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15 Ways to Help Zero in Your Goals and Fulfill Your Dreams



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“Following your dreams” is easier said than done. Knowing who you want to be, or what you want to do in life, is not always a clear or easy path. Most importantly, if you really want to achieve your dreams, it is up to you to actively work towards making them happen.


“Wishful thinking” might strengthen your desire, but will not get you closer to fulfilling those dreams, unless you are also examining and evaluating options to make them happen.


Here is a list of 15 ways to help zero in your goals, and fulfill your dreams:


1) Clearly define what your dream is.

It is not the same to say, “I want to be rich”, than to think “I want to own my own house, a car, and have enough money left to live comfortably every month”.  When we dissect our dream and think of it in a realistic way, it becomes less a “wish”, and a more tangible goal. Thus, having a clear idea of what you want usually means you have already won half the battle.


2) Listen to your “calling”. Explore and identify your abilities and capabilities.

Make a list of your strengths and think of ways on how they might help you achieve your goal. If you have a talent, or truly enjoy doing something specific, use that gift to fulfill your dream. There are amazing stories of people being successful at what they do, even for the most surprising reasons, because they are passionate about it, and that is something others will recognize and value.


3) Write down a few ways that would work for you to achieve that dream.

Jot down any idea that comes to mind, even if it sounds absurd, as it will help open your mind and perspective to what you might be capable of achieving. Even if it isn’t something useful at the moment, it might serve as an inspiration for something that could be.


4) If you don’t know where to start, or don’t have a rough plan on how you will make it happen, do a little research on what others did to successfully achieve a similar dream.

Once you have a few ideas, tweak them to make them your own – think how they would work for you and your circumstances.


5) Start with small goals that are easy to achieve.

There are always small steps you can take to achieve a bigger end-goal. Starting with something that is easily achieved will boost your confidence while getting you closer to your main objective.


6) Enjoy your “small victories”.

When you do achieve a small goal you had established, take time to acknowledge the feeling of accomplishment. Appreciate how you set up an objective, put a plan in motion, and ultimately conquered it. This will keep you motivated, and will increase your self-assurance to keep working on achieving a new target…. Plus, you deserve it!


7) Take every misstep as a lesson.

There is always something you can learn from a situation that didn’t go as planned… Even if the lesson is that you are still ok, or that you have to change your game plan entirely. Changing your perspective and acknowledging your journey as a necessary component, and as valuable as the end result, will help you fight against discouragement and frustration. When you embrace every decision you are making, or every step you are taking, as part of your end goal, it makes the entire journey satisfying and worthwhile.


8) Be flexible.

Albert Einstein has been credited with saying “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.” It could be argued that this definition could also be applied to unproductivity. When you keep doing the same thing over and over, and it doesn’t work, be open to trying a new approach. There is usually more than one way that would work for achieving the same end goal.


9) Be a learner

You never know what new information, material, or situations, will give you an idea that might work for your end goal. Inspiration can come from the least expected places. Be curious, expand your general knowledge, and pursue new hobbies. These will improve your chances of finding new innovative and creative ways to reach your desired goal.


10) Take risks

Staying within your comfort zone might not always help you reach a desired outcome – especially if you tried and can’t see any progress being made. Settling with the status quo is less frightening and comforting, but also costly if it is consuming time that could be better utilized doing something more rewarding. On the other hand, making a bold move can have a greater impact on your success. Taking a risk might pay off by opening new doors, or pathways towards your outcome… But also be ready and cognizant that it might not, and have a plan B in case you need it.


11) Don’t be afraid to reach out and ask people for help… and, when you can, pay it forward.

“Making it on our own” does not mean that you are completely isolated working towards your goal. On the contrary, most successful individuals achieve their dreams by playing their strengths and also by knowing when to delegate, or ask for help. If you reach out, you will be surprised at how frequently someone is willing to lend a hand, support, and encourage you to achieve your objectives. Therefore, asking for advice and networking will empower and increase the chances of being successful.


And if you have the opportunity, help somebody else. It will not only have a positive effect on the person you are helping, it will also increase your self-esteem and self-worth, further boosting your confidence toward your own goals.


12) Trust your instincts.

You can receive great advice, or come across and excellent opportunity, but if it doesn’t feel right, listen to your inner voice and evaluate if it is something that would be right for you. Nobody knows what works for you better than you do.


13) Be patient and don’t give up when things don’t go as planned.

Most goals take time, effort, and hard work. Even when you have a perfect plan in mind, it is very likely you will still encounter unforeseen obstacles or situations. Don’t let these discourage you from consistently working toward your goals. Trial and error can be discouraging but will get you closer to your objective. Plus, you never know how close you are from achieving the dream, or when an opportunity will be life changing.


14) It is ok to adjust your dream, or even change it entirely.

Life is not static, it is in constant motion, and who you were five years ago might not accurately represent who you are now. It is okay to realize that the goal you had previously set for yourself is no longer something that you want, and you should feel comfortable adapting goals to something that fulfills you now.


15) Believe in yourself

Be sincere and analyze your traits, strengths, resources, and all the pros and cons that could work for or against you. This will give you more confidence in your capabilities, and will help you not run the risk of overestimating or underestimating yourself. Your mindset will be a key component in achieving your goals. If you are negative about the outcome, it will deter you and make achieving the goal more difficult.  On the other hand, if you think you can do it, you probably will not stop until you find a way to make your dreams come true.

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Can You Receive A Compliment Without It Getting To Your Head?



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Receiving compliments gracefully isn’t as easy as it should be for some people. How about you: are YOU ready for someone to give you a pat on the back? To be pushed to doing more? To have someone give you a supporting hand? To be picked up when you fall down?

Sure, we may think that’s what we want. But is it what we need to develop, to grow, and to get better?

If someone complimented you on every little improvement you made while learning a new skill, would you not start to feel a bit marginalized? That perhaps they didn’t really think you could do it? What about when you do something that seems pretty easy and everyone made it into a big deal?


Receiving Compliments When You Are Not Ready For It

Why You Are Not Receiving Compliments

Developing new skills is never free of trouble. We all know the level of foundation that must be built to get from being a novice, before reaching greatness. In the learning process, we all know when we are in that frustrating stage of not being quite as good – but we know what we have to do to get there.

It’s in these moments that receiving compliments on your every action could minimize your efforts. That’s because if they truly knew you, people would be holding out for when you make that big, defining leap. 

As we overcome hurdles in our learning and development, friends, family members, and colleagues will know when the time is right to provide encouragement. They know that when that moment comes, those words will have the right amount of impact on you.

Think back to when you were growing up, playing some elaborate game. Perhaps you spent hours creating this game: building a fort, putting together things that the rest of your characters in the play could use. You pushed through despite the trials and problems.

It would have served absolutely no purpose for someone to congratulate you on every step (and misstep) along the way.  You would have lost your flow as you worked through the problem, constantly being interrupted – all while you were still trying to figure it out and understand where you needed to go.

Why You Are Not Receiving Compliments


When Receiving Compliments Makes You Content with Present Achievements

You might never have finished if someone patted you on the back early in that moment, content in the knowledge that you “thought up” the idea and that was enough. If everyone was saying you did great simply for thinking up something new, would it have compelled you to stop?

Maybe. Perhaps you would have stopped with that compliment.

As a parent, you learn when to encourage your children. Usually, it’s not when they show up, and not when they do what kids around them are able to do as well. It’s when they push themselves to do more. When they pick themselves up and still lose, when they try something new for the first time, fall over and fail, not sure if they should do it again.

Those are the moments when kids should be receiving compliments – NOT when they have done the same thing over and over again, or when they didn’t try their best but won anyways.

Kids know this. They can feel it when people give false compliments or encouragement because they did something they’ve always done. But when it is something meaningful, something they have worked hard for, they know the encouragement will be there to help them.

Why You Are Not Receiving Compliments

The reason you might not be receiving compliments or encouragement when you want to is because you haven’t earned them or don’t deserve them yet.

Maybe your coaches, leaders, parents, or other people who support you know you are not ready for it. Perhaps they need to see you making that next big leap in your growth and development.

Those compliments might not come today, tomorrow, next week, next month, or next year. But look at those around you – the great people you have chosen to surround yourself with – and you’ll see that they are waiting to give you that push. They are waiting for you to make it happen.

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3 Ways to Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart




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I truly believe that dreams must extend beyond wishes of self-improvement; that its goal should be to contribute to the world around you.

The heart is a fickle thing. Imagine how many amazing things wouldn’t have been accomplished if great minds simply stopped when they “didn’t feel like it”.

It’s human nature. I’m sure that during the course of over 300 bank rejections, Walt Disney had days when he felt like giving up. But he didn’t. He kept going. Why? It was because his dream went far beyond himself.

Here’s how YOU can keep going – even if it feels like your dreams are falling apart.


3 Ways to Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart

1.) Remember The “Why”

Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart

Often times, I find that dreams extend far beyond the simple purpose of making one happy. For example, being a songwriter in and of itself does not make me feel happy and fulfilled. Imagine if my life’s work was to write songs that no one would ever hear. That doesn’t elicit any feelings of happiness or fulfillment (at least to me).

Seeing and hearing the healing effects that come from the songs I create for others to hear? Now you’re talking. Healing and helping others is the part of my dream that keeps it alive. It gives me purpose in this world that goes far beyond myself and my skills.

I’m reminded of the character Ebenezer Scrooge from Dickens’ “A Christmas Carol”. Scrooge’s goal in life was to have money – and lots of it. He set aside love and relationships for that dream. The result of this life goal was a lonely, cold, bitter old man.

I won’t ruin the whole story for the very few of you that may not have heard it. In the end, Scrooge discovered that what brought him fulfillment and happiness were community and generosity.

So what is the “why” to your dream? How is your dream going to affect those around you? Get beyond yourself. As many have said, YOU are your biggest obstacle to success.


2.) Take Off The Rose-Colored Glasses

Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart

You know what I’m talking about. The “I’m going to make it big” and “I’m going to famous/rich/etc.” I hate to take a pointy realistic needle to your big ideas, but I’m doing it out of love. Here it is:

Your dream isn’t going to look exactly how you pictured it.

Take a minute to take that one in. Still here? Yes. Alive? Yes. Not Bleeding? No? Hurt a bit?

It’s OK. I know. I’ve been there. Dreams are vulnerable. We spend countless hours imagining what it would be like and how we will get there. But the truth is, in my experience, they have never turned out exactly how I have imagined. Why? We live in a world of people and circumstances that we can’t control.

Here is where the “why” comes in. The beautiful thing is that your works are a direct result of your heart’s intention…and what you put out into the world never comes back void. Here’s an example:

As a singer-songwriter, the common idea of making it big for my line of work is to have a hit song or perform in front of a sold-out crowd at Madison Square Garden (I’m more inclined towards Red Rock Amphitheatre, but you get the picture).

Let’s say that I work and strive tirelessly to do everything I need to do to reach that goal. I release a song, I tour around the US, develop a large following, get on the radio, etc. Along the way, I hear stories of how this song has impacted the people who have heard it. Stories describing how it brought healing, encouragement, and hope.

To go further, what if I never even make it that far? What if circumstances happen and I can’t tour? What if everything “falls apart”? What if I end up playing at open mics for the rest of my life? What if it doesn’t happen in the next year? Two years?

Does that change the fact that my song helped heal and open the heart of a broken and depressed Vietnam Vet? Or how it helped encourage an author to keep going and writing? Or how my song started a conversation on how to look past the labels overshadowing soldiers and their families?

It’s all about your perspective of success, my friend. To me, because my “why” and my heart’s intention are to help people, those stories above are my version of success. It’s what keeps me going. If I get to Madison Square Garden (or Red Rocks), well that’s just icing on top of the cake.

Keep going on your dream. Make a plan, and in the words of .38 Special, “Hold on loosely, but don’t let go.” Roll with the punches and understand that even greater things can come when things don’t go according to your plan.


3.) Make Your Dream Your Job

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No, I don’t mean quit your job and have no income while you work on your dream. That’s an entirely different article (and completely up to you). I’m talking about treating your dream like it is your job.

For example, if you completely failed at a presentation at work, would you just quit and not go the next day? No! You have a livelihood and an expectation to show up. So why quit on your dream at the first sign of failure?

Treat your dream like your job. Make a plan, show up every day, and understand that it may take a while to see any results. I know many songwriters who wrote hundreds of songs before they wrote a hit. However, they never would have reached it if they didn’t take that first step, made a commitment, and wrote 100 songs first.

Dreams don’t just happen. They take work. So go get started!

My best advice under this theme is check out the book “The War of Art” by Steven Pressfield. It is by far the best resource I have discovered in my journey of living out my dream.

Here’s the deal. With every goal that I have set and achieved, I never sat at the end and thought to myself, “man, look at what I did”. Believe it or not, I was more overwhelmed with the thoughts of the journey that I had to take to get there – the good and the bad.

I would admire and laugh at the unexpected things that came. I would smile and enjoy the character it built, the person that I became in the process. In the end, the best thing about dreams and goals isn’t their achievement, but the journey that you take to get there.

Never forget that the dream in your heart was put there for a reason. You were made to make an impact on this world.

Enjoy the journey and never, ever give up. Keep going.

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