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Just How Important Is Emotional Intelligence?



how important is emotional intelligence

The concept of emotional intelligence has been around since the 1980’s as a definable, measurable character trait, but it has long been recognised that the ability to recognise primary emotions, both in oneself and in others, gives a real advantage in both social interaction and work situations. Misinterpreting such emotions, on the other hand, can lead to difficulties with relationships or perhaps inappropriate reactions in a work environment.


Modern thinking is that emotional intelligence is at least as important as the more familiar concept of intelligence quotient (IQ) and some psychologists believe that it is more valuable in everyday life than having a high IQ. Being able to monitor emotions and respond accordingly is certainly a very useful characteristic, promoting empathy in a variety of situations.

Emotional Intelligence in Games

There are a number of games which call on having the ability to recognise emotions as part of the playing tactics, using emotional intelligence in a rather less serious way. One such game is Funny Feeling, a party game from You and Me Games Ltd, where players have, in turn, to recognise the random emotion or feeling being expressed by one of the other participants as they say or sing a phrase, or mime an action, possibly in a particular role. It is best played as a team party game with teenagers and adults, where people can relax and have fun.

We probably all apply a degree of emotional intelligence when we start playing games with young children. Even simple games, such as “Snap” or “Ludo” (did you know that the word “ludo” comes from the translation of the Latin word, meaning “I play”?) involve quite a learning experience for a young child and adjusting to the concept of competition is not always an easy process. Children are often naturally quite competitive and sometimes find it very difficult to learn to lose when playing a game. Being able to read and respond to their emotions so that they enjoy playing, without becoming too disheartened can be important part of a learning process. All parents can probably recognise the need to monitor emotions in their children, in this way, and thus apply their own format of emotional intelligence in the everyday domestic situation.

how important is emotional intelligence

Other applications of Emotional Intelligence

An obvious application of emotional intelligence is in the field of therapy, where reading a person’s emotions and feelings is an essential part of understanding that person and helping them come to terms with previous traumas. This article, from Psychology Today gives further insights into a fascinating topic.

Some employers place so much emphasis on having a high degree of emotional intelligence that they incorporate a series of psychological tests into their recruitment process. We have long been familiar with having IQ tests in that context, so perhaps it is a natural progression to measure a person’s ability to manage their own and others’ emotions. Certainly, it is an invaluable skill when it comes to managing staff, where the ability to recognise what motivates different people can make the difference between a happy team and one which suffers constant discord. Happy employees will always be more productive, so there is a sound commercial basis for including an assessment of emotional intelligence in the recruitment process.