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What really controls your behavior, accomplishment and growth?

What really controls your behavior, accomplishment and growth?

I believe that humans are driven by more than just money, fame and love.  Humans are driven by the need to be spiritually connected. All of us have faced that inevitable decision to believe in a higher power.  The ability to believe that there is something higher has waged wars, formed countries, helped people overcome addictions and illness. Human have a need to be plugged into their spiritual side. Human nature is made of mind, body, relationship with others, and the soul which is the integrative factor of all elements. All of these elements dictate behavior, life accomplishment, and growth.

Why are human’s driven by money?

Money, fame and love influence our decisions and behaviors. Our culture teaches us from an early age that wealth provides security and more life opportunities. Money provides opportunities like taking exotic trips, buying great homes, and we are told that it increases the probability that hot people of the opposite sex will fall all over us. This is the world telling you what to do. Don’t limit yourself by what people around you say or think either, be it your parents, spouse, mentors, teachers, colleagues, or whoever. My challenge to you is to find out why you seek money!

  • On the left side of your paper, write down five good reasons why you pursue money. On the right side right down the why’s for those five reasons why you pursue money. The right side of your paper is there to help you dig beneath the surface for why you do the things you do. Pause for a few minutes and actually write them down.
  • Do you like what you see?
  • Is the time spent and priority assigned to getting money more important than other things you value in life?
  • Has your relationships suffered due to your career?
  • Has your career provided you with more than just security?
  • What is your higher purpose in life? Has your career moved you towards this purpose?

Why are human’s driven by fame?

I think it is safe to say that not everyone desires fame.  However, there are a few, which want to make necks turn. These few wantto walk into a crowded room and feel the conversation stop. They are busy networking, writing, interviewing, talking up their latest project — a screenplay, a memoir, a new show — to satisfy a desire to beat invisibility.Fame-seeking behavior appears to be rooted in a desire for social connection, belonging, and social distinction.There is also that need to leave behind a legacy that will impact humanity in the future.

Now, it easy to imagine the good things that come with fame. Fame can impact our income potential, networking, and opportunities for advancement. However, money is complicated. Many people with money, including lottery winners, hate it because it takes over their life. Similarly, fame completely changes every aspect of life. From mundane tasks such as going to the mall, fame impacts who we associate with and how we live.Fame impacts our self-esteem and perceptions of self-worth. It is not about the attention, it is about how your self-perceptions are impacted. Now if you are seeking fame, I challenge you to ask yourself why.

  • Do you want to be famous or successful?
  • Do you desire a higher/elite life-style?
  • Do you desire fame to be seen or valued?
  • Do you desire fame to help others or to make them proud?
  • Now look at your answers and determine what your overall life goal is. Do you need fame to accomplish your life goal?

Why are human’s driven by love?

Now love is a means to spiritual growth. To truly love another requires humility and patients. Being in love is a life experience that teaches us how to exist in relation to others. To have lasting healthy loves requires humility, patients, kindness,and perseverance. Real love results in feeling a part of something. Love allow one to feel as though they belong and are a part of something outside of their selves.  Now once you have achieved love, have you now met your full potential?

  • What type of relationships makes you feel whole?
  • What kind of skills and abilities do you want to nurture within your relationships?
  • What are your love and belongingness needs? This includes relationships with family, friends, and a partner/spouse.
  • Are your love/belongingness needs being met?
  • What drives you onward in life every day, without fail?

 

Why are human’s driven by spirituality?

Consider your obligations, responsibilities, and needs. This includes responsibilities to your parents, family, society, country, etc. It may be to support your family, to contribute and give back to the society, or even master a skill. To accomplish your goals, one must not be afraid to question their motives.  Knowing exactly what you want and why you want it, can save you a whole lot of time and hardship. Staying in a career that you hate, because it provides, money, fame, or even desirable relationships can leave you feeling very unfulfilled. Understanding your thoughts, feelings and behaviors will lead you closer towards fulfilling your life purpose.

Science, psychology, and religion merge at one point. They all would agree that humans can control their thoughts. The power to understand that our thoughts control our emotions, body’s physiological response, and behavior, unites science and spirituality. Life is full of changes, surprises, mess, and wonderment. Experience results in the ability to spiritually grow. Spiritual growth feeds our needs to find self-discovery, self-reflection, self-realization and self-exploration. Learning how to grow spiritually is a life-long journey which occurs as you learn from the highs and lows of life.

  • What are your spiritual needs?
  • What is the level of spirituality you wish to attain?
  • How can I feed my spiritual hunger?

Needs…

Therefore, I will take it back to Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.  Money provides safety, fame provides esteem, and love provides belonging. Connecting with your thoughts, humbling yourself, and accepting that your perceptions can change, can illuminate new possibilities and self-actualization. One again, I will reiterate, human nature is made of mind, body, relationship with others, and the soul which is the integrative factor of all elements. The Human story is that of growth, goals, and the desire to be better. Which requires the belief in something more.

Now, I want to address what is at the top of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.  The top of the pyramid is the need to be Self-Actualized. Being self-actualized means that you consider yourself to be good, to be fully alive and to find meaning in life.  The questions included in the post, reflect a means upon which to evaluate how much meaning you have found in life. Once you have met your physical needs, obtained security, esteem, love, the next and final step is to find meaning.

  • What is your passion?
  • Do you feel passionate about anything in your life at this time?
  • How have you been stopping yourself from pursuing your passion?

As we look back in history to those that have found meaning and self-actualization, spirituality is at the forefront. Just think of names that are associated with self-actualization. Nelson Mandela, Mahatma Ghandi and Viktor Frankl are amongst the few. They were able to see past the lack of safety in their circumstances and remain in tune with their values and purpose, despite the dangers.

Our Human Story.

The Human story is that of growth, adversity, goals, and the desire to be better. Being better, requires the belief in something more. With this post, I want you all to question your wants, desires, and needs. I encourage you take it a step further and examine your thinking in these areas. Upholding your values and the acceptance of your moment-to-moment experience of life, unfolds meaning and self-discovery. Most people spend most of their lives lost in negative thoughts about the past or future. Some people zone out trying to plan or fantasize about their life journey.  Live in the moment, know your basic needs and values, connect with your mind and spiritual side. Living in this way will help you lead a life full of meaning and purpose.

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