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How To Take Responsibility For Your Mistakes Without Beating Yourself Up



How To Take Responsibility for Your Mistakes

“Okay, your turn”, my girls shouted from the backseat during our long car ride back from skiing.

“Tell us the biggest mistake you ever made.”

“Well I’ve made a ton of mistakes”, I responded, “too many to count.”

“Honestly”, I continued, “in my mind, mistakes only happen when you don’t learn anything from it. If you learned something, then perhaps it wasn’t a mistake after all.”

The girls didn’t have much to say after that. However, for me, it left me wondering. If this was true, then why do people waste so much energy beating themselves up over them?


Why People Beat Themselves Over Their Mistakes

How To Take Responsibility for Your Mistakes

Mistakes are defined as a misguided act or judgment. They often come from misunderstandings, poor communication, lack of awareness, or rushing. They range from small ones, such as spilling an entire carton of blueberries at the grocery store (like I did), to bigger ones such as lying, cheating, or stealing.

The challenge is, if you grew up with harsh punishments, criticism, or you have low self-esteem, wanting to take responsibility for your mistake is probably the last thing on your mind.

Mistakes are tricky because people tend to personalize them. Rather than say, “I made a mistake”, instead, they somehow become the mistake.

For example, if they get into an argument, they are more likely to see the relationship as being wrong rather than as an opportunity to learn ways to communicate better.


How To Take Responsibility for Your Mistakes

How To Take Responsibility for Your Mistakes

I believe the first step in accepting responsibility for your mistakes is to acknowledge the way in which you might have minimized, hurt, avoided, or ignored what was happening in your life. Very often, we get so engrossed in our thoughts and situations we lose track of how we are responding (or not) to them.

For example, you may get caught up in replying to an email that you forgot to pick up the milk. You get home and rather than take responsibility for your oversight, you complain about how no one appreciates how hard you work. Handling things this way leaves you feeling tense, fed up, and frustrated.

Without taking this first step, the details in your head can begin to dominate your life. You know this because you may spend a lot of energy picking apart, analyzing, explaining – and in many cases defending – your position. Here’s the thing, darling, it is NOT about the damn details.

It is the way in which you choose to disregard (and in some cases, disrespect) yourself and others. So you didn’t study for a test and you failed it. Yeah, you could have made a more proactive choice. However, if you truly dig underneath your decision, you’re sure to discover how you had been reacting to things that are happening in your life.


Final Words…

How To Take Responsibility for Your Mistakes

Seeing mistakes as feedback, opportunities for growth, learning, and development, will help. If you’re still not quite sure about how to take responsibility, I will tell you that your mistakes are highly connected to your purpose.

Yes, I said purpose. If you don’t know what that is yet, taking accountability for your mishaps will help reveal it. Sure you could play it safe: cut yourself off from world, put up a wall, and blame it on the economy.

My friend, in order to live a life of fulfillment, you got to take it easy and give yourself permission to make mistakes. They will make you stronger, wiser, and humble. After all, the honorable, Mahatma Gandhi once said:

“Freedom isn’t worth having if it doesn’t include the freedom to make a mistake.”

Take responsibility for your mistakes today!


Sherianna Boyle is the author of Emotional Detox, Simon & Schuster, 2018 and six other titles. She is a professional speaker, adjunct Psychology Professor, seasoned yoga instructor, and Quantum Healing Practitioner. Her books and resources can be found at

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3 small steps that could make the biggest impact on your life



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“The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.”Lao Tzu

Every day that passes by, there is someone who is living a life that does not fuel their passion or purpose. Each moment feels like they are just existing or living life by accident. This could be due to fear of change, or limiting beliefs within them that say “you’re not worthy” or “I don’t deserve to be successful”.

It could be a number of things. Believe it or not, I used to be this person. I was stuck in a 9-5 job, in a 7-year relationship that was emotionally draining, and I was 75 lbs. overweight.

Then came that ONE day that would forever change my life. I remember it as if it were yesterday. I looked at myself in the mirror and saw what I had become. I didn’t recognize myself. I immediately burst into tears. This was NOT the life I wanted to live. I had neglected the most important person in my world: ME. 

It was then that I had to make an important choice. I decided to take the first step towards creating the life I would often dream about. That very next day, I promised myself that I would do just one thing that made me feel more connected to the goals I wanted to accomplish.

Not two or three. Just one. It didn’t matter how small it was. The point was it was a small step in the RIGHT direction. This has led me to the level of success that I am at today.

Here are three small steps that will help you make that same important decision and transform your life.


3 Small Steps That Could Make a Big Impact In Your Life

1.) Have a heart to heart with yourself.

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Take time to get away from people, places, or things, and just spend some time with yourself. In order to truly make any step towards the success you desire, you must have a great sense of self-awareness.

What is it that you want to accomplish and why? What truly makes you happy? What are you passionate about? How will accomplishing this change your life? How would it make you feel?

Be completely honest with yourself, your thoughts, and your intentions. Having these questions in front of you will keep you from going around in circles. They will give you more clarity and vision that should help you determine which small steps you need to take.

As a result, instead of being frustrated or reluctant to leave your comfort zone, you will be more confident now that you have a plan in place.


2.) Do ONE thing everyday that is connected to your goals.

small steps in the right direction

Always remember that you don’t have to always make massive amounts of progress at one time. The important thing is that you are continuously moving in the right direction. After all, Rome wasn’t built in a day. It took consistent daily, focused action. Over time, it became one of the most celebrated cities on the planet.

We live in a world that is bombarded with messages of instant gratification. But the truth is, any level of success is the result of a daily routine of the right things done for a certain period of time. That time can vary from days, weeks, months, or even years.

However, throughout the journey, you can see that you are moving closer and closer towards your ultimate goals. Do not underestimate the power of small steps. You will find yourself accomplishing things you never thought possible (and sooner than you anticipated).


3.) Do not measure your level of success by comparing yourself to others.

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Success means something different for everyone. You must not become fixated on what media or entertainment portrays as successful. A fulfilling life is more than material possessions. Understand that you can only live the greatest life possible when you have defined what success is to you.

As you begin taking small steps and making progress, focus only on what your desired goals are. Don’t allow yourself to be distracted by what others are saying, doing, or what they believe success should look like. Too often, we get caught up in what society, current trends, and what the masses portray as “I’ve made it”.

This is your life. Only YOU can determine what accomplishment, achievement, and true success means to you. In fact, one of the reasons why you may be in the position you are in is because you designed your life based on the thoughts and opinions of others. This was my case years ago.



You deserve to be great. You have greatness within you. Sometimes, that can be clouded by limiting beliefs, adversity, or just the many circumstances in life. Think about everything that has happened in your life right up until the point you are reading this article.

I want you to know that everything that happened before NO LONGER MATTERS. What matters now is that today, you have the knowledge of who you are and where you want to go. The ability to change your life is within your grasp and your power.

Today, you have the chance to begin a journey that leads to some amazing and incredible years ahead. The best part about it is that you only need to take small steps in the right direction. So take action now – your dreams are waiting for you!

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Couple Entrepreneurs: How to Make It Happen With Your Partner



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Have you always dreamed of having success as an entrepreneur? Thoughts of working for yourself, doing things you’re passionate about, and not worrying about working for someone else may linger in your mind most of the time. If you’re married, there is a chance that your partner has some of the same goals, and that means the two of you could eventually become a pair of successful entrepreneurs who motivate one another, continually work hard, and reach all kinds of goals that will get you both further in life.


How to Make It Work


Although you may like the idea of becoming a successful entrepreneur while your partner does the same, it’s not uncommon to have some concerns about the situation. You may worry that you’re both going to take on too much and not have enough time for one another, but that isn’t always the case. It’s all about prioritizing work, setting a schedule, and being there to support one another through the ups and downs that will eventually occur.


Before working together to achieve goals, sit down and have a full conversation about the goals you’d like to achieve and the role you’ll each take on. Both of you will need to come to an agreement to keep work and the relationship separately while being respectful to one another. You can’t expect to have success with your partner if neither of you are respecting one another or collectively sharing ideas. You’ll need to focus on communication and compromising at times to make things work on a long-term basis.


Prime Examples of Successful Entrepreneur Couples


If you’re in need of motivation and encouragement because you’re not sure how to get your start in a specific industry with your partner, it may be best for you to learn a bit more about some of the successful entrepreneur couples out there. These couples work hard to achieve their goals and they support one another in various business ventures. They put forth the effort that is required of them to consistently achieve their goals.


Chris Sacca is a successful billionaire who once was fired from a job as a lawyer and then moved on to Google where had more opportunities to learn, invest, and become the success he is today. He is now the owner of a successful venture capital fund, known as Lowercase Capital. Although he’s had much success in his career, Chris Sacca’s wife, Crystal English Sacca, is a successful entrepreneur in her own right. She’s spent most of her career creating compelling and engaging commercials as well as digital advertisements for various companies. She’s worked for several of the most popular brands, including Sprint and HBO. In addition to these accomplishments, she works as an art director. While these two individuals aren’t doing the same things, they’re a married couple supporting one another while they each work hard to achieve their own personal goals.


In addition to Chris Sacca and his wife, Stewart and Lynda Resnick are another good example of a successful entrepreneur power couple. They currently have a net worth of 3.9 billion dollars. So, what is it that they’re selling? There is a good chance you’ve consumed at least one of the many products they own and distribute, such as Fiji Water or Halos oranges. The pair met when Lynda started her own ad agency and was assisting Stewart with a project for the business he was running at that time. Over time, they started working collectively together to invest and sell assorted products to the public, many of which are naturally good for human consumption.


Do What You Love and Respect One Another


There are plenty of entrepreneur couples out there. Some are just getting started while others have been in business for decades and continue to achieve a high level of success. Although you may be focused on figuring out your passion and what you want to do to get further in life while making a decent income, it’s important to understand that it’s possible for you to achieve the same level of success as some of these people who are earning millions of dollars each year. Most people don’t become a success overnight but figuring out what you want to do and how you’re going to make it happen is a great way to get started.


In addition to figuring out what you’d love to do for the rest of your life, you’ll need to remember to always respect your partner throughout the process. The thing about these successful couples is that they’re willing to provide support and guidance, they know how to communicate, and they believe in one another. If you don’t have respect, trust, and support in the relationship, it’s going to be difficult to have success as entrepreneurs together.


If you’ve always dreamed of running your own business with your partner by your side, it’s not a dream that is too farfetched. In fact, there are lots of successful couples that are working hard, reaching goals, and living the life they’ve always dreamed of having.

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