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ONE Habit That Can Transform Your Life and Become a Gift to Others



“In order to move on, you must understand why you felt what you did and why you no longer need to feel it.” ― Mitch Albom, The Five People You Meet in Heaven

Habits are things that we do naturally without thinking too much. Habits, of course, can be bad or good. For example: you may have a habit of checking to make sure all doors are locked before you leave home. Or you may be used to eating breakfast at exactly 9AM with a fresh glass of orange juice. I just told you some of my habits. Whether they’re good or bad, it depends on the reader.

However, there is ONE habit that can transform your life. And that is training your mind to counteract each negative thought with a positive one.

This habit, when practiced daily, can lead to career advancement and improvement in your outlook on life. If you tend to have a negative perspective, this habit can help turn you to a person of optimism; thereby blessing others with your thoughts and words of goodness.

Below are three easy steps to slowly ease you into this mindset. But as with all habits, this requires focus and dedication. It requires repetition until it becomes second nature and a part of who you are.

1) Recognize and Acknowledge Negative Thoughts

It’s crucial to immediately recognize whenever you have a negative thought and know where your mind is drifting from there. This negative thought can lead to you becoming stressed or taking out your frustrations on others. It can also lead to you missing an opportunity.

Imagine if you thought you did not deserve a promotion and did nothing to fight this thought. You would be putting yourself in a losing position! Thus, missing this amazing opportunity. The side effects of negative thoughts are endless. Therefore, it is imperative that upon recognition and acknowledgment of negative thoughts, you move to step two.

If you really want to transform your life, DO NOT linger in negativity.

2) Think of the Positives

Immediately after recognizing the negative thought, begin re-shaping it to form a positive angle.

For example: when I was writing my first book, Women in Government: 10 Key Strategies to Advance Your Career, I began thinking what if my book gets a bad rating, it will be unsuccessful. However, I was aware of this thought and immediately changed it. I imagined what would happen if my book became successful. This means that I would be able to help others advance their careers. Then, I decided I was NOT going to let fear win.

This simple positive thought outweighed the negative. I am glad I participated in this exercise because the positivity has tremendously reduced the fears and concerns I had.

3) Create an Emotional Investment

While this step may seem scary – especially if the desired outcome didn’t come true – it is important to connect emotionally with your positive thoughts. Doing so will help you focus and be motivated by the positivity instead of returning to the negative thought. Remember: even if the positive thought is unsuccessful, there is still a lesson to learn or a positive angle to explore. This perseverance is what can truly transform your life.

For instance: if you didn’t let the negative thought hold you back from applying for a job and you didn’t get the job, there is still positivity in the experience. This experience has just helped you practice your interviewing skills and learn from any mistakes you may have made.

Just imagine how it would feel like once you land your dream job after trying other professions. Going through these trials prepared you to become effective in what you really wanted to do. However, imagine if you didn’t go through this struggle. You may not appreciate, value, and enjoy your dream occupation. Even worse, you may NOT be prepared for it (which could lead to you losing that job).

Transform Your Life Today: Be the Gift You Want To See

One motto I live by that applies directly to this is:

“everything happens for a reason.”

With this motto and mindset, I know that whatever happens in life, there is a bigger purpose behind it. I do not stress over the negative or hurtful things, because I know that eventually, I will gain understanding of why I experienced such hard times.

Even if it is to make me stronger or prepare for something in life, I am never disappointed with this mindset. Sometimes in life, we have to go through hard times to get to the good times. We have to go through the pain to get to the happiness – and there is just NO way around it.

This is how you see the positive in the negative. Sometimes we go through hard times or negativity in order to connect and share our stories with others, in order to become a gift to their lives.

Hopefully, this exercise will help you to be open-minded and think from numerous perspectives. Don’t forget that everything happens for a reason. Never stop training your mind to counteract each negative thought with a positive one so you can transform your life – and others – for the better.

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Couple Entrepreneurs: How to Make It Happen With Your Partner



Partners entrepreneurs


Have you always dreamed of having success as an entrepreneur? Thoughts of working for yourself, doing things you’re passionate about, and not worrying about working for someone else may linger in your mind most of the time. If you’re married, there is a chance that your partner has some of the same goals, and that means the two of you could eventually become a pair of successful entrepreneurs who motivate one another, continually work hard, and reach all kinds of goals that will get you both further in life.


How to Make It Work


Although you may like the idea of becoming a successful entrepreneur while your partner does the same, it’s not uncommon to have some concerns about the situation. You may worry that you’re both going to take on too much and not have enough time for one another, but that isn’t always the case. It’s all about prioritizing work, setting a schedule, and being there to support one another through the ups and downs that will eventually occur.


Before working together to achieve goals, sit down and have a full conversation about the goals you’d like to achieve and the role you’ll each take on. Both of you will need to come to an agreement to keep work and the relationship separately while being respectful to one another. You can’t expect to have success with your partner if neither of you are respecting one another or collectively sharing ideas. You’ll need to focus on communication and compromising at times to make things work on a long-term basis.


Prime Examples of Successful Entrepreneur Couples


If you’re in need of motivation and encouragement because you’re not sure how to get your start in a specific industry with your partner, it may be best for you to learn a bit more about some of the successful entrepreneur couples out there. These couples work hard to achieve their goals and they support one another in various business ventures. They put forth the effort that is required of them to consistently achieve their goals.


Chris Sacca is a successful billionaire who once was fired from a job as a lawyer and then moved on to Google where had more opportunities to learn, invest, and become the success he is today. He is now the owner of a successful venture capital fund, known as Lowercase Capital. Although he’s had much success in his career, Chris Sacca’s wife, Crystal English Sacca, is a successful entrepreneur in her own right. She’s spent most of her career creating compelling and engaging commercials as well as digital advertisements for various companies. She’s worked for several of the most popular brands, including Sprint and HBO. In addition to these accomplishments, she works as an art director. While these two individuals aren’t doing the same things, they’re a married couple supporting one another while they each work hard to achieve their own personal goals.


In addition to Chris Sacca and his wife, Stewart and Lynda Resnick are another good example of a successful entrepreneur power couple. They currently have a net worth of 3.9 billion dollars. So, what is it that they’re selling? There is a good chance you’ve consumed at least one of the many products they own and distribute, such as Fiji Water or Halos oranges. The pair met when Lynda started her own ad agency and was assisting Stewart with a project for the business he was running at that time. Over time, they started working collectively together to invest and sell assorted products to the public, many of which are naturally good for human consumption.


Do What You Love and Respect One Another


There are plenty of entrepreneur couples out there. Some are just getting started while others have been in business for decades and continue to achieve a high level of success. Although you may be focused on figuring out your passion and what you want to do to get further in life while making a decent income, it’s important to understand that it’s possible for you to achieve the same level of success as some of these people who are earning millions of dollars each year. Most people don’t become a success overnight but figuring out what you want to do and how you’re going to make it happen is a great way to get started.


In addition to figuring out what you’d love to do for the rest of your life, you’ll need to remember to always respect your partner throughout the process. The thing about these successful couples is that they’re willing to provide support and guidance, they know how to communicate, and they believe in one another. If you don’t have respect, trust, and support in the relationship, it’s going to be difficult to have success as entrepreneurs together.


If you’ve always dreamed of running your own business with your partner by your side, it’s not a dream that is too farfetched. In fact, there are lots of successful couples that are working hard, reaching goals, and living the life they’ve always dreamed of having.

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How Does Sleep Affect Your Mental Health?



Sleep and Mental Health

Sleep is our body’s repair mode. Our cells, tissues, muscles, and hormones are all replenished during the deepest phases of sleep. This ensures that we are operating at our best the next day.

Experts recommend about seven (7) hours of sleep a day for an average adult. This is keeps you mentally and physically focused. But what happens when you don’t get enough? Is there a link between sleep and our mental health?


The Link Between Sleep and Mood

Even someone who isn’t an expert on the subject can appreciate how active they feel after a good night’s sleep. In contrast, one can feel exhausted, irritated, and distracted after not getting enough the night before. That’s because sleep plays an important role in your mood and performance.

Researchers from the University of Pennsylvania conducted a study in which the subjects were restricted sleep to only 4.5 hours each night. After a week, the subjects reported greater levels of negative emotions and mental tiredness. Once they were allowed to sleep normally however, there was a sharp improvement in their mood.

Just as sleep impacts your mood, your present state of mind also has an equivalent effect on the quality of your sleep. If you’re anxious or stressed, your body will release hormones that force you to stay awake through the night, depriving you of much-needed rest. The result is a cycle of stress and lack of sleep.

Research suggests that around 15-20 percent of people who are dealing with insomnia (an inability to fall asleep) go on to develop serious mental depression. While research is still being conducted about the exact nature of the relationship between sleep and depression, there has been enough progress to indicate a strong correlation between the two.

People who suffer from insomnia are at a significantly greater risk to develop depression or anxiety. In fact, the onset of these conditions can be accurately predicted by studying the patient’s sleep patterns.


The Link Between Sleep and Learning

In addition to your mood, sleep also appears to impact your mind’s ability to learn. Three separate processes govern learning in your brain: acquisition, consolidation, and recall.

Acquisition entails receiving information and storing it in your neural circuitry. The second process, consolidation, strengthens the neural connections in your mind so that the memory is stored in an optimally useful form. Recall is when the brain accesses this stored memory when it is needed.

Poor sleep compromises all three of these processes. However, it is acquisition and recall that are most affected by sleep deprivation. Recent research has also demonstrated that a lack of sleep can reduce the brain’s ability to consolidate information it is presented with.

Students take note: inadequate sleep may negatively affect your chances of passing that exam. Indeed, you may even find yourself forgetting how to do simple tasks. If you’ve ever been involved in back-to-back all-nighters during exam week, you may already have experienced forgetting a solution to a simple problem – even after you’d done it half a dozen times!


Dealing with Sleep Problems To Improve Mental Health

If you’re experiencing emotional apathy, anxiety, depression, or irritability, one of the steps you can take before seeking a professional is to assess your sleep situation.

Treat sleep as a ritual. Similar to reading to a child before putting them to bed, a habit that helps one disconnect from gadgets and put their mind in a relaxed mood can go a long way towards ensuring a restful, wholesome, sleep experience.

Making time before going to bed is a good idea. Avoid exposure to bright lights (such as those emitted by computer screens and smartphones). Try not to consume caffeine or alcohol, as all of these can be detrimental to the quality of sleep (and may even prevent the onset of sleep completely).

Obviously, the way you’ve set up your bed (and your entire bedroom) will also play an important role in how well you’re able to sleep. For example, memory foam mattresses are often recommended for individuals who sleep in awkward postures that can cause back pain. For some good reviews, check out The Sleep Judge.

If you can’t get rid of thoughts buzzing around in your head, you may want to listen to some natural background sounds, such as rainfall or wind rushing through trees. This will ease your mind away from distractions, helping you drift off to sleep. If you get the recommended amount, see how replenished you feel the next day!


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