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Death is one of the most difficult things that any of us will have to deal with in our lives. It is personal, unique, and very different from person to person.
Often times, people will judge the way someone else grieves, because it is not the same as the way that they would personally mourn. Some folks even go as far as to assume that someone is NOT anguished (by their definition), because they do not show it in a way that fits into this individual’s view of what grief should look like.
Here are some thoughts and quotes about death, as well as the unique view we each take of it.
Inspirational Quotes about Death and Mourning
“Guilt is perhaps the most painful companion to death.”- Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
“You will lose someone you can’t live without, and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly — that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.” – Anne Lamott
“There is something you must always remember. you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”- Winnie the Pooh
“If I can see pain in your eyes, then share with me your tears. If I can see joy in your eyes, then share with me your smile.” – Santosh Kalwar
“Deep grief sometimes is almost like a specific location, a coordinate on a map of time. When you are standing in that forest of sorrow, you cannot imagine that you could ever find your way to a better place. But if someone can assure you that they themselves have stood in that same place, and now have moved on, sometimes this will bring hope” – Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love
“And we wept that one so lovely should have a life so brief.” – William Cullen Bryant
“There is an hour, a minute – you will remember it forever – when you know instinctively on the basis of the most inconsequential evidence, that something is wrong. You don’t know – can’t know – that it is the first of a series of “wrongful” events that will culminate in the utter devastation of your life as you have known it.”- Joyce Carol Oates, A Widow’s Story
“When a friend of Abigail and John Adams was killed at Bunker Hill, Abigail’s response was to write a letter to her husband and include these words, ‘My bursting heart must find vent at my pen.’” – David McCullough
“A feeling of pleasure or solace can be so hard to find when you are in the depths of your grief. Sometimes it’s the little things that help get you through the day. You may think your comforts sound ridiculous to others, but there is nothing ridiculous about finding one little thing to help you feel good in the midst of pain and sorrow!” – Elizabeth Berrien, Creative Grieving: A Hip Chick’s Path from Loss to Hope
Beautiful Yet Profound Sayings and Quotes about Death
“When your fear touches someone’s pain, it becomes pity. When your love touches someone’s pain, it becomes compassion.” – Stephen Levine
“Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable. When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary. The people we trust with that important talk can help us know that we are not alone.”- Fred Rogers
“The reality is that we don’t forget, move on, and have closure. But rather we honor, we remember, and incorporate our deceased children and siblings into our lives in a new way. In fact, keeping memories of your loved one alive in your mind and heart is an important part of your healing journey.” – Harriet Schiff, author of The Bereaved Parent
“What we have once enjoyed deeply we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” – Helen Keller
“She was no longer wresting with the grief, but could sit down with it as a lasting companion and make it a sharer in her thoughts.” – George Eliot
“Three things in human life are important: The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind.” – Henry James
“We can endure much more than we think we can; all human experience testifies to that. All we need to do is learn not to be afraid of pain. Grit your teeth and let it hurt. Don’t deny it, don’t be overwhelmed by it. It will not last forever. One day, the pain will be gone and you will still be there.” – Harold Kushner, When All You’ve Ever Wanted Isn’t Enough
“Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them.” – Leo Tolstoy
“Honest listening is one of the best medicines we can offer the dying and the bereaved.” – Jean Cameron (dying of cancer)
More Uplifting Death Quotes
“You give yourself permission to grieve by recognizing the need for grieving. Grieving is the natural way of working through the loss of a love. Grieving is not weakness nor absence of faith. Grieving is as natural as crying when you are hurt, sleeping when you are tired or sneezing when your nose itches. It is nature’s way of healing a broken heart.” – Doug Manning
“For some moments in life there are no words.”- David Seltzer, Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory (1971 film adaptation)
What do you think about these quotes about death?
Something we should all remember is that each and everyone of us grieves in a different way. Each one of us has a different memory and relationship with the person who has passed away. While some grieve openly, (others keep it to themselves) and put on a stoic face.
The important lesson to learn is that death and grief are very unique and individual processes. What is right for us may not fit another. Embrace and grieve as you need to, and let others do the same.