As a Dating and Relationship coach I am asked this question a thousand times or more a year. I call it an Art because some people are really not comfortable in t doing so. The following are a few tips to help you on the journey.
The Art of Flirting: 12 Ways To Flirt Better Starting Today
1. Smile and show your teeth.
No one, can resist a great smile, it helps the person know that you are inviting and that you like them.When you smile, everyone else around you would feel like smiling as well, including the person of interest. Thus, it would encourage a more positive environment between you and your potential date. Smiling can lead to a more enjoyable conversation, which can make you and your person of interest have more fun while you trying to get to know them. For the ladies, Bat those eyes girl… Flutter, Flutter, no one can resist that soft flutter of the lashes; don’t go crazy though lol, Just a sweet smile and a little flutter of the eyes will do.
2. Lean in a little but not too much.
Lean in like you are listening and like you want them in your space.Showing the other person that you are interested is a must, especially if you really are. This is because it can build his or her self-esteem,knowing that you may be looking forward to seeing him or her again. With that, you both would become more excited in seeing each other,and making a date for the future.
3. Give a compliment.
For a man; making compliments on the woman he is flirting with is one of the best ways to make her feel appreciated. This is because women in most cases share a fear about not being attractive on certain occasions. Therefore, if you want to make the object of your affection more comfortable with you, then you should give a compliment to her on how her hair looks, how her perfume smells so good, etc. Ladies, men like compliments also, so you can say nice haircut, great shoes, I like your outfit.
4. Be mysterious.
Some people love dating a mysterious person since they love to slowly uncover things about him or her, as they go on more dates; and, this is especially true to most women. Being mysterious means that you give an idea about what you are, but you are not going into more details about it. It leaves them a feeling of hanging, in which they would want to know you more. This could be the start of something special and new.
5. No sex talks.
Should be a rule that you need to follow, especially in flirting. This is because first and second dates are usually the time when you get to know the other person, who can be your potential boyfriend or girlfriend. Talking about sex might give the wrong impression about your intentions, which can make the other person feel uncomfortable.
6. Make eye contact.
Don’t stare but look up make eye contact and smile or even a quick wink.Walk by ever so gently, for the ladies a gentle sway of the hips and for my guys a smooth walk like you are the man. Don’t stalk them, they should not see you every time they get up or at each place you seem to walk, let’s not scare them off.
7. Learn how to dance.
This would give you lots of benefits, aside from gaining a more flexible body. It can actually help in impressing the person of interest. A man can easily become impressed if he sees that his person of interest is a good dancer,since it shows him how sexy she can be. Aside from that, dancing with each other can create a more comfortable environment between the two persons.
8. Be nice.
This can mean a lot of things, especially for a guy. Nice can mean desirable, normal,presentable, trustable, helpful, or friendly; and,lots of women are actually on the lookout for the nice guys. Thus, taking note of these things can help you make a good impression, if you are in a bar type environment…Send the waitress or waiter over and ask to buy them a beverage. (Make sure the waiter or waitress brings it, just to be on the safe side)
9. Don’t be confrontational.
You might think that being confrontational or aggressive can make the other person think that you are self-reliant and self-assured. Although this is true, it is actually not a good idea to make this kind of impression. This is because; the other person may come to think that you would be using your aggressive behavior to manipulate him or her.
10. Be careful about touching.
For a man, if his love interest touches him, he can interpret it as something positive. However, for women, touching them may not be a good idea, because some may become offended by it. Only touch a woman when she becomes more comfortable with you, i.e. you are already engaged in dancing, or if she touches you when you tell jokes.
11. Have a Business card.
If you want your love interest to have something that he or she can remember you with, then you should bring with you a number of business cards when you go out. Although the best thing to do to be remembered well is to impress your interest, having business cards can also provide a unique impression.
12. Don’t give in to the fear.
Just go for it you may be a little nervous or awkward but the more you do it the better you will get!! You are worthy. If you are awed by the presence of your person of interest you should take control of yourself, by knowing that you are indeed worthy to be his or her date.By doing this, you can become more confident of yourself. Aside from that, if you end up having a relationship with that particular person it will be worth not giving into the fear.