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5 facts of life you need to stop struggling with and just accept



5 facts of life you need to stop struggling with and just accept

In life, there are some facts that are rather easy to accept. Among them, at least for me, are that: 1) you can’t change someone else no matter how much you want to, 2) laundry and dishes will never do themselves, and 3) Monday, the most dreaded work day, will always follow Sunday, the eternal day of rest.

However, there are some facts that I, along with several others I’ve talked to over the years, have found much harder to swallow. Here they are, as well as some things you can do to start to appreciate them for the realities they are if you’ve struggled with them too.

Happiness Is a Choice

How many times have you said, “I’ll be happy when…”? Maybe it’s when you pay off your debt, when you finally lose your excess weight, or when you buy the car or home of your dreams. Whatever follows your “when,” you’ve basically decided that your happiness lies somewhere in the future, after certain conditions are met. Unfortunately, this isn’t how happiness works.

Happiness isn’t something you get; it’s something that comes from inside yourself. It’s an emotion that resides deep inside your soul. And it’s something that everyone already has, which makes it your choice as to whether or not you’re going to allow it to come out.

Of course, you could blame your feelings of unhappiness on your predicament, your family, or friends, but the reality is that you are the only one who can make yourself happy. Besides, there are plenty of people in worse positions than you or I who manage to be happy. If they can do it, then I believe that we can do it too! How?

In a blog by University of California, Berkeley, here are some effective happiness-inducing options to consider:

  • Connect with others socially to create a wider network of people who can provide support when we need it.
  • Regularly take the time to count your blessings, the things that you’re thankful for in your life.
  • Be kind to others, a simple action that makes you feel better about yourself.
  • Take care of your body by getting regular exercise and making sleep a priority as it’s hard to feel happy when you don’t feel well physically.
  • Stay in the moment, leaving yesterday in the past and not worrying about tomorrow.

You’ll Never Get Where You Want to Be If You Don’t Put in the Work

I blame our society for this one as there are multiple news stories daily implying that someone reached their goals seemingly overnight—almost as if it was by luck. But anyone who’s ever tried to do something worth doing knows otherwise. Results almost always only come after months, if not years, of hard, brain and body-numbing work.

It’s understandable that we can easily get caught up in the “get rich fast” or “lose weight quick” schemes, but once we come to realize that there’s simply no substitute for hard work, we quit banging our heads against the wall when we realize that taking this approach doesn’t deliver long-term results. We can also finally stop blaming ourselves for failing personally when the real failure lies with the people and businesses pushing unachievable dreams.

This requires changing your mindset so that you’re in it for the long haul versus trying to take a shortcut. There is no shortcut for true success. In fact, say that to yourself right now. “There is no shortcut for true success.” Now, keep on saying it until your brain starts to believe it.

You can also put this phrase on a sticky note and place it on your computer where you will see it every day or write it on the outside of your journal. Put it somewhere where you will see it often so that you’re not sidelined by quick-fix promises from people that just want you to buy their products or services, promises that will be broken because they’re just not true.

If Someone Treats You Badly, It’s Because You Let Them

This has been one of the most difficult facts of life for me to accept as I always used to think that if someone treated me badly, it was on them not me. While there is some truth to that as everyone is responsible for his or her own actions, I had to force myself to realize that it was up to me to either let them continue to mistreat me or remove them from my life. I didn’t have to just sit and take it.

Granted, neither option is easy as it’s tough to be someone else’s whipping post but it’s also tough to let some people go. This is especially true if the person treating you badly is a parent, other relative, or spouse. It’s not always easy to just walk away when it is one of these people who are front and center in your life. But it is necessary if you want to have a better life.

Look at it this way: if you let someone continue to treat you badly, you’re destined to face a lifetime of disrespect. Yet, if you draw a line in the sand and say “No more!” then you may be uncomfortable initially, but you’re also stopping any further abuse, enabling you to enjoy higher quality days for the rest of your life.

To help you set these types of healthy boundaries, preventing or stopping others from mistreating you, Dr. Susan Biali with Psychology Today suggests that you first understand that the other person is likely to exhibit anger at your new, lower threshold. That’s a normal response, so don’t let it catch you off guard. Additionally, create a solid support system so that you have people that you can go to if you’re ready to give in and let the other person walk all over you again.

Of course, if the person who treats you badly is physically abusive, then contacting a domestic violence advocate or the police is a great first step too. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24/7, making them a great resource if this is the case.

Whether You Succeed or Fail Is Entirely Up To You

When I worked in the courts, one thing I saw over and over again is the lack of responsibility people tend to take nowadays when it comes to their own lives. Blame seemed to be placed on everyone else but themselves as it was rare to find someone who said, “Yes. The reason I am where I am is completely because of me and my actions.”

It’s the truth, though. It is 100 percent up to you whether you succeed or fail in your life. You’re the one who can take the actions that will lead you either way and to blame someone else for your failures is simply avoiding the fact that you made a wrong choice somewhere down the line.

Now, before you start throwing your “but what if” scenarios at me, I am more than willing to concede that certain people and circumstances can make it harder to succeed. If you have unsupportive parents, for instance, or have been diagnosed with a debilitating disease, then it may make it more difficult for you to reach the levels you want to reach. But it doesn’t make it impossible because, if you want something bad enough, you’ll find a way to get it.

One of my favorite sayings is that, in life, you have two choices: make changes or make excuses. Do the first and you’re destined for success, even if it doesn’t look like you initially thought. Do the second, on the other hand, and failure is the only outcome because you’re not going to even really try. You’ll have given up before you even started.

If You Want Life to Be Different, Then You Have to Do Different Things

This life fact is one that I see people struggle with over and over and over again, primarily when it comes to losing weight or getting into shape since I am in the health and wellness field. Most often, this involves trying a diet, losing a few pounds, and then, over time, gaining those pounds back…and then some. Then, when they’re feeling ready to lose weight again, they go back to that same diet. And they go back to those same results.

The reality is if you want life to be different for you than what it is now, then you have to do things differently. This requires trying new tactics until you find the one that works for you. Or, as Thomas Edison is quoted as saying, it is reminding yourself that “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

To put this into action, if you’re ready for different results than you’ve ever gotten before, then it’s time to go outside your comfort zone and do something new. In order to make the best of this suggestion, take some time to research your options so you’re making the most intelligent decision that you can for you personally. After all, blindly trying things and then being upset when they don’t work isn’t going to get you where you want to be.

Staying with the weight loss example, this would mean researching what programs are available, how they work, and how much they cost so you can determine whether they fit your personality and your lifestyle. By doing your homework up front, you’re likely to get better results, which ultimately means different results than you’ve ever gotten before.

I’d love to hear your thoughts about these, as well as any others you think should be added to the list, so feel free to share them in the comment section below!

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3 small steps that could make the biggest impact on your life



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“The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.”Lao Tzu

Every day that passes by, there is someone who is living a life that does not fuel their passion or purpose. Each moment feels like they are just existing or living life by accident. This could be due to fear of change, or limiting beliefs within them that say “you’re not worthy” or “I don’t deserve to be successful”.

It could be a number of things. Believe it or not, I used to be this person. I was stuck in a 9-5 job, in a 7-year relationship that was emotionally draining, and I was 75 lbs. overweight.

Then came that ONE day that would forever change my life. I remember it as if it were yesterday. I looked at myself in the mirror and saw what I had become. I didn’t recognize myself. I immediately burst into tears. This was NOT the life I wanted to live. I had neglected the most important person in my world: ME. 

It was then that I had to make an important choice. I decided to take the first step towards creating the life I would often dream about. That very next day, I promised myself that I would do just one thing that made me feel more connected to the goals I wanted to accomplish.

Not two or three. Just one. It didn’t matter how small it was. The point was it was a small step in the RIGHT direction. This has led me to the level of success that I am at today.

Here are three small steps that will help you make that same important decision and transform your life.


3 Small Steps That Could Make a Big Impact In Your Life

1.) Have a heart to heart with yourself.

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Take time to get away from people, places, or things, and just spend some time with yourself. In order to truly make any step towards the success you desire, you must have a great sense of self-awareness.

What is it that you want to accomplish and why? What truly makes you happy? What are you passionate about? How will accomplishing this change your life? How would it make you feel?

Be completely honest with yourself, your thoughts, and your intentions. Having these questions in front of you will keep you from going around in circles. They will give you more clarity and vision that should help you determine which small steps you need to take.

As a result, instead of being frustrated or reluctant to leave your comfort zone, you will be more confident now that you have a plan in place.


2.) Do ONE thing everyday that is connected to your goals.

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Always remember that you don’t have to always make massive amounts of progress at one time. The important thing is that you are continuously moving in the right direction. After all, Rome wasn’t built in a day. It took consistent daily, focused action. Over time, it became one of the most celebrated cities on the planet.

We live in a world that is bombarded with messages of instant gratification. But the truth is, any level of success is the result of a daily routine of the right things done for a certain period of time. That time can vary from days, weeks, months, or even years.

However, throughout the journey, you can see that you are moving closer and closer towards your ultimate goals. Do not underestimate the power of small steps. You will find yourself accomplishing things you never thought possible (and sooner than you anticipated).


3.) Do not measure your level of success by comparing yourself to others.

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Success means something different for everyone. You must not become fixated on what media or entertainment portrays as successful. A fulfilling life is more than material possessions. Understand that you can only live the greatest life possible when you have defined what success is to you.

As you begin taking small steps and making progress, focus only on what your desired goals are. Don’t allow yourself to be distracted by what others are saying, doing, or what they believe success should look like. Too often, we get caught up in what society, current trends, and what the masses portray as “I’ve made it”.

This is your life. Only YOU can determine what accomplishment, achievement, and true success means to you. In fact, one of the reasons why you may be in the position you are in is because you designed your life based on the thoughts and opinions of others. This was my case years ago.



You deserve to be great. You have greatness within you. Sometimes, that can be clouded by limiting beliefs, adversity, or just the many circumstances in life. Think about everything that has happened in your life right up until the point you are reading this article.

I want you to know that everything that happened before NO LONGER MATTERS. What matters now is that today, you have the knowledge of who you are and where you want to go. The ability to change your life is within your grasp and your power.

Today, you have the chance to begin a journey that leads to some amazing and incredible years ahead. The best part about it is that you only need to take small steps in the right direction. So take action now – your dreams are waiting for you!

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Couple Entrepreneurs: How to Make It Happen With Your Partner



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Have you always dreamed of having success as an entrepreneur? Thoughts of working for yourself, doing things you’re passionate about, and not worrying about working for someone else may linger in your mind most of the time. If you’re married, there is a chance that your partner has some of the same goals, and that means the two of you could eventually become a pair of successful entrepreneurs who motivate one another, continually work hard, and reach all kinds of goals that will get you both further in life.


How to Make It Work


Although you may like the idea of becoming a successful entrepreneur while your partner does the same, it’s not uncommon to have some concerns about the situation. You may worry that you’re both going to take on too much and not have enough time for one another, but that isn’t always the case. It’s all about prioritizing work, setting a schedule, and being there to support one another through the ups and downs that will eventually occur.


Before working together to achieve goals, sit down and have a full conversation about the goals you’d like to achieve and the role you’ll each take on. Both of you will need to come to an agreement to keep work and the relationship separately while being respectful to one another. You can’t expect to have success with your partner if neither of you are respecting one another or collectively sharing ideas. You’ll need to focus on communication and compromising at times to make things work on a long-term basis.


Prime Examples of Successful Entrepreneur Couples


If you’re in need of motivation and encouragement because you’re not sure how to get your start in a specific industry with your partner, it may be best for you to learn a bit more about some of the successful entrepreneur couples out there. These couples work hard to achieve their goals and they support one another in various business ventures. They put forth the effort that is required of them to consistently achieve their goals.


Chris Sacca is a successful billionaire who once was fired from a job as a lawyer and then moved on to Google where had more opportunities to learn, invest, and become the success he is today. He is now the owner of a successful venture capital fund, known as Lowercase Capital. Although he’s had much success in his career, Chris Sacca’s wife, Crystal English Sacca, is a successful entrepreneur in her own right. She’s spent most of her career creating compelling and engaging commercials as well as digital advertisements for various companies. She’s worked for several of the most popular brands, including Sprint and HBO. In addition to these accomplishments, she works as an art director. While these two individuals aren’t doing the same things, they’re a married couple supporting one another while they each work hard to achieve their own personal goals.


In addition to Chris Sacca and his wife, Stewart and Lynda Resnick are another good example of a successful entrepreneur power couple. They currently have a net worth of 3.9 billion dollars. So, what is it that they’re selling? There is a good chance you’ve consumed at least one of the many products they own and distribute, such as Fiji Water or Halos oranges. The pair met when Lynda started her own ad agency and was assisting Stewart with a project for the business he was running at that time. Over time, they started working collectively together to invest and sell assorted products to the public, many of which are naturally good for human consumption.


Do What You Love and Respect One Another


There are plenty of entrepreneur couples out there. Some are just getting started while others have been in business for decades and continue to achieve a high level of success. Although you may be focused on figuring out your passion and what you want to do to get further in life while making a decent income, it’s important to understand that it’s possible for you to achieve the same level of success as some of these people who are earning millions of dollars each year. Most people don’t become a success overnight but figuring out what you want to do and how you’re going to make it happen is a great way to get started.


In addition to figuring out what you’d love to do for the rest of your life, you’ll need to remember to always respect your partner throughout the process. The thing about these successful couples is that they’re willing to provide support and guidance, they know how to communicate, and they believe in one another. If you don’t have respect, trust, and support in the relationship, it’s going to be difficult to have success as entrepreneurs together.


If you’ve always dreamed of running your own business with your partner by your side, it’s not a dream that is too farfetched. In fact, there are lots of successful couples that are working hard, reaching goals, and living the life they’ve always dreamed of having.

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