How to Be More Likeable in Your Workplace
The power of like-ability.
In reality, it’s very unlikely that your coworkers hate you. Maybe you’re having trouble making meaningful connections with members of your team, leading to miscommunications that setback productivity. If you have an aggressive personality, that can be off-putting to individuals in your workplace that are more modest in their approach to things. The solution to the issue is simple: don’t bend over backwards to change who you are, but instead, make small compromises to accommodate the needs to those who surround you.
No competitive mindset
It can be difficult to avoid coming across as competitive, especially if your workplace incorporates a lot of gamification techniques. In general, most offices are wrought with competition, particularly by those who are eager to succeed. While being competitive is okay, you’ll want to avoid leading with your competitive foot. It can make you seem aggressive and self-serving if you’re eager to thoroughly brand all of your accomplishments, and can even be seen as an attempt at denigrating others. Compete, but do so keeping the feelings of your coworkers in mind.
Like others more
No one in your office is named “Hey, you”, and they won’t appreciate being called that. Get yourself on a first name basis with everyone. When conversing with them, speak to them personally. If you act like everyone else around you is merely a warm body, people may interpret that as you perceiving yourself as the center of the universe. Using personal greetings and delivering respectful messages and requests will help you meet others at their own level.
Have meaningful conversations
Think about the worst conversation you ever had on a first date. It was boring, and none of the topics you touched on had any substance. Nobody gained anything from that conversation. When you’re stuck in small talk with your coworkers, every conversation is like a bad first date. This doesn’t mean you have to go around reciting philosophy or teaching everyone about the individual components of DNA, but you can do a little better than talking about how nice it is outside. Ask people about their families and the things that matter to them.
Be positive, even when it’s not easy
We all have bad days. It’s important not to let everyone know just how bad of a day you’re having, especially if you’re risking putting them on the receiving end of your frustration. If your moods seem vastly unpredictable, nobody is going to be sure what to make of you. If you’re having an off day and it’s too difficult to suppress, try telling people in a respectful way that you’re not having a good time right now and that they shouldn’t take it personally. A heads up can go a long way.
Build real relationships
One way to get to know everyone a little better is to foster a relationship with a give and take. Inevitably, people will become overwhelmed at times and need a little help. It never hurts to volunteer. If you’re the one that’s overwhelmed, it never hurts to ask for help. Directly working on a project with someone can help them see your motivations and priorities. They’ll know they can depend on you when they need a helping hand, and that will only create positive associations.
Remember, your goal is to become more likeable. You don’ want to become a pushover. If you can find a sweet spot between likeability and strength, others will be more apt to respect you. Building a positive reputation at work can even lead you to further career success.