Search for more Everyday Power
When was the last time you saw an article, read a quote, or talked to a friend about the importance of risk-taking? Chances are, it wasn’t too long ago. It seems like inspiration to “go, go, go” pops up all the time. But that’s not the subject of this post.
Instead, I want to look at what happens when you stay put – and play it safe. Unfortunately, I speak from experience.
Here are four side-effects when you play it safe, followed by the antidotes:
1.) You feel less alive. You forget what you’re made of.
Can you think of a time when you acted courageously? Do you remember how that felt? Sometimes, summoning courage can mean having a conversation you would prefer to avoid. Or maybe it was the time you fought that bully who wouldn’t back down.
In either case, wisdom is required. Regardless of how you exercise courage, the sensations are similar. You feel adrenaline pumping and clarity heightened. You might get feedback like, “I didn’t know you had it in you.” You might feel surprised, too.
2.) You cease looking for opportunities, and thereby don’t recognize them. You go through the motions.
Is there a better feeling than waking up, ready to seize the day and to make a difference? How does it contrast with how you feel when you’re just going through the motions to play it safe?
I have a firm belief that part of the reason we are put on Earth is to test the limits of our capabilities.
At some level, most, if not all of us, believe we were born for significance. How much that statement resonates with you probably depends on how much you have settled for the notion that “it is what it is.”
What if the truth really is that you were NOT meant to play it safe but to thrive? How would that change how you went about your daily activities?
3.) You become disappointed and compare yourself to others.
I admit that I’ve done this more than I should. There have been times when I’ve felt stuck, held back by a lack of progress in my own life. Looking back, I’ve spent too much time complaining about what others have that I don’t.
So what? What if they have what they have because they’ve done what I haven’t?
There, I said it. The question is: what are YOU and I going to do about it?
4.) Instead of looking forward, you’re constantly looking backward.
Maybe you don’t struggle with comparing your life to others. Maybe your difficulty is comparing what’s happening – or NOT happening – in your life now to the “good ‘ole days.” If this is you, I have a couple thoughts.
First, the so-called good ‘ole days probably weren’t as good as you recall.
Second, think about a rear-view mirror. The purpose of a rear-view mirror is to assess distance, NOT direction. Constantly looking in the rear-view mirror will NOT keep you going in the right direction. Stop looking back so much. Don’t play it safe all the time.
Which one of these four points resonate most with you? What change are you going to make?