Have you ever noticed that when you are around negative people, you tend to become negative yourself? Or that you become more positive when you are with positive people? Other personalities can really affect and rub off on us. So it is important that we try to take on more of the qualities of the positive people than the negative ones.
First, you need to know what to look for. Here are 10 differences between positive and negative people to watch for.
What Separates Positive People from Negative People
Negative people rarely give others praise, while positive people want to encourage others to be positive and happy as well. A good example is the negative person who picks apart someone’s work, while others look for things to praise – even when there is very little to praise. That’s because they care about the feelings of others.
When someone is successful, negative people tend to be jealous of that success. Positive people use the success of others as inspiration to succeed in their own lives. Look at what happens when a friend gets engaged. Positive friends are happy, while the negative friends look for ways to make their friend think that marriage isn’t so great after all.
Negative people fear change, while positive people look forward to it. For example: a positive person will look for good things when there are changes in the workplace. A negative person will likely just complain about the changes.
Positive people are truly concerned about how others are doing. Negative people don’t seem to care, and only think about themselves. For instance, a negative person wants to talk about themselves constantly. Meanwhile, a positive person wants to hear about your day, and truly cares about what you have to say.
5) Failures and Mistakes
A positive person will take responsibility for their mistakes – and learn from them. A negative person will blame others for their mistakes (such as the co-worker who always makes blunders), and finds a way to make them look like someone else’s fault.
Both positive and negative people will analyze big decisions carefully. The difference is, the positive person will look at the pros, while the negative person looks at the cons and can’t see the big picture, such as when buying or renting a house dilemma.
Positive people put 110 percent into everything they do. Negative people can’t be bothered to put much effort into anything. They always look for the easy way out. For example; you probably have co-workers who do only what they absolutely have to in order to get paid, while others are going above and beyond what is expected of them.
Negative people are afraid to take on new challenges; because they figure things won’t work out anyway. Positive people are ready to dive in and face new challenges head on, and are excited about it, such as starting a new career.
We can all benefit from constructive criticism, and positive people embrace it in order to better themselves. Negative people can’t handle any sort of criticism. If a negative person is told they have made a mistake, they won’t hear it at all. A positive person will ask how they can fix things.
A positive person knows that they aren’t the smartest person in the world, and are happy to learn new things. The negative person doesn’t want to hear any new things, points of view, etc., because they already know everything (in their own minds, anyway). Teachers often have trouble with negative students, because they are so difficult to teach.
Who we are with has an impact on our habits and behaviors. That’s why it’s important to carefully select who you spend most of your time with. Being with positive people can help you feel good, be inspired, and focus more on the bright side of life.