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I Feel Like I’m Not Accomplishing Enough…What Should I Do?



I feel like I’m not accomplishing enough…what should I do?

There are several reasons that people can feel inadequate about their accomplishments. One of the reasons might be that the person has set goals that are too high and unrealistic for their particular skill set and abilities. Perhaps we have set out goals too high, before we are ready to work on them. Another may be that they have set reasonable goals, but they have not taken the steps to accomplish them. This can be due to disorganization, procrastination or struggling to break things down into small and manageable steps. Both of these issues can make us feel inadequate, and that we are not accomplishing enough, and both need to be looked at so that the person can set reasonable goals that they can accomplish on schedule, and as planned.

I feel like I’m not accomplishing enough…what should I do?

Let’s look at the first issue, setting goals that are unrealistic and beyond their ability level. Math and science are not my strong points, so I will not be applying for the next space shuttle mission anytime soon. This is not saying that anyone is intellectually inferior to others, this is saying that we all have our own strengths and weaknesses, and we need to play to those. Too often people get themselves in positions where they either set a goal, or agree when a goal is set for them, fully realizing that this is not an area they will excel at. They may actually try very hard to accomplish what has been set out for them, only to be unsuccessful at the task. It was not lack of effort, it was not even lack of talent, and it was lack of skill set.

Do what you know and then learn more

Many of us take jobs, or agree to projects that are outside our abilities, just to have a job, and to not rock the boat. The fact of the matter is that we are doing more harm to our employer, any customer, and our own feelings of adequacy by taking this position or project. It is important to look for and accept positions/projects that are within our strength base. Looking carefully for these, and saying yes to these types of projects, sets us up for success and increases our sense of accomplishment. By doing what we have trained to do, or what we have a natural talent in, we greatly increase our chances of success, as well as our sense of self-esteem.

Take your time and focus on getting it right

There is a saying that you must crawl before you can walk, this is true when it comes to what we accomplish. If we set unreasonable goals that are beyond the skills we have yet learned, we are setting ourselves up for failure. This is not to say that we will not be able to accomplish this goal at some point in our career, but we have to be realistic about the skill level we are at, the amount of training and education we have received, and what kinds of projects we are capable of taking on. While it is wonderful to have goals, and we all want things to happen quickly, we have to be realistic about what we have learned up to this point, and where our capabilities lie. We are being irresponsible if we offer to take on tasks that are beyond our abilities, as the job, the customer, and the end product are what always matters. A chance to “try” is not worth failing the client in the end. One way that you can work within your skill set and learn something new, is to ask other members of the team if you can shadow them on their tasks.

Copy what works before you create your own

This idea of shadowing allows the individual from having to take on the full responsibility of being a mentor to you in the acquisition of new skills. This is not to say that some individuals would not be happy to do this, but many simply feel overwhelmed with what they have on their own plate. The idea of teaching someone can feel like too much. However, the idea of being watched and shadowed may be more palatable. There is nothing new or additional that they need to be doing, besides being observed.

Focus on the process not the product

Actually, explaining their process as they go, can help reinforce the steps they are taking, the choices they are making, and catch any of their own mistakes before they are made. If the person observing does this with enough projects, they are greatly increasing their chances that they will have the skill set to perform the goal task, and to have their supervisors be willing to give them a chance at being the point person for that part of the project. If they have been a good student of their peers, they may find that they are accomplishing the goals they have always wanted too.

You have skills but…

The last type of person who feels inadequate for not accomplishing enough is the person with the skills, but without the means to accomplish them. These are the people who have poor organizational systems, procrastinate to the last second, therefore creating a subpar product, and those who do not know how to break things down into small and manageable tasks to make consistent progress towards their goal.

Putting it all together

These are the areas that I have the most clients come to me to possess. They are exceptionally frustrated with themselves for not being able to complete tasks and move ahead the way they envision. They are exasperated because they know that they have the skills and abilities inside of them, they simply to not know how to access and organize those skills to accomplish what they set out to do. They have all the ideas, all the abilities, and even all the tenacity, at times, to do what they need to do. They simply do not know how to get from point A to point B in an organized and efficient manner. This lack of organization keeps them from completing the tasks.

Focus on one thing at a time and get it done

You also have the individuals who have the issue of procrastination and feeling overwhelmed by this. It becomes a viscous cycle of issues with organization, it knowing how to break things down into manageable steps, and then ultimately procrastinating due to falling so far behind due to the first two issues. It can be as simple as a few meetings to sit down with a professional that help design organizational systems that work for you. To learn the skill of breaking things down into small and manageable steps, and what the proper steps should be, and lastly how to avoid the trap of procrastination.

Get real with yourself

People procrastinate for several reasons, one is that they are overwhelmed as things have fallen behind and are too close to the due date, or the other is that they put off tasks they find the most difficult for last. If the person is willing to put the time and effort into learning to organize themselves in a way that works for them, and to break things down into small and manageable step, this can go a long way. Lastly, they can learn ton take on tasks that are not their favorite first instead of last to get them out of the way, and avoid the dread of doing them. No matter which of these categories that you fall in, implementing these skills and techniques can move you to be someone who feels a great sense of adequacy and accomplishes more than enough.

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Couple Entrepreneurs: How to Make It Happen With Your Partner



Partners entrepreneurs


Have you always dreamed of having success as an entrepreneur? Thoughts of working for yourself, doing things you’re passionate about, and not worrying about working for someone else may linger in your mind most of the time. If you’re married, there is a chance that your partner has some of the same goals, and that means the two of you could eventually become a pair of successful entrepreneurs who motivate one another, continually work hard, and reach all kinds of goals that will get you both further in life.


How to Make It Work


Although you may like the idea of becoming a successful entrepreneur while your partner does the same, it’s not uncommon to have some concerns about the situation. You may worry that you’re both going to take on too much and not have enough time for one another, but that isn’t always the case. It’s all about prioritizing work, setting a schedule, and being there to support one another through the ups and downs that will eventually occur.


Before working together to achieve goals, sit down and have a full conversation about the goals you’d like to achieve and the role you’ll each take on. Both of you will need to come to an agreement to keep work and the relationship separately while being respectful to one another. You can’t expect to have success with your partner if neither of you are respecting one another or collectively sharing ideas. You’ll need to focus on communication and compromising at times to make things work on a long-term basis.


Prime Examples of Successful Entrepreneur Couples


If you’re in need of motivation and encouragement because you’re not sure how to get your start in a specific industry with your partner, it may be best for you to learn a bit more about some of the successful entrepreneur couples out there. These couples work hard to achieve their goals and they support one another in various business ventures. They put forth the effort that is required of them to consistently achieve their goals.


Chris Sacca is a successful billionaire who once was fired from a job as a lawyer and then moved on to Google where had more opportunities to learn, invest, and become the success he is today. He is now the owner of a successful venture capital fund, known as Lowercase Capital. Although he’s had much success in his career, Chris Sacca’s wife, Crystal English Sacca, is a successful entrepreneur in her own right. She’s spent most of her career creating compelling and engaging commercials as well as digital advertisements for various companies. She’s worked for several of the most popular brands, including Sprint and HBO. In addition to these accomplishments, she works as an art director. While these two individuals aren’t doing the same things, they’re a married couple supporting one another while they each work hard to achieve their own personal goals.


In addition to Chris Sacca and his wife, Stewart and Lynda Resnick are another good example of a successful entrepreneur power couple. They currently have a net worth of 3.9 billion dollars. So, what is it that they’re selling? There is a good chance you’ve consumed at least one of the many products they own and distribute, such as Fiji Water or Halos oranges. The pair met when Lynda started her own ad agency and was assisting Stewart with a project for the business he was running at that time. Over time, they started working collectively together to invest and sell assorted products to the public, many of which are naturally good for human consumption.


Do What You Love and Respect One Another


There are plenty of entrepreneur couples out there. Some are just getting started while others have been in business for decades and continue to achieve a high level of success. Although you may be focused on figuring out your passion and what you want to do to get further in life while making a decent income, it’s important to understand that it’s possible for you to achieve the same level of success as some of these people who are earning millions of dollars each year. Most people don’t become a success overnight but figuring out what you want to do and how you’re going to make it happen is a great way to get started.


In addition to figuring out what you’d love to do for the rest of your life, you’ll need to remember to always respect your partner throughout the process. The thing about these successful couples is that they’re willing to provide support and guidance, they know how to communicate, and they believe in one another. If you don’t have respect, trust, and support in the relationship, it’s going to be difficult to have success as entrepreneurs together.


If you’ve always dreamed of running your own business with your partner by your side, it’s not a dream that is too farfetched. In fact, there are lots of successful couples that are working hard, reaching goals, and living the life they’ve always dreamed of having.

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How Does Sleep Affect Your Mental Health?



Sleep and Mental Health

Sleep is our body’s repair mode. Our cells, tissues, muscles, and hormones are all replenished during the deepest phases of sleep. This ensures that we are operating at our best the next day.

Experts recommend about seven (7) hours of sleep a day for an average adult. This is keeps you mentally and physically focused. But what happens when you don’t get enough? Is there a link between sleep and our mental health?


The Link Between Sleep and Mood

Even someone who isn’t an expert on the subject can appreciate how active they feel after a good night’s sleep. In contrast, one can feel exhausted, irritated, and distracted after not getting enough the night before. That’s because sleep plays an important role in your mood and performance.

Researchers from the University of Pennsylvania conducted a study in which the subjects were restricted sleep to only 4.5 hours each night. After a week, the subjects reported greater levels of negative emotions and mental tiredness. Once they were allowed to sleep normally however, there was a sharp improvement in their mood.

Just as sleep impacts your mood, your present state of mind also has an equivalent effect on the quality of your sleep. If you’re anxious or stressed, your body will release hormones that force you to stay awake through the night, depriving you of much-needed rest. The result is a cycle of stress and lack of sleep.

Research suggests that around 15-20 percent of people who are dealing with insomnia (an inability to fall asleep) go on to develop serious mental depression. While research is still being conducted about the exact nature of the relationship between sleep and depression, there has been enough progress to indicate a strong correlation between the two.

People who suffer from insomnia are at a significantly greater risk to develop depression or anxiety. In fact, the onset of these conditions can be accurately predicted by studying the patient’s sleep patterns.


The Link Between Sleep and Learning

In addition to your mood, sleep also appears to impact your mind’s ability to learn. Three separate processes govern learning in your brain: acquisition, consolidation, and recall.

Acquisition entails receiving information and storing it in your neural circuitry. The second process, consolidation, strengthens the neural connections in your mind so that the memory is stored in an optimally useful form. Recall is when the brain accesses this stored memory when it is needed.

Poor sleep compromises all three of these processes. However, it is acquisition and recall that are most affected by sleep deprivation. Recent research has also demonstrated that a lack of sleep can reduce the brain’s ability to consolidate information it is presented with.

Students take note: inadequate sleep may negatively affect your chances of passing that exam. Indeed, you may even find yourself forgetting how to do simple tasks. If you’ve ever been involved in back-to-back all-nighters during exam week, you may already have experienced forgetting a solution to a simple problem – even after you’d done it half a dozen times!


Dealing with Sleep Problems To Improve Mental Health

If you’re experiencing emotional apathy, anxiety, depression, or irritability, one of the steps you can take before seeking a professional is to assess your sleep situation.

Treat sleep as a ritual. Similar to reading to a child before putting them to bed, a habit that helps one disconnect from gadgets and put their mind in a relaxed mood can go a long way towards ensuring a restful, wholesome, sleep experience.

Making time before going to bed is a good idea. Avoid exposure to bright lights (such as those emitted by computer screens and smartphones). Try not to consume caffeine or alcohol, as all of these can be detrimental to the quality of sleep (and may even prevent the onset of sleep completely).

Obviously, the way you’ve set up your bed (and your entire bedroom) will also play an important role in how well you’re able to sleep. For example, memory foam mattresses are often recommended for individuals who sleep in awkward postures that can cause back pain. For some good reviews, check out The Sleep Judge.

If you can’t get rid of thoughts buzzing around in your head, you may want to listen to some natural background sounds, such as rainfall or wind rushing through trees. This will ease your mind away from distractions, helping you drift off to sleep. If you get the recommended amount, see how replenished you feel the next day!


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