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Why you should talk to yourself every day



Why you should talk to yourself every day

I have always been an observer who often ponders the things I see and hear.   And as I ponder I have been known to talk it out with myself, in the mirror, in the car, as I stroll through the supermarket etc.  As a result, talking to myself has become second nature – quite matter of fact.   It’s just something that I do.   So, I am sometimes taken aback when others notice me talking to myself and look at me with worry and concern.  I want to tell them, “Look, it is okay to talk to yourself every day and here is why.”  This is why I thought I would write it down and share it with anyone willing to read it (hopefully out loud).

Why you should talk to yourself every  day

There are several key reasons why I talk to myself everyday and recommend that everyone feel comfortable to do the same:


  • It’s therapeutic
  • To provide self-motivation
  • To analyze a problem and make the best decision
  • Jog your memory, make a deposit to your memory and regain your focus


It’s Therapeutic

There are times when life can overwhelm you.  You have too much to do in too little time.  Everyone wants something from you.   And, when you realize that you cannot handle all the weight you are being asked to bear, it can lead to stress, anxiety, or even fear.   You may explode and take some drastic action that is irreversible.   Or you may recede inside our mind leading to a slow and deliberate implosion – losing your will to thrive and achieve.  But, instead of falling into that downward cycle, try talking it out with your inner-self.  Have a candid and honest conversation with yourself.   This will allow you to get it off your chest while working though all aspects of the things that concern you.  Look in the mirror, talk to that beautiful person you see, smile and calmly exchange thoughts as you work together with your inner being to dissect the issues at hand.  Put them in perspective, consider your personal needs and limitation as you prioritize, and gain relief by taking the weight of each off your shoulders.


To provide self-motivation

The lyrics of a well-known inspirational song say, “Sometimes you have to encourage yourself…”    That is absolutely true.   We all need motivation and encouragement as we strive to succeed and or simply just live day to day to maintain our existence.   But, there are days when you don’t hear or feel supported by others.  These are times when you have to vocally encourage yourself.   Speak loudly to yourself, reminding your inner being of your talents, strengths, interests, dreams and desires.   Read or speak an inspirational piece out loud (sometimes you need to actually hear the words and not just see them on the page).  It’s like becoming your own motivational speaker.  Think of how excited and inspired you get after listening to an inspirational speaker or hear a motivating song.  Well, do the same just for your ears only!  You will find it truly refreshing and invigorating.


To analyze a problem and make the best decision

In this complex society in which we live, we are often faced with the need to make important choices or difficult decisions.   While it is fine to consult others and seek out resources and information for guidance, in the end you have to make the decision and doing so will likely mean sorting through all the data and opinions you gathered.  While writing them down is necessary and helpful; just as necessary is the act of talking it out or talking it over with yourself.  From my own experience, I think you will find that speaking the choices and the possible gains or losses of each out loud helps to give clarity that cannot be gained from simply silently pondering what is on a piece of paper.  The sound that comes with each bit of information helps to open your mind’s eye and once your mind is clear and focused you are equipped to make the best decision for your personal circumstance.


Jog your memory, make a deposit to your memory and regain your focus

It may be the pace of life or it maybe just my age of life, but often I find myself misplacing things.  And, when I do, talking to myself has been a big help finding them.  Just verbally run through steps you took or places you were when you last saw the missing item.  Trace your steps with spoken word and more often than not you will find that trail leads you to your lost and found.   Also, in the age of a password for everything; speaking the password and the keysto it out loud can act as a deposit to your memory bank.  So, when you need to sign-in or on and don’t readily remember that password, speak to yourself and recall from your memory bank the required codes. Then there are the times, when you can’t seem to concentrate, your mind is wandering and you can’t seem to get anything done.  Getting a hold of yourself is as simple as a self-chatTake a deep breath then speak calm to yourself.  Next, speak one idea or one thought at a time and you can slowly rein your mind back into control and focus.  Before you know it your attention will be tuned to the required channel and all static will dissipate.


Now that you have finished reading this out loud give it a try.  Talk to yourself. See what great benefits your mind can reap from this simple activity!    Go ahead, don’t be embarrassed enjoy your self-chat.

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3 small steps that could make the biggest impact on your life



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“The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.”Lao Tzu

Every day that passes by, there is someone who is living a life that does not fuel their passion or purpose. Each moment feels like they are just existing or living life by accident. This could be due to fear of change, or limiting beliefs within them that say “you’re not worthy” or “I don’t deserve to be successful”.

It could be a number of things. Believe it or not, I used to be this person. I was stuck in a 9-5 job, in a 7-year relationship that was emotionally draining, and I was 75 lbs. overweight.

Then came that ONE day that would forever change my life. I remember it as if it were yesterday. I looked at myself in the mirror and saw what I had become. I didn’t recognize myself. I immediately burst into tears. This was NOT the life I wanted to live. I had neglected the most important person in my world: ME. 

It was then that I had to make an important choice. I decided to take the first step towards creating the life I would often dream about. That very next day, I promised myself that I would do just one thing that made me feel more connected to the goals I wanted to accomplish.

Not two or three. Just one. It didn’t matter how small it was. The point was it was a small step in the RIGHT direction. This has led me to the level of success that I am at today.

Here are three small steps that will help you make that same important decision and transform your life.


3 Small Steps That Could Make a Big Impact In Your Life

1.) Have a heart to heart with yourself.

small steps in the right direction

Take time to get away from people, places, or things, and just spend some time with yourself. In order to truly make any step towards the success you desire, you must have a great sense of self-awareness.

What is it that you want to accomplish and why? What truly makes you happy? What are you passionate about? How will accomplishing this change your life? How would it make you feel?

Be completely honest with yourself, your thoughts, and your intentions. Having these questions in front of you will keep you from going around in circles. They will give you more clarity and vision that should help you determine which small steps you need to take.

As a result, instead of being frustrated or reluctant to leave your comfort zone, you will be more confident now that you have a plan in place.


2.) Do ONE thing everyday that is connected to your goals.

small steps in the right direction

Always remember that you don’t have to always make massive amounts of progress at one time. The important thing is that you are continuously moving in the right direction. After all, Rome wasn’t built in a day. It took consistent daily, focused action. Over time, it became one of the most celebrated cities on the planet.

We live in a world that is bombarded with messages of instant gratification. But the truth is, any level of success is the result of a daily routine of the right things done for a certain period of time. That time can vary from days, weeks, months, or even years.

However, throughout the journey, you can see that you are moving closer and closer towards your ultimate goals. Do not underestimate the power of small steps. You will find yourself accomplishing things you never thought possible (and sooner than you anticipated).


3.) Do not measure your level of success by comparing yourself to others.

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Success means something different for everyone. You must not become fixated on what media or entertainment portrays as successful. A fulfilling life is more than material possessions. Understand that you can only live the greatest life possible when you have defined what success is to you.

As you begin taking small steps and making progress, focus only on what your desired goals are. Don’t allow yourself to be distracted by what others are saying, doing, or what they believe success should look like. Too often, we get caught up in what society, current trends, and what the masses portray as “I’ve made it”.

This is your life. Only YOU can determine what accomplishment, achievement, and true success means to you. In fact, one of the reasons why you may be in the position you are in is because you designed your life based on the thoughts and opinions of others. This was my case years ago.



You deserve to be great. You have greatness within you. Sometimes, that can be clouded by limiting beliefs, adversity, or just the many circumstances in life. Think about everything that has happened in your life right up until the point you are reading this article.

I want you to know that everything that happened before NO LONGER MATTERS. What matters now is that today, you have the knowledge of who you are and where you want to go. The ability to change your life is within your grasp and your power.

Today, you have the chance to begin a journey that leads to some amazing and incredible years ahead. The best part about it is that you only need to take small steps in the right direction. So take action now – your dreams are waiting for you!

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Couple Entrepreneurs: How to Make It Happen With Your Partner



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Have you always dreamed of having success as an entrepreneur? Thoughts of working for yourself, doing things you’re passionate about, and not worrying about working for someone else may linger in your mind most of the time. If you’re married, there is a chance that your partner has some of the same goals, and that means the two of you could eventually become a pair of successful entrepreneurs who motivate one another, continually work hard, and reach all kinds of goals that will get you both further in life.


How to Make It Work


Although you may like the idea of becoming a successful entrepreneur while your partner does the same, it’s not uncommon to have some concerns about the situation. You may worry that you’re both going to take on too much and not have enough time for one another, but that isn’t always the case. It’s all about prioritizing work, setting a schedule, and being there to support one another through the ups and downs that will eventually occur.


Before working together to achieve goals, sit down and have a full conversation about the goals you’d like to achieve and the role you’ll each take on. Both of you will need to come to an agreement to keep work and the relationship separately while being respectful to one another. You can’t expect to have success with your partner if neither of you are respecting one another or collectively sharing ideas. You’ll need to focus on communication and compromising at times to make things work on a long-term basis.


Prime Examples of Successful Entrepreneur Couples


If you’re in need of motivation and encouragement because you’re not sure how to get your start in a specific industry with your partner, it may be best for you to learn a bit more about some of the successful entrepreneur couples out there. These couples work hard to achieve their goals and they support one another in various business ventures. They put forth the effort that is required of them to consistently achieve their goals.


Chris Sacca is a successful billionaire who once was fired from a job as a lawyer and then moved on to Google where had more opportunities to learn, invest, and become the success he is today. He is now the owner of a successful venture capital fund, known as Lowercase Capital. Although he’s had much success in his career, Chris Sacca’s wife, Crystal English Sacca, is a successful entrepreneur in her own right. She’s spent most of her career creating compelling and engaging commercials as well as digital advertisements for various companies. She’s worked for several of the most popular brands, including Sprint and HBO. In addition to these accomplishments, she works as an art director. While these two individuals aren’t doing the same things, they’re a married couple supporting one another while they each work hard to achieve their own personal goals.


In addition to Chris Sacca and his wife, Stewart and Lynda Resnick are another good example of a successful entrepreneur power couple. They currently have a net worth of 3.9 billion dollars. So, what is it that they’re selling? There is a good chance you’ve consumed at least one of the many products they own and distribute, such as Fiji Water or Halos oranges. The pair met when Lynda started her own ad agency and was assisting Stewart with a project for the business he was running at that time. Over time, they started working collectively together to invest and sell assorted products to the public, many of which are naturally good for human consumption.


Do What You Love and Respect One Another


There are plenty of entrepreneur couples out there. Some are just getting started while others have been in business for decades and continue to achieve a high level of success. Although you may be focused on figuring out your passion and what you want to do to get further in life while making a decent income, it’s important to understand that it’s possible for you to achieve the same level of success as some of these people who are earning millions of dollars each year. Most people don’t become a success overnight but figuring out what you want to do and how you’re going to make it happen is a great way to get started.


In addition to figuring out what you’d love to do for the rest of your life, you’ll need to remember to always respect your partner throughout the process. The thing about these successful couples is that they’re willing to provide support and guidance, they know how to communicate, and they believe in one another. If you don’t have respect, trust, and support in the relationship, it’s going to be difficult to have success as entrepreneurs together.


If you’ve always dreamed of running your own business with your partner by your side, it’s not a dream that is too farfetched. In fact, there are lots of successful couples that are working hard, reaching goals, and living the life they’ve always dreamed of having.

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