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Disconnect to Reconnect with Your Real Life



Disconnect to Reconnect with Your Real Life

Everywhere you turn people are connected to cell phones, tablets and other technology.  People rarely look up even to cross the street. Family time is often spent texting, checking social media and answering emails. Take a look at people at a restaurant.  Notice how many are connected to tech rather than each other.  Even parents are giving cell phones and computer tablets to their infants and toddlers to appease them.

Every experience, thought and emotion leaves an imprint within our neural networks and biology.  More and more we are imprinting with the digital online world. As time passes, real life drifts away.

Recent research shows that tweens (ages 8 – 12) spend at least six hours a day connected to some form of technology.  For teens, it’s nine hours. For adults, it’s an average of eleven hours.  Considering we need at least eight hours of sleep, that leaves little time for experiencing real life.

Moving away from the screen

While our society teaches us that to be happy we have to do more, have more and even be more, many of us are left feeling empty and disconnected from others.  Anxiety and depression is on the rise.  We constantly feel the pull to answer every beep and buzz on our phone and we are less able to merely enjoy time to reflect and experience real life in real time.  Sacred time alone reflecting on life and experiences is supplemented by grasping for our cell phones.

Time has a way of showing us what really matters.  Our life is filled with time and time is filled with moments.  It may sound cliché but at the end of our life, people rarely say, I wish I spent more time on my cell phone or on the computer.

Beyond this demanding world, there is a place a time and a time to experience real life, the beauty in this world, inspiration and live connection with others. I call these our magical moments.  They are all around us all the time.

When was the last time you laughed out loud instead of texting LOL?

How about the last time you felt real joy instead of texting a happy face?

Can you remember having a heartfelt moment and looking into the eyes of someone you love?

When do you pause and really experience gratitude?

How does the sun feel on your face?

When do you spend time with people you love disconnected from tech?

How can you start experiencing those magical moments right now?

First, realize that the magic in your life is available to you all the time.

Getting the magic back

Second, ask yourself, “What’s a magical moment in my life?”  It could anything ~ time with a loved one, watching a sunset, remembering the sound of your baby’s laugh, or reflecting on wisdom someone once shared with you.  Anything that creates the memories and stories of our lives can be a magical moment.

Third, ask people close to you, “What’s your magical moment?”  You will be surprised how much you can find out about someone by just asking this simple question.

Austin, a basketball player who recently moved to our town shared his magical moment at our dinner table. He said “That’s easy. My magical moment was last week when I picked up my father from the airport after his tour of duty in Afghanistan. He is alive and that is all the magic I need.”

Another mom shared that her seven-year old daughter said her magical moment was not being bullied anymore at school.  How much magic can you discover at your next meal with people you love?

Finding the magic even when it’s not easy

One important thing many of our readers have found is that you can find magical moments even in our most challenging times.  Through our difficult times, our values, beliefs and resolve are built.  Can you reflect on a time in your life now and look back and find the lesson, the gift and the inspiration that the experience has given you? Most of us can easily find what’s wrong in a situation, yet if we change our focus, we can also find what is right.  Ask yourself now, how has a difficult experience in your life given you the motivation and strength to move forward in your life?  What lessons have you learned?  If you haven’t considered this, maybe now would be a good time to find those gifts, those magical moments that have shaped your life.

Paying closer attention

The stories of our lives are filled with magical moments.  Know also that you can create these at any moment in any place.  Just look up.  Find the magic all around you and within you.  It’s there waiting to be discovered.

With the holidays approaching, consider giving a magical moment to someone you love.  We all have enough stuff.  Avoid the shopping malls and endless online shopping by creating an experience to share with someone you love, a friend, a family member, and possibly someone in need.  Things come and go but time together is a memory that can be forever imprinted into your history.  You can even download a free magical moments gift certificate from my website Just fill it out and give it with love. I once gave my husband a picnic on beach and my daughter tickets to take her to her first concert.  I took my son to a Lakers basketball game.  I gave a friend an afternoon hike with tea and cookies. It can be simple.  Know that nothing replaces time together in real life.

Everyday Power

Right now, pause and ask yourself, “What’s a magical moment in my life?”  The answer might surprise you.

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3 small steps that could make the biggest impact on your life



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“The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.”Lao Tzu

Every day that passes by, there is someone who is living a life that does not fuel their passion or purpose. Each moment feels like they are just existing or living life by accident. This could be due to fear of change, or limiting beliefs within them that say “you’re not worthy” or “I don’t deserve to be successful”.

It could be a number of things. Believe it or not, I used to be this person. I was stuck in a 9-5 job, in a 7-year relationship that was emotionally draining, and I was 75 lbs. overweight.

Then came that ONE day that would forever change my life. I remember it as if it were yesterday. I looked at myself in the mirror and saw what I had become. I didn’t recognize myself. I immediately burst into tears. This was NOT the life I wanted to live. I had neglected the most important person in my world: ME. 

It was then that I had to make an important choice. I decided to take the first step towards creating the life I would often dream about. That very next day, I promised myself that I would do just one thing that made me feel more connected to the goals I wanted to accomplish.

Not two or three. Just one. It didn’t matter how small it was. The point was it was a small step in the RIGHT direction. This has led me to the level of success that I am at today.

Here are three small steps that will help you make that same important decision and transform your life.


3 Small Steps That Could Make a Big Impact In Your Life

1.) Have a heart to heart with yourself.

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Take time to get away from people, places, or things, and just spend some time with yourself. In order to truly make any step towards the success you desire, you must have a great sense of self-awareness.

What is it that you want to accomplish and why? What truly makes you happy? What are you passionate about? How will accomplishing this change your life? How would it make you feel?

Be completely honest with yourself, your thoughts, and your intentions. Having these questions in front of you will keep you from going around in circles. They will give you more clarity and vision that should help you determine which small steps you need to take.

As a result, instead of being frustrated or reluctant to leave your comfort zone, you will be more confident now that you have a plan in place.


2.) Do ONE thing everyday that is connected to your goals.

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Always remember that you don’t have to always make massive amounts of progress at one time. The important thing is that you are continuously moving in the right direction. After all, Rome wasn’t built in a day. It took consistent daily, focused action. Over time, it became one of the most celebrated cities on the planet.

We live in a world that is bombarded with messages of instant gratification. But the truth is, any level of success is the result of a daily routine of the right things done for a certain period of time. That time can vary from days, weeks, months, or even years.

However, throughout the journey, you can see that you are moving closer and closer towards your ultimate goals. Do not underestimate the power of small steps. You will find yourself accomplishing things you never thought possible (and sooner than you anticipated).


3.) Do not measure your level of success by comparing yourself to others.

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Success means something different for everyone. You must not become fixated on what media or entertainment portrays as successful. A fulfilling life is more than material possessions. Understand that you can only live the greatest life possible when you have defined what success is to you.

As you begin taking small steps and making progress, focus only on what your desired goals are. Don’t allow yourself to be distracted by what others are saying, doing, or what they believe success should look like. Too often, we get caught up in what society, current trends, and what the masses portray as “I’ve made it”.

This is your life. Only YOU can determine what accomplishment, achievement, and true success means to you. In fact, one of the reasons why you may be in the position you are in is because you designed your life based on the thoughts and opinions of others. This was my case years ago.



You deserve to be great. You have greatness within you. Sometimes, that can be clouded by limiting beliefs, adversity, or just the many circumstances in life. Think about everything that has happened in your life right up until the point you are reading this article.

I want you to know that everything that happened before NO LONGER MATTERS. What matters now is that today, you have the knowledge of who you are and where you want to go. The ability to change your life is within your grasp and your power.

Today, you have the chance to begin a journey that leads to some amazing and incredible years ahead. The best part about it is that you only need to take small steps in the right direction. So take action now – your dreams are waiting for you!

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Couple Entrepreneurs: How to Make It Happen With Your Partner



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Have you always dreamed of having success as an entrepreneur? Thoughts of working for yourself, doing things you’re passionate about, and not worrying about working for someone else may linger in your mind most of the time. If you’re married, there is a chance that your partner has some of the same goals, and that means the two of you could eventually become a pair of successful entrepreneurs who motivate one another, continually work hard, and reach all kinds of goals that will get you both further in life.


How to Make It Work


Although you may like the idea of becoming a successful entrepreneur while your partner does the same, it’s not uncommon to have some concerns about the situation. You may worry that you’re both going to take on too much and not have enough time for one another, but that isn’t always the case. It’s all about prioritizing work, setting a schedule, and being there to support one another through the ups and downs that will eventually occur.


Before working together to achieve goals, sit down and have a full conversation about the goals you’d like to achieve and the role you’ll each take on. Both of you will need to come to an agreement to keep work and the relationship separately while being respectful to one another. You can’t expect to have success with your partner if neither of you are respecting one another or collectively sharing ideas. You’ll need to focus on communication and compromising at times to make things work on a long-term basis.


Prime Examples of Successful Entrepreneur Couples


If you’re in need of motivation and encouragement because you’re not sure how to get your start in a specific industry with your partner, it may be best for you to learn a bit more about some of the successful entrepreneur couples out there. These couples work hard to achieve their goals and they support one another in various business ventures. They put forth the effort that is required of them to consistently achieve their goals.


Chris Sacca is a successful billionaire who once was fired from a job as a lawyer and then moved on to Google where had more opportunities to learn, invest, and become the success he is today. He is now the owner of a successful venture capital fund, known as Lowercase Capital. Although he’s had much success in his career, Chris Sacca’s wife, Crystal English Sacca, is a successful entrepreneur in her own right. She’s spent most of her career creating compelling and engaging commercials as well as digital advertisements for various companies. She’s worked for several of the most popular brands, including Sprint and HBO. In addition to these accomplishments, she works as an art director. While these two individuals aren’t doing the same things, they’re a married couple supporting one another while they each work hard to achieve their own personal goals.


In addition to Chris Sacca and his wife, Stewart and Lynda Resnick are another good example of a successful entrepreneur power couple. They currently have a net worth of 3.9 billion dollars. So, what is it that they’re selling? There is a good chance you’ve consumed at least one of the many products they own and distribute, such as Fiji Water or Halos oranges. The pair met when Lynda started her own ad agency and was assisting Stewart with a project for the business he was running at that time. Over time, they started working collectively together to invest and sell assorted products to the public, many of which are naturally good for human consumption.


Do What You Love and Respect One Another


There are plenty of entrepreneur couples out there. Some are just getting started while others have been in business for decades and continue to achieve a high level of success. Although you may be focused on figuring out your passion and what you want to do to get further in life while making a decent income, it’s important to understand that it’s possible for you to achieve the same level of success as some of these people who are earning millions of dollars each year. Most people don’t become a success overnight but figuring out what you want to do and how you’re going to make it happen is a great way to get started.


In addition to figuring out what you’d love to do for the rest of your life, you’ll need to remember to always respect your partner throughout the process. The thing about these successful couples is that they’re willing to provide support and guidance, they know how to communicate, and they believe in one another. If you don’t have respect, trust, and support in the relationship, it’s going to be difficult to have success as entrepreneurs together.


If you’ve always dreamed of running your own business with your partner by your side, it’s not a dream that is too farfetched. In fact, there are lots of successful couples that are working hard, reaching goals, and living the life they’ve always dreamed of having.

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