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How To be Accountable for YOU!



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Proven Keys to getting you the results you want

I love watching Disney movies with my girls. They would pick the latest movie (or the same movie) and we’ll get cozy on the couch and we’ll watch it. My older daughter would be in a trance like state watching while my lil one is curious and talks throughout the whole movie about the things that she didn’t understand. But the one thing they both understood was the moral of the story and after the movie as over we would talk about it. (While the lil one is still on a rant LOL). We’ve all somehow and in some sort of way have been influenced by Disney Films as we were growing up. So in this blog I want to talk about one timeless principle that, if applied, will help you stay accountable to get the results you want from any goal you set to accomplish.

At the heart every story and the core of STRETCHYOURSELF lies this one simple principle:

Don’t let your present and past circumstances define who you are and what you do moving forward.

In others words, don’t place the hope of pending success in the hands of luck or chance. You create your luck with the decisions you make and the actions you take. Relying on someone or something to save you only handicap the true power you can release to think clearly, be creative and react quickly. Instead, charge your momentum through action, and good, positive, game changing things will begin to happen.

How To be Accountable for YOU!

So whether you’re looking to make some major changes in your life or you just want to tweak areas a little, Here are 7 tips to help you unleash your power and potential in order for you to STRETCH your actions into the results you want in life.

1. Be accountable for yourself.

Are you truly holding yourself accountable for the actions and inactions in your life? Answer this question honestly because no one is judging your position in life except you and you know where you want to be. Staying true to yourself and your goals should not be a chore, but rather look at it as a never ending gift to yourself, a strong mindset that when set into place will ensure you are taking the proper actions towards success, even if you are kicking and screaming along the way.

2. Think as if your life depended on it.

“If it has to be, it’s up to me”…this is a personal quote that I create for myself and use as a mantra in order to shift my mindset into a determined, creative mindset that doesn’t allow for excuses to rest and allow complacency to set in. When you shift into a determined mindset, you will discover solutions and resources for perceived challenges that you may have believed were out of your control. If your life depended upon it, would you come up with an idea, solution, or strategy to save yourself? No doubt!

3. When you can’t control your circumstances, don’t let your circumstances control you.

Things happen in everyone life that doesn’t go the way they plan, that doesn’t mean you scrap the whole idea or goal, that means you need to focus on what worked, what didn’t work scrap it, and find another way. It’s called experience by the way and NOT failure and looking for sympathy for one attempt isn’t going to do you any good. Thomas Edison attempted over 1000 times to get that one opportunity to make it right and it changed the world! Let your goal or idea do the same through the energy, focus and action you put behind it. Remember, whether you are encouraged by this article or someone else, the point is, get out there and do SOMETHING.

4. You have to want it MORE than you don’t want it.

I was playing basketball with my friend in the park one day and it was very windy and as I was coming up to the court he yelled out, “Ron! The difference in who wins today depends on who wants it the most.” Not having our usual long range jump shots in the arsenal made us both rely on creative ways to make baskets. Your goals are the same. Everything you set out to achieve will exact a certain price from you – energy, effort, patience, persistence. It’s perfectly natural to want good things in life without paying the price but success comes when you hit that tipping point and began wanting your goal more than you dread the road to reaching it.

5. STRETCH outside of the normal and breakthrough.

Most times we follow the paths that were before us and that’s fine, to get you started. But in order for you to follow your passion you must blaze your own trail, and that may mean trying something new and different even if it’s uncomfortable and it scares you. Jim Carrey is a perfect example. Watching his interview with Oprah, he stated that he would drive his beat up Toyota to Hollywood Hills and while overlooking Los Angeles visualize himself being this big actor and really internalizing the feeling. Then he pulled out his checkbook and wrote himself a check for $10 million dollars. In that moment two things happened! First, he drew a line in the sand with his personal resolve and secondly, he let go of the normal and tried something outside of his routine that he said and I quote “What will this hurt?” When you discover your own internal power, you will see that you have the right, the ability, to live your best life and create your own reality, and it’s up to you to breakthrough even if what you have to do in faith scares you.

6. Ask Yourself, Am I all in?

We care more for things that we are committed to do, as oppose to doing just enough to get by. My mentor Jim Shead used to give our seminar team this empowering mini speech before we would meet people. He wanted us to be all into the people we were helping with no distractions. He would say, “How can you be all in when you’re distracted by other things going on in your life? Leave your life outside those doors. If you are with me you are vested in me as much as I am vested in you and I need for you to be all in. Own what you are doing in that moment with that person.” When you own something – no matter what it is, you make an investment that involves sacrifice. If you are not all in, you can walk away from anything without losing something. If you are really committed to achieving any goal you set out to accomplish, go all in.

7. Make it happen! Make it so! Engage!

I am a stone cold Star Trek fanatic! I love Captain Picard’s voice and especially loved when he would ask Data to set a course to an unknown galaxy and he would look out over the deck into space and say, “Let’s see what out there….ENGAGE!” How do you do that? How do you make it happen? It starts by taking the first step…nothing more. You have the choice to fulfill your dreams or wallow in self-pity, playing the victim game. The choice is yours, but understand that true success and accomplishment doesn’t come with you achieving the goal, that’s just part of the process. It is the process that the journey to accomplishment transforms you into a better person. And guess what? Once you know that it’s possible, the only limitations you will have are the ones you create yourself. So……go see what out there for you to accomplishment…Make it so! ENGAGE!

So, if you’re struggling with holding yourself accountable, know that you’re not alone. I’m right here with you, struggling to keep myself accountable as well – we’re in this together. And it’s not something that you will succeed the first time. You’ll make mistakes, but the key is don’t be so hard on yourself and keep moving forward. We’ll get through it. And this ‘getting through’ will make us stronger. It isn’t easy now, and it may take us awhile, but it will be well worth it in the end.

Your turn…Excercise your Everyday Power

What are some of the things that keep you stuck or helps you get unstuck from pursuing your goals? Which one of these steps if applied in your life would help you move closer achieving your goals? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts and insights? I would love to hear from you and look forward to connecting with you soon!

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Couple Entrepreneurs: How to Make It Happen With Your Partner



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Have you always dreamed of having success as an entrepreneur? Thoughts of working for yourself, doing things you’re passionate about, and not worrying about working for someone else may linger in your mind most of the time. If you’re married, there is a chance that your partner has some of the same goals, and that means the two of you could eventually become a pair of successful entrepreneurs who motivate one another, continually work hard, and reach all kinds of goals that will get you both further in life.


How to Make It Work


Although you may like the idea of becoming a successful entrepreneur while your partner does the same, it’s not uncommon to have some concerns about the situation. You may worry that you’re both going to take on too much and not have enough time for one another, but that isn’t always the case. It’s all about prioritizing work, setting a schedule, and being there to support one another through the ups and downs that will eventually occur.


Before working together to achieve goals, sit down and have a full conversation about the goals you’d like to achieve and the role you’ll each take on. Both of you will need to come to an agreement to keep work and the relationship separately while being respectful to one another. You can’t expect to have success with your partner if neither of you are respecting one another or collectively sharing ideas. You’ll need to focus on communication and compromising at times to make things work on a long-term basis.


Prime Examples of Successful Entrepreneur Couples


If you’re in need of motivation and encouragement because you’re not sure how to get your start in a specific industry with your partner, it may be best for you to learn a bit more about some of the successful entrepreneur couples out there. These couples work hard to achieve their goals and they support one another in various business ventures. They put forth the effort that is required of them to consistently achieve their goals.


Chris Sacca is a successful billionaire who once was fired from a job as a lawyer and then moved on to Google where had more opportunities to learn, invest, and become the success he is today. He is now the owner of a successful venture capital fund, known as Lowercase Capital. Although he’s had much success in his career, Chris Sacca’s wife, Crystal English Sacca, is a successful entrepreneur in her own right. She’s spent most of her career creating compelling and engaging commercials as well as digital advertisements for various companies. She’s worked for several of the most popular brands, including Sprint and HBO. In addition to these accomplishments, she works as an art director. While these two individuals aren’t doing the same things, they’re a married couple supporting one another while they each work hard to achieve their own personal goals.


In addition to Chris Sacca and his wife, Stewart and Lynda Resnick are another good example of a successful entrepreneur power couple. They currently have a net worth of 3.9 billion dollars. So, what is it that they’re selling? There is a good chance you’ve consumed at least one of the many products they own and distribute, such as Fiji Water or Halos oranges. The pair met when Lynda started her own ad agency and was assisting Stewart with a project for the business he was running at that time. Over time, they started working collectively together to invest and sell assorted products to the public, many of which are naturally good for human consumption.


Do What You Love and Respect One Another


There are plenty of entrepreneur couples out there. Some are just getting started while others have been in business for decades and continue to achieve a high level of success. Although you may be focused on figuring out your passion and what you want to do to get further in life while making a decent income, it’s important to understand that it’s possible for you to achieve the same level of success as some of these people who are earning millions of dollars each year. Most people don’t become a success overnight but figuring out what you want to do and how you’re going to make it happen is a great way to get started.


In addition to figuring out what you’d love to do for the rest of your life, you’ll need to remember to always respect your partner throughout the process. The thing about these successful couples is that they’re willing to provide support and guidance, they know how to communicate, and they believe in one another. If you don’t have respect, trust, and support in the relationship, it’s going to be difficult to have success as entrepreneurs together.


If you’ve always dreamed of running your own business with your partner by your side, it’s not a dream that is too farfetched. In fact, there are lots of successful couples that are working hard, reaching goals, and living the life they’ve always dreamed of having.

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How Does Sleep Affect Your Mental Health?



Sleep and Mental Health

Sleep is our body’s repair mode. Our cells, tissues, muscles, and hormones are all replenished during the deepest phases of sleep. This ensures that we are operating at our best the next day.

Experts recommend about seven (7) hours of sleep a day for an average adult. This is keeps you mentally and physically focused. But what happens when you don’t get enough? Is there a link between sleep and our mental health?


The Link Between Sleep and Mood

Even someone who isn’t an expert on the subject can appreciate how active they feel after a good night’s sleep. In contrast, one can feel exhausted, irritated, and distracted after not getting enough the night before. That’s because sleep plays an important role in your mood and performance.

Researchers from the University of Pennsylvania conducted a study in which the subjects were restricted sleep to only 4.5 hours each night. After a week, the subjects reported greater levels of negative emotions and mental tiredness. Once they were allowed to sleep normally however, there was a sharp improvement in their mood.

Just as sleep impacts your mood, your present state of mind also has an equivalent effect on the quality of your sleep. If you’re anxious or stressed, your body will release hormones that force you to stay awake through the night, depriving you of much-needed rest. The result is a cycle of stress and lack of sleep.

Research suggests that around 15-20 percent of people who are dealing with insomnia (an inability to fall asleep) go on to develop serious mental depression. While research is still being conducted about the exact nature of the relationship between sleep and depression, there has been enough progress to indicate a strong correlation between the two.

People who suffer from insomnia are at a significantly greater risk to develop depression or anxiety. In fact, the onset of these conditions can be accurately predicted by studying the patient’s sleep patterns.


The Link Between Sleep and Learning

In addition to your mood, sleep also appears to impact your mind’s ability to learn. Three separate processes govern learning in your brain: acquisition, consolidation, and recall.

Acquisition entails receiving information and storing it in your neural circuitry. The second process, consolidation, strengthens the neural connections in your mind so that the memory is stored in an optimally useful form. Recall is when the brain accesses this stored memory when it is needed.

Poor sleep compromises all three of these processes. However, it is acquisition and recall that are most affected by sleep deprivation. Recent research has also demonstrated that a lack of sleep can reduce the brain’s ability to consolidate information it is presented with.

Students take note: inadequate sleep may negatively affect your chances of passing that exam. Indeed, you may even find yourself forgetting how to do simple tasks. If you’ve ever been involved in back-to-back all-nighters during exam week, you may already have experienced forgetting a solution to a simple problem – even after you’d done it half a dozen times!


Dealing with Sleep Problems To Improve Mental Health

If you’re experiencing emotional apathy, anxiety, depression, or irritability, one of the steps you can take before seeking a professional is to assess your sleep situation.

Treat sleep as a ritual. Similar to reading to a child before putting them to bed, a habit that helps one disconnect from gadgets and put their mind in a relaxed mood can go a long way towards ensuring a restful, wholesome, sleep experience.

Making time before going to bed is a good idea. Avoid exposure to bright lights (such as those emitted by computer screens and smartphones). Try not to consume caffeine or alcohol, as all of these can be detrimental to the quality of sleep (and may even prevent the onset of sleep completely).

Obviously, the way you’ve set up your bed (and your entire bedroom) will also play an important role in how well you’re able to sleep. For example, memory foam mattresses are often recommended for individuals who sleep in awkward postures that can cause back pain. For some good reviews, check out The Sleep Judge.

If you can’t get rid of thoughts buzzing around in your head, you may want to listen to some natural background sounds, such as rainfall or wind rushing through trees. This will ease your mind away from distractions, helping you drift off to sleep. If you get the recommended amount, see how replenished you feel the next day!


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