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5 ways to protect yourself from getting manipulated



5 ways to protect yourself from getting manipulated

It happens to the best of people.  You go to simply shop for that new car.  Before you left you vowed that today would not be the day that you would purchase the car.  Today was the day that you were going to see what was out there and get a feel for the car market.

When you left you were not even sure if now was the right time to buy a new car with the new baby on the way and rumors of layoffs at work.  At the first dealership you held strong and walked away with a great feeling of accomplishment.  You did waver a bit when the salesman showed you that sporty little car that you dreamed of when you were eighteen.  But you walked away because you knew that it was simply not the right kind of car at this season of your life.

But that second salesman talked you into getting something way out of your price range and was simply not the right car for your family.  What happened?  As you drive your new car home you suddenly are overcome by the concern of how you will explain to your spouse what the new car is all about.  Today I want to help you never experience this sort of scenario again whether it is a salesmen or a family member trying to guilt you into watching their kids you can protect yourself from being manipulated.

 How to not get manipulated

Option 1: Lock the doors.

This is a great option for those who don’t have much of a life.  The ostrich with its head in the sand concept works for a season for most people.  Lock your doors, pull the shades down and never check out what is on TV, radio or the internet.  If you never talk to anyone on the phone, or text or message anyone than you are sure to never be manipulated.

Unfortunately this rarely makes anyone happy, including yourself. 

You may think that you are escaping the world but it is still out there changing and impacting the environment all around us. Eventually you will need to pull your head out of the sand.  The air down there is stagnant and you won’t be able to grow.  This option honestly only works if you are on your death bed with only hours to live.  If that is not the case for you consider one of the four remaining options.  For the long term this option will not work.


Option 2: Stay Educated

I finally figured out how to best to buy a new car.  Know everything you can before you walk into the dealership.  I studied the pluses and minuses and had chosen exactly what car I wanted.  I was only uncertain of what color that I should choose.  I did intend to drive away with the car so that part was negotiable for me.  Carefully I called and researched until I found the bottom line of what it would cost me to drive that car off of the lot.

When our negotiations got to what I knew was the dealers real best offer I knew it.  While he was back talking with his supervisor I knew the car was mine.  I was confident and strong because I had done my homework.  The salesman had made multiple offers and suggestions but I knew the complete truth from the front.  I knew all of the benefits of this car and he could not seduce me into something else.  When you go into any situation where you might be manipulated do your homework.  We are in the information age so there is no excuse to not being informed.


Option 3: Take Time

General Patton lived by a credo that you should never make a decision until you had to make it.   The best manipulators will try to rush you and encourage you to make a choice right away.  Ask yourself, “Do I need this right now?”  “Do I really have to make a decision right now?”  “Why are they really rushing me?”  Remember that sales will always come back around.  Family can move on and forget.  A great strategy is to ask for 24 hours or for a night to sleep on it.  Things are often much clearer after a good night’s rest.  Buy yourself some time.


Option 4: Seek wise counsel

I once read of a big league ball player that when he was a young man that he played for three different baseball teams at about the same time.  He was very selective, not in the teams, but in the coaches.  First he chose one coach that was great at hitting, second he picked someone who was good at fielding and then the third coach was a master at strategy.  That young man made the big leagues because he chose wise mentors.

You can do the same with any area where you are needing some expertise.  When I bought my first house I should have taken my father in law with me who has bought many houses.  He could have pointed out a few things that ultimately proved to be very expensive to fix.  My wife and I did not notice these things but someone with experience could have found these things easily.  There are subject matter experts out there for anything just ask around, post your need on Facebook or Twitter.

People will come out of the woodwork.  I once was getting ready to dig into a plumbing project and I was directed to a local plumbing shop where I not only got advice but I saved about $120 on a part that I needed to make the repairs.  Wise counsel can save you money and time.


Option 5: Know yourself

Most people that I know don’t sit down and really think about what is important for themselves and who they really are or want to become.  If we want to keep from being manipulated we need to know when we make the best choices.  How do you best process stress?

When was the last time that I ate?  Did I get a good night’s rest?  What is my attitude right now?  Recently I saw a request out there from a lady who in a moment of anger had blocked her husband from her Facebook account and now that everything was resolved wanted to know how to unblock him.  These sorts of outbursts had defined their marriage so if she knew herself she would have slept on it and then would not have had the problem she now faced.

In her case this was a small price to pay.  If you routinely conduct self examinations and after action reviews on your decisions you will learn when you do best.  Then set up the scenario in your favor.  Well fed, rested and in a good mood and then I will make the best choice possible.  Maybe your picture is hungry, tired and grouchy when you are making your best calls.  My point is that when you know yourself you will keep from being manipulated.


Soon you will be making a major purchase or will be placed in a difficult situation.  Decide today how you are going to prepare for that day.  Do the research, find wise counsel, take your time and expend the energy to know yourself. Then you won’t be manipulated into making a decision that you will later regret.  Oh and get your head out of the sand.  Unless you’re on the beach enjoying a vacation, then go ahead.

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Couple Entrepreneurs: How to Make It Happen With Your Partner



Partners entrepreneurs


Have you always dreamed of having success as an entrepreneur? Thoughts of working for yourself, doing things you’re passionate about, and not worrying about working for someone else may linger in your mind most of the time. If you’re married, there is a chance that your partner has some of the same goals, and that means the two of you could eventually become a pair of successful entrepreneurs who motivate one another, continually work hard, and reach all kinds of goals that will get you both further in life.


How to Make It Work


Although you may like the idea of becoming a successful entrepreneur while your partner does the same, it’s not uncommon to have some concerns about the situation. You may worry that you’re both going to take on too much and not have enough time for one another, but that isn’t always the case. It’s all about prioritizing work, setting a schedule, and being there to support one another through the ups and downs that will eventually occur.


Before working together to achieve goals, sit down and have a full conversation about the goals you’d like to achieve and the role you’ll each take on. Both of you will need to come to an agreement to keep work and the relationship separately while being respectful to one another. You can’t expect to have success with your partner if neither of you are respecting one another or collectively sharing ideas. You’ll need to focus on communication and compromising at times to make things work on a long-term basis.


Prime Examples of Successful Entrepreneur Couples


If you’re in need of motivation and encouragement because you’re not sure how to get your start in a specific industry with your partner, it may be best for you to learn a bit more about some of the successful entrepreneur couples out there. These couples work hard to achieve their goals and they support one another in various business ventures. They put forth the effort that is required of them to consistently achieve their goals.


Chris Sacca is a successful billionaire who once was fired from a job as a lawyer and then moved on to Google where had more opportunities to learn, invest, and become the success he is today. He is now the owner of a successful venture capital fund, known as Lowercase Capital. Although he’s had much success in his career, Chris Sacca’s wife, Crystal English Sacca, is a successful entrepreneur in her own right. She’s spent most of her career creating compelling and engaging commercials as well as digital advertisements for various companies. She’s worked for several of the most popular brands, including Sprint and HBO. In addition to these accomplishments, she works as an art director. While these two individuals aren’t doing the same things, they’re a married couple supporting one another while they each work hard to achieve their own personal goals.


In addition to Chris Sacca and his wife, Stewart and Lynda Resnick are another good example of a successful entrepreneur power couple. They currently have a net worth of 3.9 billion dollars. So, what is it that they’re selling? There is a good chance you’ve consumed at least one of the many products they own and distribute, such as Fiji Water or Halos oranges. The pair met when Lynda started her own ad agency and was assisting Stewart with a project for the business he was running at that time. Over time, they started working collectively together to invest and sell assorted products to the public, many of which are naturally good for human consumption.


Do What You Love and Respect One Another


There are plenty of entrepreneur couples out there. Some are just getting started while others have been in business for decades and continue to achieve a high level of success. Although you may be focused on figuring out your passion and what you want to do to get further in life while making a decent income, it’s important to understand that it’s possible for you to achieve the same level of success as some of these people who are earning millions of dollars each year. Most people don’t become a success overnight but figuring out what you want to do and how you’re going to make it happen is a great way to get started.


In addition to figuring out what you’d love to do for the rest of your life, you’ll need to remember to always respect your partner throughout the process. The thing about these successful couples is that they’re willing to provide support and guidance, they know how to communicate, and they believe in one another. If you don’t have respect, trust, and support in the relationship, it’s going to be difficult to have success as entrepreneurs together.


If you’ve always dreamed of running your own business with your partner by your side, it’s not a dream that is too farfetched. In fact, there are lots of successful couples that are working hard, reaching goals, and living the life they’ve always dreamed of having.

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How Does Sleep Affect Your Mental Health?



Sleep and Mental Health

Sleep is our body’s repair mode. Our cells, tissues, muscles, and hormones are all replenished during the deepest phases of sleep. This ensures that we are operating at our best the next day.

Experts recommend about seven (7) hours of sleep a day for an average adult. This is keeps you mentally and physically focused. But what happens when you don’t get enough? Is there a link between sleep and our mental health?


The Link Between Sleep and Mood

Even someone who isn’t an expert on the subject can appreciate how active they feel after a good night’s sleep. In contrast, one can feel exhausted, irritated, and distracted after not getting enough the night before. That’s because sleep plays an important role in your mood and performance.

Researchers from the University of Pennsylvania conducted a study in which the subjects were restricted sleep to only 4.5 hours each night. After a week, the subjects reported greater levels of negative emotions and mental tiredness. Once they were allowed to sleep normally however, there was a sharp improvement in their mood.

Just as sleep impacts your mood, your present state of mind also has an equivalent effect on the quality of your sleep. If you’re anxious or stressed, your body will release hormones that force you to stay awake through the night, depriving you of much-needed rest. The result is a cycle of stress and lack of sleep.

Research suggests that around 15-20 percent of people who are dealing with insomnia (an inability to fall asleep) go on to develop serious mental depression. While research is still being conducted about the exact nature of the relationship between sleep and depression, there has been enough progress to indicate a strong correlation between the two.

People who suffer from insomnia are at a significantly greater risk to develop depression or anxiety. In fact, the onset of these conditions can be accurately predicted by studying the patient’s sleep patterns.


The Link Between Sleep and Learning

In addition to your mood, sleep also appears to impact your mind’s ability to learn. Three separate processes govern learning in your brain: acquisition, consolidation, and recall.

Acquisition entails receiving information and storing it in your neural circuitry. The second process, consolidation, strengthens the neural connections in your mind so that the memory is stored in an optimally useful form. Recall is when the brain accesses this stored memory when it is needed.

Poor sleep compromises all three of these processes. However, it is acquisition and recall that are most affected by sleep deprivation. Recent research has also demonstrated that a lack of sleep can reduce the brain’s ability to consolidate information it is presented with.

Students take note: inadequate sleep may negatively affect your chances of passing that exam. Indeed, you may even find yourself forgetting how to do simple tasks. If you’ve ever been involved in back-to-back all-nighters during exam week, you may already have experienced forgetting a solution to a simple problem – even after you’d done it half a dozen times!


Dealing with Sleep Problems To Improve Mental Health

If you’re experiencing emotional apathy, anxiety, depression, or irritability, one of the steps you can take before seeking a professional is to assess your sleep situation.

Treat sleep as a ritual. Similar to reading to a child before putting them to bed, a habit that helps one disconnect from gadgets and put their mind in a relaxed mood can go a long way towards ensuring a restful, wholesome, sleep experience.

Making time before going to bed is a good idea. Avoid exposure to bright lights (such as those emitted by computer screens and smartphones). Try not to consume caffeine or alcohol, as all of these can be detrimental to the quality of sleep (and may even prevent the onset of sleep completely).

Obviously, the way you’ve set up your bed (and your entire bedroom) will also play an important role in how well you’re able to sleep. For example, memory foam mattresses are often recommended for individuals who sleep in awkward postures that can cause back pain. For some good reviews, check out The Sleep Judge.

If you can’t get rid of thoughts buzzing around in your head, you may want to listen to some natural background sounds, such as rainfall or wind rushing through trees. This will ease your mind away from distractions, helping you drift off to sleep. If you get the recommended amount, see how replenished you feel the next day!


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