, throughout the journey, you can see that you are moving closer and closer towards your ultimate goals. Do not underestimate the power of small steps. You will find yourself accomplishing things you never thought possible (and sooner than you anticipated).


3.) Do not measure your level of success by comparing yourself to others.

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Success means something different for everyone. You must not become fixated on what media or entertainment portrays as successful. A fulfilling life is more than material possessions. Understand that you can only live the greatest life possible when you have defined what success is to you.

As you begin taking small steps and making progress, focus only on what your desired goals are. Don’t allow yourself to be distracted by what others are saying, doing, or what they believe success should look like. Too often, we get caught up in what society, current trends, and what the masses portray as “I’ve made it”.

This is your life. Only YOU can determine what accomplishment, achievement, and true success means to you. In fact, one of the reasons why you may be in the position you are in is because you designed your life based on the thoughts and opinions of others. This was my case years ago.



You deserve to be great. You have greatness within you. Sometimes, that can be clouded by limiting beliefs, adversity, or just the many circumstances in life. Think about everything that has happened in your life right up until the point you are reading this article.

I want you to know that everything that happened before NO LONGER MATTERS. What matters now is that today, you have the knowledge of who you are and where you want to go. The ability to change your life is within your grasp and your power.

Today, you have the chance to begin a journey that leads to some amazing and incredible years ahead. The best part about it is that you only need to take small steps in the right direction. So take action now – your dreams are waiting for you!

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Couple Entrepreneurs: How to Make It Happen With Your Partner



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Have you always dreamed of having success as an entrepreneur? Thoughts of working for yourself, doing things you’re passionate about, and not worrying about working for someone else may linger in your mind most of the time. If you’re married, there is a chance that your partner has some of the same goals, and that means the two of you could eventually become a pair of successful entrepreneurs who motivate one another, continually work hard, and reach all kinds of goals that will get you both further in life.


How to Make It Work


Although you may like the idea of becoming a successful entrepreneur while your partner does the same, it’s not uncommon to have some concerns about the situation. You may worry that you’re both going to take on too much and not have enough time for one another, but that isn’t always the case. It’s all about prioritizing work, setting a schedule, and being there to support one another through the ups and downs that will eventually occur.


Before working together to achieve goals, sit down and have a full conversation about the goals you’d like to achieve and the role you’ll each take on. Both of you will need to come to an agreement to keep work and the relationship separately while being respectful to one another. You can’t expect to have success with your partner if neither of you are respecting one another or collectively sharing ideas. You’ll need to focus on communication and compromising at times to make things work on a long-term basis.


Prime Examples of Successful Entrepreneur Couples


If you’re in need of motivation and encouragement because you’re not sure how to get your start in a specific industry with your partner, it may be best for you to learn a bit more about some of the successful entrepreneur couples out there. These couples work hard to achieve their goals and they support one another in various business ventures. They put forth the effort that is required of them to consistently achieve their goals.


Chris Sacca is a successful billionaire who once was fired from a job as a lawyer and then moved on to Google where had more opportunities to learn, invest, and become the success he is today. He is now the owner of a successful venture capital fund, known as Lowercase Capital. Although he’s had much success in his career, Chris Sacca’s wife, Crystal English Sacca, is a successful entrepreneur in her own right. She’s spent most of her career creating compelling and engaging commercials as well as digital advertisements for various companies. She’s worked for several of the most popular brands, including Sprint and HBO. In addition to these accomplishments, she works as an art director. While these two individuals aren’t doing the same things, they’re a married couple supporting one another while they each work hard to achieve their own personal goals.


In addition to Chris Sacca and his wife, Stewart and Lynda Resnick are another good example of a successful entrepreneur power couple. They currently have a net worth of 3.9 billion dollars. So, what is it that they’re selling? There is a good chance you’ve consumed at least one of the many products they own and distribute, such as Fiji Water or Halos oranges. The pair met when Lynda started her own ad agency and was assisting Stewart with a project for the business he was running at that time. Over time, they started working collectively together to invest and sell assorted products to the public, many of which are naturally good for human consumption.


Do What You Love and Respect One Another


There are plenty of entrepreneur couples out there. Some are just getting started while others have been in business for decades and continue to achieve a high level of success. Although you may be focused on figuring out your passion and what you want to do to get further in life while making a decent income, it’s important to understand that it’s possible for you to achieve the same level of success as some of these people who are earning millions of dollars each year. Most people don’t become a success overnight but figuring out what you want to do and how you’re going to make it happen is a great way to get started.


In addition to figuring out what you’d love to do for the rest of your life, you’ll need to remember to always respect your partner throughout the process. The thing about these successful couples is that they’re willing to provide support and guidance, they know how to communicate, and they believe in one another. If you don’t have respect, trust, and support in the relationship, it’s going to be difficult to have success as entrepreneurs together.


If you’ve always dreamed of running your own business with your partner by your side, it’s not a dream that is too farfetched. In fact, there are lots of successful couples that are working hard, reaching goals, and living the life they’ve always dreamed of having.

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