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7 Things You Don’t Need to Be Happy



There are a lot of things in this world that can make most of us pretty darn happy. Simple things like a sunset, an ice cream cone on a hot summer day, or a having a good friend stop by unexpectedly. These can provide us with true happiness and joy.

Happiness is also achieved by having plenty of money to buy what you need and want, having a family to love you and to love them back, and enjoying good health. Yet, there are 350 million people worldwide suffering from depression, with rates expected to rise.

Right now, we are experiencing a global epidemic of unhappiness. While there are tons of experts out there sharing their thoughts and ideas about what we need to be happy, not many people are really talking about things you don’t need. To me, knowing what I need and what I should eliminate are both of equal importance.

So how do you figure out what you don’t actually need to feel and be happy? What exactly do we need to eliminate in our lives to achieve happiness? Here are my favorite top seven.


7 Things You Don’t Really Need To Feel Good About Your Life

1) A Fat Bank Account

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While money is definitely a need in this world (as we need money to clothes, feed and shelter ourselves, etc.), there are A LOT of studies out there that show you only need a certain amount to be happy – and it’s not a lot.

In fact, the more money you have, the more problems you may encounter. So while you’re sitting at home feeling like a loser because you haven’t made your first million, remember that happiness exists without money.

Monks and nuns take vows of poverty on purpose, and yet seem so content and serene. They realize as long as their basic needs are met, they have every reason to feel happy. So remember:

A: According to the experts, the benchmark salary for happy living starts at $75,000 a year.

B: If you start feeling down about how “poor” you think you are, go volunteer for a nice dose of reality. I guarantee you will feel happier about your life’s circumstances afterwards.


2) A Large Wardrobe of Clothing

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One of the things you don’t need to be happy is a large selection of clothing. If you pulled out your entire wardrobe and put aside the items you actually wore in the last six months, you’d probably find that you only wore a small portion. You might even discover a few items you had completely forgotten about.

While they say that clothes make the man, I think “they” are wrong, or were at least speaking about a different era. Nowadays, the movers and shakers in our world are realizing there are already too many complex decisions for them to make. So why bother wasting time and energy on their wardrobe?

Many have a few items to choose from, or in the case of Steve Jobs, ONE signature look that allows them to focus on what they find important in life. It’s clearly not how they appear to others. Even serious fashionistas don’t need to rival Mariah Carey’s wardrobe to look AND feel their best. So remember:

A: True happiness comes from looking and feeling great inside and out. Try owning 20 pieces that look great on you and are well-made. You’ll save time, energy, and you’ll always feel fabulous.

B: Your wardrobe is like you: ever growing and changing. It should reflect that. So stop holding onto clothing you’ve owned, but haven’t worn forever.


3) Being Perfect All the Time

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Whether that means having or living what looks like a perfect past, present, or future, perfection isn’t reality. It’s definitely NOT possible to be perfect all the time. It cannot lead to happiness because it’s an unattainable goal.

Also, the idea of perfection differs from person to person. Unless your aim is to become a Stepford wife (or husband), it’s a futile goal, because humans make mistakes. It’s what we do; our jam, if you will.

We all have things we do well (some more than others), but we also all have lessons to learn, issues we struggle with, and a past that sometimes may not look so pretty to others. That’s okay. It’s what we choose to do in those moments that matters the most.

That means being the best YOU that you can be everyday, even if it doesn’t look the way you thought it would. So when you forget that perfection is one of the things you don’t need for a happy life, remember that:

A: Perfection is a great way to become stuck and unhappy. So let yourself fail, make mistakes, and then learn from them. You will feel happy and more empowered if you accept yourself as you are, rather than striving for an unattainable goal.

B: Remember to count the little successes as well as the big ones. They’ll help remind you of how great you are, even on those days when you feel you didn’t accomplish as much as you’d hoped.


4) Having Hundreds of “Friends”

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While most of us left High School a while ago, it seems the High Schooler in all of us never really left. This is especially true when social media sites like Facebook came along.

Now if you don’t have hundreds or even thousands of “friends” on your social media sites, it feels as though you’re destined to become the lonely spinster living with a disturbingly high number of cats. Have no fear: NO ONE is ever truly happy just because it looks like they have a ton of friends.

Real friends connect with you in person. They can see and connect in a real way with you. Some of the happiest people I know don’t even have social media accounts. It’s just one of those things you don’t need to feel complete.

So on those days you’re feeling suspiciously like a crazy cat lady, remember to:

A: Disconnect from social media every once in awhile. Connect with a friend face-to-face (and I don’t mean using Facetime) instead. Ask someone to lunch, a walk, or a coffee, and see how much happier you feel after experiencing a real connection, where you can actually touch the other person.

B: Choose to surround yourself with people who are kind, loving and supportive of you, your lifestyle, and your ideas. The rest of them will only make you feel unhappy and judged. They aren’t worthy of your time or your consideration.


5) The Perfect Family

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Even the Brady Bunch had problems. In real life, Greg dated Mrs. Brady and Mr. Brady preferred men. No one’s family is perfect. NO ONE. So thinking that life will be so much better if your family were perfect, is a waste of time and energy.

We can’t choose our families. And we can’t control how they act or think. But that doesn’t mean our family is a true reflection of who we are as an individual. Some families are happier and more well-adjusted; while others may be so toxic that you may have to physically leave and create your own to be happy.

A perfect family is one of the things you don’t need to be really happy. But it is possible to have a family that loves, supports, and respect you. When family woes have gotten you down, remember that:

A: You don’t actually have to be a blood relative to be considered part of a family. You just need to be surrounded by people who love you and accept you for who you are. Seek them out when you need a happy pick-me-up.

B: Support is a two-way street. So in order to receive, you must also give support, love, and care back.


6) Total Control

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You know that saying about how when you make plans, God laughs? That’s because whether you believe in a higher power or not, it’s pretty true. There are so few things we actually have control over in our lives. So thinking we can control everything is a great way to feel unhappy all the time.

For example: while we do have some control over our health by eating healthy and exercising regularly, a health condition or an accident can change that in a minute. However, experiencing a crisis doesn’t mean you can’t remain happy. Your commitment to remaining happy will actually help you through the stressful situation.

So when life craps all over your dreams and you feel completely out of control, that you’re convinced you’ll never feel happy again, remember that:

A: Even when you do things “perfectly” it may not turn out the way you expected. But sometimes, something even better comes out of it instead.

B: When life feels out of control, have some self care tools like a hot bath, a long walk, or taking deep breaths handy to help you refocus. Remember what is going well in your life. It will help you remain positive in your thoughts and actions. Don’t mind the things you don’t need to be happy.


7) The Power to Make Everyone Else Happy

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The only way you can truly make others happy is by being yourself 100 percent of the time. Even then, a fair amount of people will hate you for daring to be yourself.

The more you try to make them happy so they’ll finally like you, the more likely they’ll hate you even more. They’ll also have no respect for you. If you are looking for a quick and easy way to burn-out and feel unloved, unappreciated and unhappy, become a people-pleaser.

If you are looking for a happy and empowered life, choose to make decisions based on your needs. So when you’re tempted to become someone’s doormat, remember that:

A: People pleasing is not a selfless act. While it may feel that way, when you think about it, you’re really manipulating someone into liking you because you’ll do stuff for them. Whatever your motivation, it’s not a healthy, balanced relationship.

B: Happiness comes from within. If you’re trying to please people into liking you, then perhaps it’s because you don’t feel as though you’re likable enough on your own. You may need to take some time to do some soul-searching about how you approach your relationships with others, and more importantly, with yourself.



In our society, we are bombarded with images of happy, healthy, beautiful people surrounded by a bunch of stuff. We’re taught that the person with the best and most stuff wins.

It almost feels as though we are behaving like junkies. The more stuff we accumulate, the more stuff we need to feel that same high. This is until we have so much stuff that it’s become nearly impossible to be happy underneath the chaos and overwhelm they cause.

So learn to identify the things you don’t need to be happy. After all, living with less, is still living.

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3 small steps that could make the biggest impact on your life



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“The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.”Lao Tzu

Every day that passes by, there is someone who is living a life that does not fuel their passion or purpose. Each moment feels like they are just existing or living life by accident. This could be due to fear of change, or limiting beliefs within them that say “you’re not worthy” or “I don’t deserve to be successful”.

It could be a number of things. Believe it or not, I used to be this person. I was stuck in a 9-5 job, in a 7-year relationship that was emotionally draining, and I was 75 lbs. overweight.

Then came that ONE day that would forever change my life. I remember it as if it were yesterday. I looked at myself in the mirror and saw what I had become. I didn’t recognize myself. I immediately burst into tears. This was NOT the life I wanted to live. I had neglected the most important person in my world: ME. 

It was then that I had to make an important choice. I decided to take the first step towards creating the life I would often dream about. That very next day, I promised myself that I would do just one thing that made me feel more connected to the goals I wanted to accomplish.

Not two or three. Just one. It didn’t matter how small it was. The point was it was a small step in the RIGHT direction. This has led me to the level of success that I am at today.

Here are three small steps that will help you make that same important decision and transform your life.


3 Small Steps That Could Make a Big Impact In Your Life

1.) Have a heart to heart with yourself.

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Take time to get away from people, places, or things, and just spend some time with yourself. In order to truly make any step towards the success you desire, you must have a great sense of self-awareness.

What is it that you want to accomplish and why? What truly makes you happy? What are you passionate about? How will accomplishing this change your life? How would it make you feel?

Be completely honest with yourself, your thoughts, and your intentions. Having these questions in front of you will keep you from going around in circles. They will give you more clarity and vision that should help you determine which small steps you need to take.

As a result, instead of being frustrated or reluctant to leave your comfort zone, you will be more confident now that you have a plan in place.


2.) Do ONE thing everyday that is connected to your goals.

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Always remember that you don’t have to always make massive amounts of progress at one time. The important thing is that you are continuously moving in the right direction. After all, Rome wasn’t built in a day. It took consistent daily, focused action. Over time, it became one of the most celebrated cities on the planet.

We live in a world that is bombarded with messages of instant gratification. But the truth is, any level of success is the result of a daily routine of the right things done for a certain period of time. That time can vary from days, weeks, months, or even years.

However, throughout the journey, you can see that you are moving closer and closer towards your ultimate goals. Do not underestimate the power of small steps. You will find yourself accomplishing things you never thought possible (and sooner than you anticipated).


3.) Do not measure your level of success by comparing yourself to others.

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Success means something different for everyone. You must not become fixated on what media or entertainment portrays as successful. A fulfilling life is more than material possessions. Understand that you can only live the greatest life possible when you have defined what success is to you.

As you begin taking small steps and making progress, focus only on what your desired goals are. Don’t allow yourself to be distracted by what others are saying, doing, or what they believe success should look like. Too often, we get caught up in what society, current trends, and what the masses portray as “I’ve made it”.

This is your life. Only YOU can determine what accomplishment, achievement, and true success means to you. In fact, one of the reasons why you may be in the position you are in is because you designed your life based on the thoughts and opinions of others. This was my case years ago.



You deserve to be great. You have greatness within you. Sometimes, that can be clouded by limiting beliefs, adversity, or just the many circumstances in life. Think about everything that has happened in your life right up until the point you are reading this article.

I want you to know that everything that happened before NO LONGER MATTERS. What matters now is that today, you have the knowledge of who you are and where you want to go. The ability to change your life is within your grasp and your power.

Today, you have the chance to begin a journey that leads to some amazing and incredible years ahead. The best part about it is that you only need to take small steps in the right direction. So take action now – your dreams are waiting for you!

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Couple Entrepreneurs: How to Make It Happen With Your Partner



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Have you always dreamed of having success as an entrepreneur? Thoughts of working for yourself, doing things you’re passionate about, and not worrying about working for someone else may linger in your mind most of the time. If you’re married, there is a chance that your partner has some of the same goals, and that means the two of you could eventually become a pair of successful entrepreneurs who motivate one another, continually work hard, and reach all kinds of goals that will get you both further in life.


How to Make It Work


Although you may like the idea of becoming a successful entrepreneur while your partner does the same, it’s not uncommon to have some concerns about the situation. You may worry that you’re both going to take on too much and not have enough time for one another, but that isn’t always the case. It’s all about prioritizing work, setting a schedule, and being there to support one another through the ups and downs that will eventually occur.


Before working together to achieve goals, sit down and have a full conversation about the goals you’d like to achieve and the role you’ll each take on. Both of you will need to come to an agreement to keep work and the relationship separately while being respectful to one another. You can’t expect to have success with your partner if neither of you are respecting one another or collectively sharing ideas. You’ll need to focus on communication and compromising at times to make things work on a long-term basis.


Prime Examples of Successful Entrepreneur Couples


If you’re in need of motivation and encouragement because you’re not sure how to get your start in a specific industry with your partner, it may be best for you to learn a bit more about some of the successful entrepreneur couples out there. These couples work hard to achieve their goals and they support one another in various business ventures. They put forth the effort that is required of them to consistently achieve their goals.


Chris Sacca is a successful billionaire who once was fired from a job as a lawyer and then moved on to Google where had more opportunities to learn, invest, and become the success he is today. He is now the owner of a successful venture capital fund, known as Lowercase Capital. Although he’s had much success in his career, Chris Sacca’s wife, Crystal English Sacca, is a successful entrepreneur in her own right. She’s spent most of her career creating compelling and engaging commercials as well as digital advertisements for various companies. She’s worked for several of the most popular brands, including Sprint and HBO. In addition to these accomplishments, she works as an art director. While these two individuals aren’t doing the same things, they’re a married couple supporting one another while they each work hard to achieve their own personal goals.


In addition to Chris Sacca and his wife, Stewart and Lynda Resnick are another good example of a successful entrepreneur power couple. They currently have a net worth of 3.9 billion dollars. So, what is it that they’re selling? There is a good chance you’ve consumed at least one of the many products they own and distribute, such as Fiji Water or Halos oranges. The pair met when Lynda started her own ad agency and was assisting Stewart with a project for the business he was running at that time. Over time, they started working collectively together to invest and sell assorted products to the public, many of which are naturally good for human consumption.


Do What You Love and Respect One Another


There are plenty of entrepreneur couples out there. Some are just getting started while others have been in business for decades and continue to achieve a high level of success. Although you may be focused on figuring out your passion and what you want to do to get further in life while making a decent income, it’s important to understand that it’s possible for you to achieve the same level of success as some of these people who are earning millions of dollars each year. Most people don’t become a success overnight but figuring out what you want to do and how you’re going to make it happen is a great way to get started.


In addition to figuring out what you’d love to do for the rest of your life, you’ll need to remember to always respect your partner throughout the process. The thing about these successful couples is that they’re willing to provide support and guidance, they know how to communicate, and they believe in one another. If you don’t have respect, trust, and support in the relationship, it’s going to be difficult to have success as entrepreneurs together.


If you’ve always dreamed of running your own business with your partner by your side, it’s not a dream that is too farfetched. In fact, there are lots of successful couples that are working hard, reaching goals, and living the life they’ve always dreamed of having.

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