More than 40 percent of adult population in America is single, and it is not much different with other countries either. You can panic about this, knowing that you’re one of them – OR you can look at the bright side: there is a giant pool of singles waiting for you.
Now, getting a man to fall for you isn’t nearly as difficult as you think it is. But making him want to stay AFTER the infatuation stage of intense attraction is a whole different story. After that, you’re scratching the surface and getting to know each other, hoping that you’ll find something you like.
There are so many discussions about what women want. But let us see what men want to discover when they scratch that surface.
What Men Want In a Woman That Will Make Them Want To Stay
1) Attractiveness and Self-Confidence (Two Sides of the Same Coin)
Let us get this one of the table: of course, men like attractive women – but that doesn’t mean they’re animals. Attractiveness doesn’t have to be merely about physical appearance. After they get to know a woman, what men want is a woman who loves herself.
So yes, ladies, the greatest attractiveness lies in your confidence. And that is what we like to call mental attractiveness.
After you’re done with most of the “getting to know each other” conversations, you will have to have some other topics to talk about, or else you’ll be bored to death.
By intelligence, we don’t mean having a Ph.D. in nuclear physics. But a good grasp of common sense and general awareness of current events is a good starting point. A clever woman is the one that he’ll gladly introduce to his friends and family, and that surely signals that he wants to stay.
3) Mature, but Playful
Even though women, in general, mature quicker than men, the trends in the last couple of decades and the celebrity role models make this process slower. We can see women in their 30s snapping selfies and acting childish. This can be interesting for a month, tops. After that, it is simply tasteless.
Maturity comes with experience, suffering, and leaving childhood behind. That doesn’t mean that you should lose your playfulness, though. Stay competitive, but only in casual games.
Of course, you won’t tell him everything there is to know about you at the first date. But don’t lie. If you’re going to stay together, eventually he’ll find out. Instead of lying about some things you can’t tell him, just say you are not ready to share that with him, but one day you will be.
Lying, even about the tiniest things, makes men feel insecure – and an insecure man won’t stick around.
Mutual trust is the basis of a healthy relationship. If you are honest, you deserve his trust. If he’s doing everything within his power to earn yours, you shouldn’t spend your days asking “does he love me”.
Men don’t like insecure women. They especially hate feeling like they’re sitting on the defendant’s bench when explaining where they have been and what have they been doing. What men want is someone they can trust – and someone who trusts them in return.
We live in an age when women are expected to be able to take care of themselves: financially, socially, and physically. So, if you think that it is cute that you don’t know how to change a lightbulb, think again. The fact that you have your own life, friends, and interests will attract him more over time, as he will be able to do the same.
And by respect, we mean respect for yourself, for your man, and for others.
Respecting yourself means being aware of who you are, appreciating that, and not allowing anyone to put you down. You will show your significant other respect by listening to what he has to say, taking his opinions seriously, and valuing your time together, as well as the time he spends at work or with his friends.
Finally, you have to show respect to everyone, especially his friends and family. Being seen yelling at the waiter for getting you cold coffee is everything but attractive.
Humans are emotional beings – and no, men didn’t come from Mars. They too, like when someone shows affection for them. It is warm, welcoming, and encouraging. Just like women, what men want is someone to grab their hand, give them a hug, and tell them that everything is going to be OK, even when it seems that nothing is.
If you answer the question “where you want to go tonight” with “it’s up to you” after your third date, he’ll probably think of you as clingy and indecisive. And that is such a turnoff for guys.
When they see a woman who doesn’t know what to do when faced with the most trivial choices, they imagine a future with an overly dependent woman. And that is the future they want to run away from.
10) Sense of Humor
Women are not the only ones who like it when someone makes them laugh. Men enjoy that, too. Don’t be afraid to show your true self, being goofy is sometimes OK, especially after you pass the first stage of a relationship. Laugh, enjoy life, have a great time everywhere (even in the grocery store), and your future together will be amazing.
When looking for romance, don’t simply focus on what men want. The most important conclusion to draw from all of this is to be who YOU are, and love it. Everything else is a matter of time or practice.