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Don’t Know What To Do With Your Career and Life? Start with Discovering Your Life’s Purpose



Don't Know What To Do With Your Career and Life?

In today’s world many people, especially millennials, are running around doing what is expected of them and trying their best to survive, much less be happy. Unfortunately it is the exception, not the rule when people are living a life they are truly happy with through and through.

Living a life of fulfillment and happiness

Living a life of fulfillment and happiness is something we should all strive for, but often we don’t know how, especially if you’re younger and searching for answers. So many clients that I have worked with feel like they were stuck at dead end situations and unfulfilling jobs. They felt as though they were living life on a hamster wheel going through the motions with no clue how to get off.

What is my life’s purpose?

Once they began the work required to change course, they were able to see the light at the end of the tunnel and totally transform their lives. They did that by understanding what a Life Purpose is. One client in particular really stands out.  She had spent her entire career climbing the corporate ladder to prove her worth and make a name for herself in her corporation.  She was very successful and had made great progress from a professional standpoint, but she wasn’t happy. She felt like at age 29, she was in too deep to make a switch.

When you’re not happy

After she and I spent some time together she began to realize she wasn’t happy because she wasn’t really doing what she wanted to do.  She was doing what she thought she had to be doing based on the expectations that society had placed on her. She didn’t know what a life purpose was and she had no idea where to begin to figure out what her purpose was.

Ask simple questions

She followed this simple algorithm I put together on discovering your life purpose and boy did her life ever change.  Within a year she fully transitioned out of her corporate job and started designing a thriving business of her own that she loved and allowed her to utilize her true talents for exactly what it is she came here to do.

A negative self image

Another example is a client that could barely find a job, and was certainly not having success finding a job she liked.  She didn’t think she had any special talents and she was so desperate for a paycheck to cover her bills and to pay her student loans that she took whatever job she could find.

Develop a vision

When we started working together she saw no end in sight.  Then she very quickly gained clarity on her life purpose, changed her attitude and outlook and within six months she was offered a promotion in a different division of her current job and guess what… Her new job was totally in line with her life purpose and she has never been happier. Not only is she super fulfilled at work, but she says everything she has learned has parleyed into all aspects of her life. Even her dating life is thriving more then it ever has.

Look within

The beautiful thing is your life purpose isn’t something you create; it’s already within you.  You simply just need to be still and quite enough to hear it. Most people think if they are past the age of 27, its too late to start over. I am here to tell you nothing is further from the truth and you are exactly right where you need to be.

Failure is the most important feedback

Consider every “failure” and every wrong turn, or screwed up decision, a synchronistic step to get you here to this article so you can figure out exactly what your life purpose is and begin to live a life that is filled with happiness and joy. Today is the perfect day to find you purpose and discover your ultimate talents in life! That is the perfect day to start living a life of happiness.


If you want to discover your purpose and talents, here is what you do:

It’s actually really simple.  The first step is acknowledging that you want and are now choosing to live a life of happiness and freedom and then start asking for help.


You ask your higher self, God, the universe, or whatever it is you believe in to show you how you can align yourself with your higher purpose.


Write down these 5 questions:

      What do I love to do?

      What brings me joy?

      What comes naturally to me?

      When am I my happiest?

      What would I be doing if money was no object?


Spend about 15-20 minutes answering the questions and really just allowing yourself to go into a state of stream-consciousness free writing.  Allow whatever wants to come out onto the paper to come out whether it makes sense or not.


Then commit to starting your day reading the questions and sitting in stillness and listening for more in depth answers every day for at least five minutes for the next 30 days.  You will then begin to get your answers and start to see exactly what it is you came here to do. You can then take action on your own, or find a consultant or coach to help you make your dream job an actual lucrative career.


What is so amazing about someone being in their late ’20s is you have enough career experience behind you to be able to pull from your experiences and allow them to be used in a positive way for whatever it is you want to do moving forward and being aligned with a larger purpose.  And yet, the sky is still the limit: You are so young and still have so much time to develop a booming career.


The fact that you took the time to read this article says that you are ready to invoke deeper meaning, purpose, and more happiness into your life. If you want to go deeper then check out a webinar I did on understanding life purpose and how to gain clarity on yours. You can sign up for free here! (


I have so many clients whose lives have transformed in massive ways, simply by the shift in understanding their purpose and exactly what it is they came here to do. It is amazing to see the awesome results of how everything starts to shift for the better once you are living with purpose and meaning and trying to contribute to the greater good of the planet. By following the 5 steps above you will be on your way to discovering your purpose and talents in no time!

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Can You Receive A Compliment Without It Getting To Your Head?



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Receiving compliments gracefully isn’t as easy as it should be for some people. How about you: are YOU ready for someone to give you a pat on the back? To be pushed to doing more? To have someone give you a supporting hand? To be picked up when you fall down?

Sure, we may think that’s what we want. But is it what we need to develop, to grow, and to get better?

If someone complimented you on every little improvement you made while learning a new skill, would you not start to feel a bit marginalized? That perhaps they didn’t really think you could do it? What about when you do something that seems pretty easy and everyone made it into a big deal?


Receiving Compliments When You Are Not Ready For It

Why You Are Not Receiving Compliments

Developing new skills is never free of trouble. We all know the level of foundation that must be built to get from being a novice, before reaching greatness. In the learning process, we all know when we are in that frustrating stage of not being quite as good – but we know what we have to do to get there.

It’s in these moments that receiving compliments on your every action could minimize your efforts. That’s because if they truly knew you, people would be holding out for when you make that big, defining leap. 

As we overcome hurdles in our learning and development, friends, family members, and colleagues will know when the time is right to provide encouragement. They know that when that moment comes, those words will have the right amount of impact on you.

Think back to when you were growing up, playing some elaborate game. Perhaps you spent hours creating this game: building a fort, putting together things that the rest of your characters in the play could use. You pushed through despite the trials and problems.

It would have served absolutely no purpose for someone to congratulate you on every step (and misstep) along the way.  You would have lost your flow as you worked through the problem, constantly being interrupted – all while you were still trying to figure it out and understand where you needed to go.

Why You Are Not Receiving Compliments


When Receiving Compliments Makes You Content with Present Achievements

You might never have finished if someone patted you on the back early in that moment, content in the knowledge that you “thought up” the idea and that was enough. If everyone was saying you did great simply for thinking up something new, would it have compelled you to stop?

Maybe. Perhaps you would have stopped with that compliment.

As a parent, you learn when to encourage your children. Usually, it’s not when they show up, and not when they do what kids around them are able to do as well. It’s when they push themselves to do more. When they pick themselves up and still lose, when they try something new for the first time, fall over and fail, not sure if they should do it again.

Those are the moments when kids should be receiving compliments – NOT when they have done the same thing over and over again, or when they didn’t try their best but won anyways.

Kids know this. They can feel it when people give false compliments or encouragement because they did something they’ve always done. But when it is something meaningful, something they have worked hard for, they know the encouragement will be there to help them.

Why You Are Not Receiving Compliments

The reason you might not be receiving compliments or encouragement when you want to is because you haven’t earned them or don’t deserve them yet.

Maybe your coaches, leaders, parents, or other people who support you know you are not ready for it. Perhaps they need to see you making that next big leap in your growth and development.

Those compliments might not come today, tomorrow, next week, next month, or next year. But look at those around you – the great people you have chosen to surround yourself with – and you’ll see that they are waiting to give you that push. They are waiting for you to make it happen.

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3 Ways to Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart




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I truly believe that dreams must extend beyond wishes of self-improvement; that its goal should be to contribute to the world around you.

The heart is a fickle thing. Imagine how many amazing things wouldn’t have been accomplished if great minds simply stopped when they “didn’t feel like it”.

It’s human nature. I’m sure that during the course of over 300 bank rejections, Walt Disney had days when he felt like giving up. But he didn’t. He kept going. Why? It was because his dream went far beyond himself.

Here’s how YOU can keep going – even if it feels like your dreams are falling apart.


3 Ways to Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart

1.) Remember The “Why”

Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart

Often times, I find that dreams extend far beyond the simple purpose of making one happy. For example, being a songwriter in and of itself does not make me feel happy and fulfilled. Imagine if my life’s work was to write songs that no one would ever hear. That doesn’t elicit any feelings of happiness or fulfillment (at least to me).

Seeing and hearing the healing effects that come from the songs I create for others to hear? Now you’re talking. Healing and helping others is the part of my dream that keeps it alive. It gives me purpose in this world that goes far beyond myself and my skills.

I’m reminded of the character Ebenezer Scrooge from Dickens’ “A Christmas Carol”. Scrooge’s goal in life was to have money – and lots of it. He set aside love and relationships for that dream. The result of this life goal was a lonely, cold, bitter old man.

I won’t ruin the whole story for the very few of you that may not have heard it. In the end, Scrooge discovered that what brought him fulfillment and happiness were community and generosity.

So what is the “why” to your dream? How is your dream going to affect those around you? Get beyond yourself. As many have said, YOU are your biggest obstacle to success.


2.) Take Off The Rose-Colored Glasses

Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart

You know what I’m talking about. The “I’m going to make it big” and “I’m going to famous/rich/etc.” I hate to take a pointy realistic needle to your big ideas, but I’m doing it out of love. Here it is:

Your dream isn’t going to look exactly how you pictured it.

Take a minute to take that one in. Still here? Yes. Alive? Yes. Not Bleeding? No? Hurt a bit?

It’s OK. I know. I’ve been there. Dreams are vulnerable. We spend countless hours imagining what it would be like and how we will get there. But the truth is, in my experience, they have never turned out exactly how I have imagined. Why? We live in a world of people and circumstances that we can’t control.

Here is where the “why” comes in. The beautiful thing is that your works are a direct result of your heart’s intention…and what you put out into the world never comes back void. Here’s an example:

As a singer-songwriter, the common idea of making it big for my line of work is to have a hit song or perform in front of a sold-out crowd at Madison Square Garden (I’m more inclined towards Red Rock Amphitheatre, but you get the picture).

Let’s say that I work and strive tirelessly to do everything I need to do to reach that goal. I release a song, I tour around the US, develop a large following, get on the radio, etc. Along the way, I hear stories of how this song has impacted the people who have heard it. Stories describing how it brought healing, encouragement, and hope.

To go further, what if I never even make it that far? What if circumstances happen and I can’t tour? What if everything “falls apart”? What if I end up playing at open mics for the rest of my life? What if it doesn’t happen in the next year? Two years?

Does that change the fact that my song helped heal and open the heart of a broken and depressed Vietnam Vet? Or how it helped encourage an author to keep going and writing? Or how my song started a conversation on how to look past the labels overshadowing soldiers and their families?

It’s all about your perspective of success, my friend. To me, because my “why” and my heart’s intention are to help people, those stories above are my version of success. It’s what keeps me going. If I get to Madison Square Garden (or Red Rocks), well that’s just icing on top of the cake.

Keep going on your dream. Make a plan, and in the words of .38 Special, “Hold on loosely, but don’t let go.” Roll with the punches and understand that even greater things can come when things don’t go according to your plan.


3.) Make Your Dream Your Job

Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart

No, I don’t mean quit your job and have no income while you work on your dream. That’s an entirely different article (and completely up to you). I’m talking about treating your dream like it is your job.

For example, if you completely failed at a presentation at work, would you just quit and not go the next day? No! You have a livelihood and an expectation to show up. So why quit on your dream at the first sign of failure?

Treat your dream like your job. Make a plan, show up every day, and understand that it may take a while to see any results. I know many songwriters who wrote hundreds of songs before they wrote a hit. However, they never would have reached it if they didn’t take that first step, made a commitment, and wrote 100 songs first.

Dreams don’t just happen. They take work. So go get started!

My best advice under this theme is check out the book “The War of Art” by Steven Pressfield. It is by far the best resource I have discovered in my journey of living out my dream.

Here’s the deal. With every goal that I have set and achieved, I never sat at the end and thought to myself, “man, look at what I did”. Believe it or not, I was more overwhelmed with the thoughts of the journey that I had to take to get there – the good and the bad.

I would admire and laugh at the unexpected things that came. I would smile and enjoy the character it built, the person that I became in the process. In the end, the best thing about dreams and goals isn’t their achievement, but the journey that you take to get there.

Never forget that the dream in your heart was put there for a reason. You were made to make an impact on this world.

Enjoy the journey and never, ever give up. Keep going.

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