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A quick course to discovering your calling in life

Do you know you spend approximately one-third of your life working?!

Are you enjoying your work or simply passing time?

 A quick course to discovering your calling in life

Most of us get so caught in our daily responsibilities that we forget who and what we are living for. We make sure we have enough money to pay our bills and enjoy our time off but when work takes approximately one-third of our life – it is a sin not to get all the pleasure you can from your work.


For you to live a happy fulfilled life you must make sure your work is aligned with your specific talents and gifts.

You see, everyone was born with his or her own unique traits.

As we go through life we uncover those traits by discovering what we are most good at which happens to be what we enjoy doing most.


Life is a gift you got from nature, to make proper use of this gift you should enjoy every moment of your life doing the things you love most.

For that you must first find your true calling in life.


How do you go about it?

First, it is important to understand that you are never too old to find your purpose and follow your calling in life. Some of us are lucky to be born with a clear vision of what we want and what we can do in life, others need to spend some time looking for it; but whatever the case may be – we all have a calling. Each and every one of us was made for greatness and it is our responsibility to discover it and live up to it.


Grab a pen and paper and follow along, it will be well worth your while.


How do you go about finding your purpose?


Build your vision:


Paint with words your ideal life. What will your life look like if you had no limitations or boundaries? What are some of the things you want to see/have in your life?

This will exercise will stimulate your thinking and make sure you focus on the things that matter most to you. Take your time when creating the vision of your perfect life.

Personally this is my favorite part of discovering your path in life, when you are building your ideal life anything is possible.

What type of life do you see yourself living? What house do you live in and where is it located?

Who are you closest friends? What skills do you hold and what type of activities are you involved in? How do spend your days? your leisure time?

Paint your picture perfect with words, use as many details as possible so if I were to read it I would see the exact same images you do.


Now that you have laid the foundation let’s focus on discovering and developing your passion.


2) Uncover your unique traits

Step one: make a list of your core values.

(e.g. integrity, creativity, power. spirituality, freedom, trust…)


Your core values are the qualities that matter most to you. For example, some of us may value creativity most and search for ways of expression in their life through design, art, dance etc. Others may value certainty that can be found in analytic thinking and predetermined results and will find expression in working with numbers and known factors.

Write freely as many as possible then determine your top 5.

Go back to the vision of your ideal life for some clues and insights as to what you value most.


Step two: write out what you most enjoy doing.

Think back and recall moments and events when you felt most happy, complete and at ease. What were you doing? What activities were you involved in? Usually these are the activities you get so lost in you completely lose track of time.

Go back all the way to your childhood, call on memories from times you felt most fulfilled.

Write them down. You will be amazed how many insights you get simply by asking yourself questions.


Step three: identify your talents.

Make a list of the things you are good at.

(e.g. writing, speaking, leading, listening, motivating, teaching, building, developing…)

Clue: usually what we love doing most is our talent.

If you are not sure, turn to friends and family for help, ask them what they think you are best at.


3) Connect the dots

You have all you need to find your purpose, now it is time to connect the dots.

Go to a quiet place and in a relaxed state read your notes and ponder on it. By reflecting on the things that matter most to you and the vision of the life you wish to live, you will receive insights as to which route you should take in life.

Bare in mind, your purpose may take some time to reveal itself, but it will surely hit you.

Write it out as it comes – focus on the service you provide, the talents you’ll develop to deliver the service, the beneficiary of the service and outcome you achieve through the services you provide.


Please notice. Discovering your purpose does not necessarily mean you have to change your job or go on an entrepreneurial path. It is more about making sure you use your natural talents to your advantage so you can receive pleasure from your contribution.


4) Take Action!

Now that you know what is your true calling in life make sure you make use of this knowledge. Explore opportunities at your current job to further develop your unique potential, if your current position does not allow it consider changing departments or exploring other job opportunities outside of your current scope.


To an exciting journey of self-discovery and self-realization.

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Can You Receive A Compliment Without It Getting To Your Head?



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Receiving compliments gracefully isn’t as easy as it should be for some people. How about you: are YOU ready for someone to give you a pat on the back? To be pushed to doing more? To have someone give you a supporting hand? To be picked up when you fall down?

Sure, we may think that’s what we want. But is it what we need to develop, to grow, and to get better?

If someone complimented you on every little improvement you made while learning a new skill, would you not start to feel a bit marginalized? That perhaps they didn’t really think you could do it? What about when you do something that seems pretty easy and everyone made it into a big deal?


Receiving Compliments When You Are Not Ready For It

Why You Are Not Receiving Compliments

Developing new skills is never free of trouble. We all know the level of foundation that must be built to get from being a novice, before reaching greatness. In the learning process, we all know when we are in that frustrating stage of not being quite as good – but we know what we have to do to get there.

It’s in these moments that receiving compliments on your every action could minimize your efforts. That’s because if they truly knew you, people would be holding out for when you make that big, defining leap. 

As we overcome hurdles in our learning and development, friends, family members, and colleagues will know when the time is right to provide encouragement. They know that when that moment comes, those words will have the right amount of impact on you.

Think back to when you were growing up, playing some elaborate game. Perhaps you spent hours creating this game: building a fort, putting together things that the rest of your characters in the play could use. You pushed through despite the trials and problems.

It would have served absolutely no purpose for someone to congratulate you on every step (and misstep) along the way.  You would have lost your flow as you worked through the problem, constantly being interrupted – all while you were still trying to figure it out and understand where you needed to go.

Why You Are Not Receiving Compliments


When Receiving Compliments Makes You Content with Present Achievements

You might never have finished if someone patted you on the back early in that moment, content in the knowledge that you “thought up” the idea and that was enough. If everyone was saying you did great simply for thinking up something new, would it have compelled you to stop?

Maybe. Perhaps you would have stopped with that compliment.

As a parent, you learn when to encourage your children. Usually, it’s not when they show up, and not when they do what kids around them are able to do as well. It’s when they push themselves to do more. When they pick themselves up and still lose, when they try something new for the first time, fall over and fail, not sure if they should do it again.

Those are the moments when kids should be receiving compliments – NOT when they have done the same thing over and over again, or when they didn’t try their best but won anyways.

Kids know this. They can feel it when people give false compliments or encouragement because they did something they’ve always done. But when it is something meaningful, something they have worked hard for, they know the encouragement will be there to help them.

Why You Are Not Receiving Compliments

The reason you might not be receiving compliments or encouragement when you want to is because you haven’t earned them or don’t deserve them yet.

Maybe your coaches, leaders, parents, or other people who support you know you are not ready for it. Perhaps they need to see you making that next big leap in your growth and development.

Those compliments might not come today, tomorrow, next week, next month, or next year. But look at those around you – the great people you have chosen to surround yourself with – and you’ll see that they are waiting to give you that push. They are waiting for you to make it happen.

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3 Ways to Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart




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I truly believe that dreams must extend beyond wishes of self-improvement; that its goal should be to contribute to the world around you.

The heart is a fickle thing. Imagine how many amazing things wouldn’t have been accomplished if great minds simply stopped when they “didn’t feel like it”.

It’s human nature. I’m sure that during the course of over 300 bank rejections, Walt Disney had days when he felt like giving up. But he didn’t. He kept going. Why? It was because his dream went far beyond himself.

Here’s how YOU can keep going – even if it feels like your dreams are falling apart.


3 Ways to Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart

1.) Remember The “Why”

Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart

Often times, I find that dreams extend far beyond the simple purpose of making one happy. For example, being a songwriter in and of itself does not make me feel happy and fulfilled. Imagine if my life’s work was to write songs that no one would ever hear. That doesn’t elicit any feelings of happiness or fulfillment (at least to me).

Seeing and hearing the healing effects that come from the songs I create for others to hear? Now you’re talking. Healing and helping others is the part of my dream that keeps it alive. It gives me purpose in this world that goes far beyond myself and my skills.

I’m reminded of the character Ebenezer Scrooge from Dickens’ “A Christmas Carol”. Scrooge’s goal in life was to have money – and lots of it. He set aside love and relationships for that dream. The result of this life goal was a lonely, cold, bitter old man.

I won’t ruin the whole story for the very few of you that may not have heard it. In the end, Scrooge discovered that what brought him fulfillment and happiness were community and generosity.

So what is the “why” to your dream? How is your dream going to affect those around you? Get beyond yourself. As many have said, YOU are your biggest obstacle to success.


2.) Take Off The Rose-Colored Glasses

Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart

You know what I’m talking about. The “I’m going to make it big” and “I’m going to famous/rich/etc.” I hate to take a pointy realistic needle to your big ideas, but I’m doing it out of love. Here it is:

Your dream isn’t going to look exactly how you pictured it.

Take a minute to take that one in. Still here? Yes. Alive? Yes. Not Bleeding? No? Hurt a bit?

It’s OK. I know. I’ve been there. Dreams are vulnerable. We spend countless hours imagining what it would be like and how we will get there. But the truth is, in my experience, they have never turned out exactly how I have imagined. Why? We live in a world of people and circumstances that we can’t control.

Here is where the “why” comes in. The beautiful thing is that your works are a direct result of your heart’s intention…and what you put out into the world never comes back void. Here’s an example:

As a singer-songwriter, the common idea of making it big for my line of work is to have a hit song or perform in front of a sold-out crowd at Madison Square Garden (I’m more inclined towards Red Rock Amphitheatre, but you get the picture).

Let’s say that I work and strive tirelessly to do everything I need to do to reach that goal. I release a song, I tour around the US, develop a large following, get on the radio, etc. Along the way, I hear stories of how this song has impacted the people who have heard it. Stories describing how it brought healing, encouragement, and hope.

To go further, what if I never even make it that far? What if circumstances happen and I can’t tour? What if everything “falls apart”? What if I end up playing at open mics for the rest of my life? What if it doesn’t happen in the next year? Two years?

Does that change the fact that my song helped heal and open the heart of a broken and depressed Vietnam Vet? Or how it helped encourage an author to keep going and writing? Or how my song started a conversation on how to look past the labels overshadowing soldiers and their families?

It’s all about your perspective of success, my friend. To me, because my “why” and my heart’s intention are to help people, those stories above are my version of success. It’s what keeps me going. If I get to Madison Square Garden (or Red Rocks), well that’s just icing on top of the cake.

Keep going on your dream. Make a plan, and in the words of .38 Special, “Hold on loosely, but don’t let go.” Roll with the punches and understand that even greater things can come when things don’t go according to your plan.


3.) Make Your Dream Your Job

Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart

No, I don’t mean quit your job and have no income while you work on your dream. That’s an entirely different article (and completely up to you). I’m talking about treating your dream like it is your job.

For example, if you completely failed at a presentation at work, would you just quit and not go the next day? No! You have a livelihood and an expectation to show up. So why quit on your dream at the first sign of failure?

Treat your dream like your job. Make a plan, show up every day, and understand that it may take a while to see any results. I know many songwriters who wrote hundreds of songs before they wrote a hit. However, they never would have reached it if they didn’t take that first step, made a commitment, and wrote 100 songs first.

Dreams don’t just happen. They take work. So go get started!

My best advice under this theme is check out the book “The War of Art” by Steven Pressfield. It is by far the best resource I have discovered in my journey of living out my dream.

Here’s the deal. With every goal that I have set and achieved, I never sat at the end and thought to myself, “man, look at what I did”. Believe it or not, I was more overwhelmed with the thoughts of the journey that I had to take to get there – the good and the bad.

I would admire and laugh at the unexpected things that came. I would smile and enjoy the character it built, the person that I became in the process. In the end, the best thing about dreams and goals isn’t their achievement, but the journey that you take to get there.

Never forget that the dream in your heart was put there for a reason. You were made to make an impact on this world.

Enjoy the journey and never, ever give up. Keep going.

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