The biggest enemy of success is never getting started on your dreams and goals. Our greatest destiny destroyer is in our heads, where success-blocking mindsets take root. They are stubborn and covert, resistant to change. We think these things are “who I am” or “just my personality” and we fail to even realize we have fallen prey to their existence. Their enemy forces launch counter attacks on anything and everything it takes to “make it so” with respect to our lives, relationships, or our careers. Our own spiritual blocks prevent us from taking that vital first step towards the future we envision.
What Happened to Me?
Every life experience, good or bad, is etched inside us. How we experience life is fully dependent upon how well we dealt, or failed to deal, with hurtful experiences. Whether we like it or not, the past plays a huge factor in our future. These experiences morph us out of who we really are into something opposite our true selves. It changes our perceptions, perspectives and the decisions we make. Sometimes it results in an underlying voice (success-blocking mindset) saying we can’t do what is necessary to experience success in life. It becomes the realities we live because we think we are who life has twisted us into, and not who we must be (our true selves) to achieve our desires and dreams.
5 Power Hacks to Overcome Success-Blocking Mindsets
If you are stuck in a reality that fails to align with where or what you want to be, buckle up! You are one decision away from a life-changing journey. Here are four steps to move past roadblocks and achieve the success you desire:
1. Dare to Dream: Make a bucket list of all the things you wanted to achieve. This can include everything from relationships, career, travel, etc. It all counts toward creating the life you dream of living. Prioritize these in order of importance. This is the starting point of your journey. It sets the tone for what is to come. The challenge is not to allow mindsets to tell you to leave something off the list because it can’t be done. Just write it down, be real about it, and go for it.
2. Map the Course: You can’t even use a map without understanding where you currently stand. Make a list of everything it will take to align you with those goals. For example, if it is a career change, what is it going to take to position yourself to move into that career? Are there gaps in you skill set? Is lack of experience a factor? Are there certifications to acquire? Follow through with this process on each of the items on your bucket list and rearrange this list into the order in which they have to occur. The things on this list will form the basis of the goals you will set to map the course.You will refer to these notes as you move through the process of change. This is a good point of focus and a reminder as to why it is important to stay on track with a given goal.
Including the desired outcome in your goal writing keeps positive momentum in the processes. For example, if you want to become more skilled at playing the piano, do not write, “I suck at playing the piano and I want to stop that.” Instead, you could write, “I want to increase my musical skills by taking piano lessons.” Then, beside each set goal, include the following:
- Why you want this change.
- What will not making the change cost you?
- How will your life change by accomplishing the goal?
Other considerations include identifying what you will have to let go in order achieving the goal. What will you have to change, and are you willing to make that commitment? These proactive considerations beforehand go a long way toward ensuring that you achieve the desired outcome.
3. Start the Car: This is going to be a process and a journey. You have to take a deliberate first step. Don’t give in to the resistance you will surely experience traveling this new road. The discomfort is part of the process. You have never traveled this road before. The landmarks and scenery are different because this is an exotic trip outside of your comfort zone. In order to keep your engine going, you must focus on the positive aspects, rather than on the discomfort.
4. Stay the Course: This journey will include obstacles. Make a plan for how you will address challenges along the way. Consider any others who may be a part of, or affected by, the change. If you are married, is your spouse supportive? Do you have a support system in place? How will you maintain the goal after it is achieved? How will you combat any temptation to revert to past behaviors? Always remember the “why” of the goal you set. You must also be aware that the familiar pattern of self-doubt will always be lingering around the corner.
5. Get a Coach:A personal or professional life coach can help you to clarify and stay committed to your goals. This person can serve as your personal GPS system on your journey. They will help you avoid pitfalls and roadblocks. It is important to overcome the tendency to shrug off such vital investment in yourself, on the assumption that your own logic makes you self-sufficient for the journey to success. An International Coaching Federation study found that those who hired a life coach reported a median return of 3.44 times what they invested. Make the investment. You are going to need guidance, accountability, and someone to recognize the potholes and roadblocks and move you through them in order to avoid being sidetracked by your success-blocking mindset the process.
You’re Driving the Car
Nobody else can change your life. It’s up to you! So, take control and stop settling for the status quo. There is a lot of empowerment in recognizing that regardless of what wrongs you have endured from strangers and colleagues; those people are not responsible for how you handle the aftermath. You are. It’s all in your hands. You cannot achieve success at something you never started! Make it so!
If all of this is not enough for you, maybe the fact that pessimism and cynicism have been proven to affect your health, will give you the extra push you need.
In the comments let us know your favorite hacks on how overcome success-blocking mindsets and reach your full potential!