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Transforming Your Life With The 4 Secrets of Synthesis



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4 Steps To Transforming Your Life

It’s not a stretch to say that 21st Century, Western society is in trouble. Our culture exudes an ethos that life is supposed to be a struggle, full of challenges, trials, and tribulations. All reinforced by a seemingly endless torrent of nega­tivity through the media: “Stay tuned for another disaster…details at 11:00.”

This sort of thinking is integral to our mass consciousness and we are suffering for it, both indi­vidually, and collectively. Millions of us are depressed, stressed, anxious, obese, insom­niac, angry and terrified.

Do we have to accept living life this way? NO! Anyone, anyone, can supercharge the quality of their life in virtually any way imaginable; and often within a few weeks rather than months or years. That is why I designed my Synthesis process and why I wrote “The Synthesis Effect.” And it all boils down to mastering what I call the “4 secrets of Synthesis.”

Transforming Your Life With The 4 Secrets of Synthesis

Secret # 1: Choose to live “at cause” rather than “at effect.”

Living at cause can be summarized in one statement, “It’s my life and I and I alone am responsible for how it goes.” Most of us feel like we are at the mercy of circumstance; that life happens to us. And while it may feel this way, scientists have provided empirical evidence that suggests just the opposite: we create our reality through the manipulation and expression of our energies.

We are essentially energy machines, like TV transmitters, and everything we think, do, say and feel— the energetic “signal” we send into the universe—has a direct effect on the energy we attract back into our lives. Living “at cause” means we take full and sole responsibility for that interaction and its outcomes.

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Doing so creates a feeling of control. It allows us to let go of neediness, to find our personal strength from within ourselves rather than hoping to find it from some outside source, which never works for very long. It helps us truly love, honor and respect ourselves, a mandatory requirement for attracting love, honor and respect back, and that’s what most of us want most of all.

Of course, we cannot control everything that happens in life, but we can always control how we respond to what happens, and over time, and with practice, we can learn to attract a lot less negativity and trouble. We can learn to synthesize, transmit and attract an overall energy of wellbeing, happiness and abundance, whatever that might mean to us.

Secret #2: Live your life according to your core values.

We all have core values, those attributes of life that must be present in order to feel whole and balanced. Core values are what I call the non-tradeoff items, and we all have them for virtually all aspects of our life, from career to personal relationships. Examples of core values might include, honesty, trust, integrity, passion, creativity, recreation, working in teams or individually, money, socialization or isolation, etc.

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It’s safe to say that many, many of us try or feel forced to live our lives, pursue careers, and/or our relationships according to the expectations and values of others and often in opposition to or in compromise of our core values, and this never, ever works without a lot of pain.
So, take the time to figure out what your core values really are for the all important aspects of your life, career, relationships, friendships, etc., then choose to live according to those values and your expectations. Walk your path not someone else’s. After all, whose life is it any way?

Secret # 3: Embrace the process; and it is all a process!

We have become a society that worships instant gratification. With the incredible advances in technology over the last century we have grown used to having things happen quickly.

For most of us, at least in Western society, not only the necessities but also many of the so-called luxuries of life are right at our fingertips. As such we are impatient; we want what we want and we want it right now!

But, and, whether we like it or not, life is a process. There is no avoiding that salient fact, so the sooner one accepts that he or she is in process and will always be in process, and that we can only live one moment at a time—the present moment— then we are on the way to true empowerment.
Once of the great benefits of accepting and embracing process is that we can learn how to better budget and expend our energy. We can slow down and enjoy the ride!

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We can also stop investing so much energy in the past; it’s over, done, and cannot be redone. What is the past good for? One thing, and that one thing is a big thing: learning. We can look at the choices we’ve made, stick to the good ones, learn from the not so good ones and—drum roll—commit to not repeating the ones that caused us pain.

We can also learn to stop worrying about the future; we can visualize and pre-pave the future we wish to manifest, and feel the excitement of anticipating what we are wanting to achieve or create, but focus more of our energy on where we are now, how we’re feeling now, and then make choices that feel good now and that also take us toward what we want.

How simple! Learn from the past and avoid repeating choices that didn’t work; focus our energy on what we want rather than what we don’t want; live and make choices— thoughts, behaviors, and feelings—in delicious anticipation of our getting it, and in so doing send the universe the energetic signal that we not only intend, but also expect to get it, whatever “it” is. Suddenly, life is a lot more fun and a lot more productive and we find we get “it” sooner.

Secret # 4: Balance your energy streams

I’ve found that for most people the easiest way to think about human energy is in terms of three separate streams: physical, emotional, and spiritual. If we make the time and effort to balance and integrate all three, we find ourselves living a very calm, centered, healthy, peaceful and productive existence; we are happy campers in the forest of life.

Balancing and integrating our energy streams is simple, and it can also be easy, and I always encourage my clients and students to choose easy! It starts with one very important choice; to commit to loving, honoring and respecting ourselves, treating ourselves as kindly and compassionately as we treat those whom we love. With that commitment in mind, let’s take a look at what needs to be done.

Physical energy is the energy of your body, the vehicle through which we experience life on the earthly plane. The human body is a miracle of universal evolution and creation. If we feed it well and move it regularly and vigorously, it will stay in a healthy, robust state for a very long time. That’s as easy as it gets!

Emotional energy is a bit trickier; it is the energy of our identity as individual beings, what we might call our ego. The ego is a product of behavioral programming that takes place very early in life. Most of our ego-driven thoughts, feelings, emotions and behaviors are the result of that programming and arise in the subconscious part of the mind. The subconscious is like a three-year old child, and thus can easily get itself into trouble.

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But, if as an adult, we commit to loving, honoring and respecting ourselves, it doesn’t take very long to realize that many of the self-defeating thoughts, behaviors, and limiting beliefs we hold are merely patterns handed down to us; and we don’t have to accept them if we choose not to!

So we can consciously choose to think, feel and behave in a way that feels good and that serves our growth, wellbeing, and the greater good. The adult in us can treat the child in us very kindly, providing gentle but firm guidance. I often have clients do an assignment in which they commit to treating themselves as if they were their own little kids. It works wonders.

And now we look at the energy of spirit. One of the great sources of disconnection in our technology-driven culture is that we have forgotten who we are, that we are, indeed, spiritual beings in a physical body.
We have become obsessed with the physical world, the world of the flesh and materialism.

This energetic imbalance is the source of much of our pain and disconnection. It is also one of the easiest attributes of life to repair.

There is no longer any doubt that the energy we call spirit exists; science has proven it. Spirit is the essence of our consciousness, our very being. Spirit comprises the largest component of our total energy and, ironically, it is also the component that has been most neglected for the last half millennium or so.

So, how do we take care and nurture this essential energy? By simply taking some time, each and every day to sit quietly, turn off the noise and static of modern society— no phones, radios, IPods, TVs, etc— then gently go within and simply spend a little while being rather than doing—meditating.
Connecting to spirit—our essence—connects us to Source energy, the God-force within each of us. It helps calm the inner three-year old and inspires us to eat better and move more, the singular best way to balance and tend to our physical energy. When all this happens, we have mastered the 4 secrets of Synthesis and find ourselves living Rule # 1 in the McGrail method: Life is supposed to be Fun!

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3 small steps that could make the biggest impact on your life



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“The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.”Lao Tzu

Every day that passes by, there is someone who is living a life that does not fuel their passion or purpose. Each moment feels like they are just existing or living life by accident. This could be due to fear of change, or limiting beliefs within them that say “you’re not worthy” or “I don’t deserve to be successful”.

It could be a number of things. Believe it or not, I used to be this person. I was stuck in a 9-5 job, in a 7-year relationship that was emotionally draining, and I was 75 lbs. overweight.

Then came that ONE day that would forever change my life. I remember it as if it were yesterday. I looked at myself in the mirror and saw what I had become. I didn’t recognize myself. I immediately burst into tears. This was NOT the life I wanted to live. I had neglected the most important person in my world: ME. 

It was then that I had to make an important choice. I decided to take the first step towards creating the life I would often dream about. That very next day, I promised myself that I would do just one thing that made me feel more connected to the goals I wanted to accomplish.

Not two or three. Just one. It didn’t matter how small it was. The point was it was a small step in the RIGHT direction. This has led me to the level of success that I am at today.

Here are three small steps that will help you make that same important decision and transform your life.


3 Small Steps That Could Make a Big Impact In Your Life

1.) Have a heart to heart with yourself.

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Take time to get away from people, places, or things, and just spend some time with yourself. In order to truly make any step towards the success you desire, you must have a great sense of self-awareness.

What is it that you want to accomplish and why? What truly makes you happy? What are you passionate about? How will accomplishing this change your life? How would it make you feel?

Be completely honest with yourself, your thoughts, and your intentions. Having these questions in front of you will keep you from going around in circles. They will give you more clarity and vision that should help you determine which small steps you need to take.

As a result, instead of being frustrated or reluctant to leave your comfort zone, you will be more confident now that you have a plan in place.


2.) Do ONE thing everyday that is connected to your goals.

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Always remember that you don’t have to always make massive amounts of progress at one time. The important thing is that you are continuously moving in the right direction. After all, Rome wasn’t built in a day. It took consistent daily, focused action. Over time, it became one of the most celebrated cities on the planet.

We live in a world that is bombarded with messages of instant gratification. But the truth is, any level of success is the result of a daily routine of the right things done for a certain period of time. That time can vary from days, weeks, months, or even years.

However, throughout the journey, you can see that you are moving closer and closer towards your ultimate goals. Do not underestimate the power of small steps. You will find yourself accomplishing things you never thought possible (and sooner than you anticipated).


3.) Do not measure your level of success by comparing yourself to others.

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Success means something different for everyone. You must not become fixated on what media or entertainment portrays as successful. A fulfilling life is more than material possessions. Understand that you can only live the greatest life possible when you have defined what success is to you.

As you begin taking small steps and making progress, focus only on what your desired goals are. Don’t allow yourself to be distracted by what others are saying, doing, or what they believe success should look like. Too often, we get caught up in what society, current trends, and what the masses portray as “I’ve made it”.

This is your life. Only YOU can determine what accomplishment, achievement, and true success means to you. In fact, one of the reasons why you may be in the position you are in is because you designed your life based on the thoughts and opinions of others. This was my case years ago.



You deserve to be great. You have greatness within you. Sometimes, that can be clouded by limiting beliefs, adversity, or just the many circumstances in life. Think about everything that has happened in your life right up until the point you are reading this article.

I want you to know that everything that happened before NO LONGER MATTERS. What matters now is that today, you have the knowledge of who you are and where you want to go. The ability to change your life is within your grasp and your power.

Today, you have the chance to begin a journey that leads to some amazing and incredible years ahead. The best part about it is that you only need to take small steps in the right direction. So take action now – your dreams are waiting for you!

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Couple Entrepreneurs: How to Make It Happen With Your Partner



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Have you always dreamed of having success as an entrepreneur? Thoughts of working for yourself, doing things you’re passionate about, and not worrying about working for someone else may linger in your mind most of the time. If you’re married, there is a chance that your partner has some of the same goals, and that means the two of you could eventually become a pair of successful entrepreneurs who motivate one another, continually work hard, and reach all kinds of goals that will get you both further in life.


How to Make It Work


Although you may like the idea of becoming a successful entrepreneur while your partner does the same, it’s not uncommon to have some concerns about the situation. You may worry that you’re both going to take on too much and not have enough time for one another, but that isn’t always the case. It’s all about prioritizing work, setting a schedule, and being there to support one another through the ups and downs that will eventually occur.


Before working together to achieve goals, sit down and have a full conversation about the goals you’d like to achieve and the role you’ll each take on. Both of you will need to come to an agreement to keep work and the relationship separately while being respectful to one another. You can’t expect to have success with your partner if neither of you are respecting one another or collectively sharing ideas. You’ll need to focus on communication and compromising at times to make things work on a long-term basis.


Prime Examples of Successful Entrepreneur Couples


If you’re in need of motivation and encouragement because you’re not sure how to get your start in a specific industry with your partner, it may be best for you to learn a bit more about some of the successful entrepreneur couples out there. These couples work hard to achieve their goals and they support one another in various business ventures. They put forth the effort that is required of them to consistently achieve their goals.


Chris Sacca is a successful billionaire who once was fired from a job as a lawyer and then moved on to Google where had more opportunities to learn, invest, and become the success he is today. He is now the owner of a successful venture capital fund, known as Lowercase Capital. Although he’s had much success in his career, Chris Sacca’s wife, Crystal English Sacca, is a successful entrepreneur in her own right. She’s spent most of her career creating compelling and engaging commercials as well as digital advertisements for various companies. She’s worked for several of the most popular brands, including Sprint and HBO. In addition to these accomplishments, she works as an art director. While these two individuals aren’t doing the same things, they’re a married couple supporting one another while they each work hard to achieve their own personal goals.


In addition to Chris Sacca and his wife, Stewart and Lynda Resnick are another good example of a successful entrepreneur power couple. They currently have a net worth of 3.9 billion dollars. So, what is it that they’re selling? There is a good chance you’ve consumed at least one of the many products they own and distribute, such as Fiji Water or Halos oranges. The pair met when Lynda started her own ad agency and was assisting Stewart with a project for the business he was running at that time. Over time, they started working collectively together to invest and sell assorted products to the public, many of which are naturally good for human consumption.


Do What You Love and Respect One Another


There are plenty of entrepreneur couples out there. Some are just getting started while others have been in business for decades and continue to achieve a high level of success. Although you may be focused on figuring out your passion and what you want to do to get further in life while making a decent income, it’s important to understand that it’s possible for you to achieve the same level of success as some of these people who are earning millions of dollars each year. Most people don’t become a success overnight but figuring out what you want to do and how you’re going to make it happen is a great way to get started.


In addition to figuring out what you’d love to do for the rest of your life, you’ll need to remember to always respect your partner throughout the process. The thing about these successful couples is that they’re willing to provide support and guidance, they know how to communicate, and they believe in one another. If you don’t have respect, trust, and support in the relationship, it’s going to be difficult to have success as entrepreneurs together.


If you’ve always dreamed of running your own business with your partner by your side, it’s not a dream that is too farfetched. In fact, there are lots of successful couples that are working hard, reaching goals, and living the life they’ve always dreamed of having.

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