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7 Steps To A No Regret Life Starting Today



7 Steps To A No Regret Life Starting Today

Based on the U-Bend of Life, people spend the majority of their lives unhappy. According to the chart, happiness levels are high until we reach 18 years old. It declines sharply in our early 20’s, level out and then dip again in our late 30s. It increases again in our mid-50s, only to peak again in our 60’s. We spend nearly 40 years of our adulthood unhappy.


I urge you to BREAK THE CYCLE and don’t become the norm. Be the exception!

7 Steps To A No Regret Life Starting Today

Follow these 7 steps in your 20’s to ensure you don’t have regrets in your 30’s and 40’s.


1.) Set Clear Goals

“People with goals succeed because they know where they are going… It’s a simple as that.”
– Earl Nightengale


Get clear on what you want in life and go for it! Sit down and write down 5 goals you would like to accomplish in the next 6 months; then for the next 12 months and again for the next 5 years. When you set a clear vision for what you want, you have something to work towards, and a reason to get out of bed in the morning. Write your vision on notecards and hang them in your bathroom mirror. Have another set at your desk. That way your goals are always in front of you.


2.) Relationships

“You can be married to someone for 3 years and bitter about it for the next 30.” – TD Jakes


Get clear on what you desire in relationships. Write down the characteristics of your ideal mate and don’t settle! A series of bad relationships can leave you traumatized and scarred. Choosing the wrong mate can also stifle your creativity, kill your ambition and deter you from living your dreams.


Get clear on your ideal mate and keep your mind focused on the traits you want and off the traits you don’t want. The Law of Attraction will bring you what you focus on the most, so if you’re constantly focusing on what you don’t want, you’ll keep getting it.


Focus, be patient and don’t settle. It’s better to be single, happy and living a blissful life than to be stifled, miserable and trapped in a nightmare marriage that slowly corrodes your soul.


3.) Be Passionate

“Some people have so given up on life, they’ve joined the Thank God It’s Friday Club. How Sad.” – Jim Rohn


Be selective about your job and don’t just take one for security. There is nothing worse than feeling like you are wasting away at a job you hate.Nearly 87% of people worldwide go to jobs every day that they don’t like.


Sometimes you may have to work a job you dislike in order to get to your dream job, but make sure you are constantly moving towards your goals. Don’t stay stagnate in a job that you don’t desire and then complain about it every day over alcoholic drinks.


Ask yourself: What would you do every day if all of your lifestyle expenses were paid? What problem do you want to solve for the world? Seek a job or mission within those areas and it will bring you immense joy and freedom.


4.)  Spend wisely

“Half of the stress that we go through is trying to pay for and take care of what we own.” – Joyce Meyer


The quickest way to get into financial chains is spending money beyond your means in order to look good for others. Some people put a lot of time and energy into looking like they have money, but don’t do the same for actually creating multiple streams of income.


Many people are trapped in jobs they hate because of mortgages and car payments and then write off their happiness for the sake of “Golden Handcuffs.” Be responsible and make good financial decisions. Take classes and get advice from financial counselors.


Invest your money into growth vehicles and don’t spend your money to impress people who don’t care about you anyway.


#5 Be Mindful of Advice


“Opinions are the cheapest commodities on earth. Everyone has a flock of opinions ready to be wished upon anyone who will accept them. If you are influenced by ‘opinions’ when you reach DECISIONS, you will not succeed in any undertaking.” – Napoleon Hill


Seek out successful people who have the results that you desire and emulate them. Be mindful of people giving you advice that don’t have the results you desire. When you buy someone’s opinion, you buy their lifestyle. If you were looking to buy a Mercedes, would you seek advice from someone who drives a Dodge Neon?


This includes your family and friends. They may give you well intended advice in order to save you from yourself, but if they are unhappy and miserable in their marriage, can they really tell you how to fix yours?


We all have 24 hours in a day. Spend your time learning from the people who are successful in the areas you desire success and avoid negative people who only want to bring you down.


6.) Expect Failure

“I think that everything that happens in our life is here to teach us something about living.”
– Oprah


The more you want in life and the greater you desire to become, failure will be a natural part of the process. If you realize that most highly successful people failed (epically) before achieving success, then you won’t feel like a loser when it happens to you. Failure is a stepping stone on the way to achievement. Find the lesson in your failure and apply it in your next attempt. Thomas Edison failed 10,000 times while inventing the lightbulb. If you quit only after one attempt, do you really deserve success?


7.) Regularly Evaluate Your Inner Circle

“Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.” Albert Einstein


Just like the seasons change, there will be people in your life for a season and very few for your lifetime. When friendships and relationships become toxic and you feel like you are being held back and choked out, it’s time to let them go.


A key phrase of when it’s time to leave, is when people ask, “Who do you think you are?”


This applies to your friends and coworkers. Don’t allow others to impose their limitations and fears on you. Be mindful if you are playing small in order to fit in with the group you are around. It’s said that you are the average of your 5 closest friends. If they are all broke and you desire more money, it’s time to get new friends.


The leaves on trees dry up and fall way in the fall, but a new set comes fresh and anew in spring. Make room for new friendships and experiences by cutting way the old. Only then will you see what you are really capable of achieving.



Keep these 7 points with you as you move through life. You have the power to choose how you show up in this world every single day. Be kind, love others, love yourself and you’ll discover a whole new world. This life is not a dress rehearsal. This is it!! Live full and die empty!

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Can You Receive A Compliment Without It Getting To Your Head?



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Receiving compliments gracefully isn’t as easy as it should be for some people. How about you: are YOU ready for someone to give you a pat on the back? To be pushed to doing more? To have someone give you a supporting hand? To be picked up when you fall down?

Sure, we may think that’s what we want. But is it what we need to develop, to grow, and to get better?

If someone complimented you on every little improvement you made while learning a new skill, would you not start to feel a bit marginalized? That perhaps they didn’t really think you could do it? What about when you do something that seems pretty easy and everyone made it into a big deal?


Receiving Compliments When You Are Not Ready For It

Why You Are Not Receiving Compliments

Developing new skills is never free of trouble. We all know the level of foundation that must be built to get from being a novice, before reaching greatness. In the learning process, we all know when we are in that frustrating stage of not being quite as good – but we know what we have to do to get there.

It’s in these moments that receiving compliments on your every action could minimize your efforts. That’s because if they truly knew you, people would be holding out for when you make that big, defining leap. 

As we overcome hurdles in our learning and development, friends, family members, and colleagues will know when the time is right to provide encouragement. They know that when that moment comes, those words will have the right amount of impact on you.

Think back to when you were growing up, playing some elaborate game. Perhaps you spent hours creating this game: building a fort, putting together things that the rest of your characters in the play could use. You pushed through despite the trials and problems.

It would have served absolutely no purpose for someone to congratulate you on every step (and misstep) along the way.  You would have lost your flow as you worked through the problem, constantly being interrupted – all while you were still trying to figure it out and understand where you needed to go.

Why You Are Not Receiving Compliments


When Receiving Compliments Makes You Content with Present Achievements

You might never have finished if someone patted you on the back early in that moment, content in the knowledge that you “thought up” the idea and that was enough. If everyone was saying you did great simply for thinking up something new, would it have compelled you to stop?

Maybe. Perhaps you would have stopped with that compliment.

As a parent, you learn when to encourage your children. Usually, it’s not when they show up, and not when they do what kids around them are able to do as well. It’s when they push themselves to do more. When they pick themselves up and still lose, when they try something new for the first time, fall over and fail, not sure if they should do it again.

Those are the moments when kids should be receiving compliments – NOT when they have done the same thing over and over again, or when they didn’t try their best but won anyways.

Kids know this. They can feel it when people give false compliments or encouragement because they did something they’ve always done. But when it is something meaningful, something they have worked hard for, they know the encouragement will be there to help them.

Why You Are Not Receiving Compliments

The reason you might not be receiving compliments or encouragement when you want to is because you haven’t earned them or don’t deserve them yet.

Maybe your coaches, leaders, parents, or other people who support you know you are not ready for it. Perhaps they need to see you making that next big leap in your growth and development.

Those compliments might not come today, tomorrow, next week, next month, or next year. But look at those around you – the great people you have chosen to surround yourself with – and you’ll see that they are waiting to give you that push. They are waiting for you to make it happen.

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3 Ways to Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart




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I truly believe that dreams must extend beyond wishes of self-improvement; that its goal should be to contribute to the world around you.

The heart is a fickle thing. Imagine how many amazing things wouldn’t have been accomplished if great minds simply stopped when they “didn’t feel like it”.

It’s human nature. I’m sure that during the course of over 300 bank rejections, Walt Disney had days when he felt like giving up. But he didn’t. He kept going. Why? It was because his dream went far beyond himself.

Here’s how YOU can keep going – even if it feels like your dreams are falling apart.


3 Ways to Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart

1.) Remember The “Why”

Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart

Often times, I find that dreams extend far beyond the simple purpose of making one happy. For example, being a songwriter in and of itself does not make me feel happy and fulfilled. Imagine if my life’s work was to write songs that no one would ever hear. That doesn’t elicit any feelings of happiness or fulfillment (at least to me).

Seeing and hearing the healing effects that come from the songs I create for others to hear? Now you’re talking. Healing and helping others is the part of my dream that keeps it alive. It gives me purpose in this world that goes far beyond myself and my skills.

I’m reminded of the character Ebenezer Scrooge from Dickens’ “A Christmas Carol”. Scrooge’s goal in life was to have money – and lots of it. He set aside love and relationships for that dream. The result of this life goal was a lonely, cold, bitter old man.

I won’t ruin the whole story for the very few of you that may not have heard it. In the end, Scrooge discovered that what brought him fulfillment and happiness were community and generosity.

So what is the “why” to your dream? How is your dream going to affect those around you? Get beyond yourself. As many have said, YOU are your biggest obstacle to success.


2.) Take Off The Rose-Colored Glasses

Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart

You know what I’m talking about. The “I’m going to make it big” and “I’m going to famous/rich/etc.” I hate to take a pointy realistic needle to your big ideas, but I’m doing it out of love. Here it is:

Your dream isn’t going to look exactly how you pictured it.

Take a minute to take that one in. Still here? Yes. Alive? Yes. Not Bleeding? No? Hurt a bit?

It’s OK. I know. I’ve been there. Dreams are vulnerable. We spend countless hours imagining what it would be like and how we will get there. But the truth is, in my experience, they have never turned out exactly how I have imagined. Why? We live in a world of people and circumstances that we can’t control.

Here is where the “why” comes in. The beautiful thing is that your works are a direct result of your heart’s intention…and what you put out into the world never comes back void. Here’s an example:

As a singer-songwriter, the common idea of making it big for my line of work is to have a hit song or perform in front of a sold-out crowd at Madison Square Garden (I’m more inclined towards Red Rock Amphitheatre, but you get the picture).

Let’s say that I work and strive tirelessly to do everything I need to do to reach that goal. I release a song, I tour around the US, develop a large following, get on the radio, etc. Along the way, I hear stories of how this song has impacted the people who have heard it. Stories describing how it brought healing, encouragement, and hope.

To go further, what if I never even make it that far? What if circumstances happen and I can’t tour? What if everything “falls apart”? What if I end up playing at open mics for the rest of my life? What if it doesn’t happen in the next year? Two years?

Does that change the fact that my song helped heal and open the heart of a broken and depressed Vietnam Vet? Or how it helped encourage an author to keep going and writing? Or how my song started a conversation on how to look past the labels overshadowing soldiers and their families?

It’s all about your perspective of success, my friend. To me, because my “why” and my heart’s intention are to help people, those stories above are my version of success. It’s what keeps me going. If I get to Madison Square Garden (or Red Rocks), well that’s just icing on top of the cake.

Keep going on your dream. Make a plan, and in the words of .38 Special, “Hold on loosely, but don’t let go.” Roll with the punches and understand that even greater things can come when things don’t go according to your plan.


3.) Make Your Dream Your Job

Keep Going When Your Dream Falls Apart

No, I don’t mean quit your job and have no income while you work on your dream. That’s an entirely different article (and completely up to you). I’m talking about treating your dream like it is your job.

For example, if you completely failed at a presentation at work, would you just quit and not go the next day? No! You have a livelihood and an expectation to show up. So why quit on your dream at the first sign of failure?

Treat your dream like your job. Make a plan, show up every day, and understand that it may take a while to see any results. I know many songwriters who wrote hundreds of songs before they wrote a hit. However, they never would have reached it if they didn’t take that first step, made a commitment, and wrote 100 songs first.

Dreams don’t just happen. They take work. So go get started!

My best advice under this theme is check out the book “The War of Art” by Steven Pressfield. It is by far the best resource I have discovered in my journey of living out my dream.

Here’s the deal. With every goal that I have set and achieved, I never sat at the end and thought to myself, “man, look at what I did”. Believe it or not, I was more overwhelmed with the thoughts of the journey that I had to take to get there – the good and the bad.

I would admire and laugh at the unexpected things that came. I would smile and enjoy the character it built, the person that I became in the process. In the end, the best thing about dreams and goals isn’t their achievement, but the journey that you take to get there.

Never forget that the dream in your heart was put there for a reason. You were made to make an impact on this world.

Enjoy the journey and never, ever give up. Keep going.

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