Editor’s Note: UPDATED as of October 13, 2016 for relevance and accuracy.
Every human being has an inner dialogue that is constantly reflecting on different types of thoughts— positive and negative — everyday.
Many of us allow that inner dialogue to run on autopilot without actively monitoring or influencing the thoughts that pass through our minds. But allowing it to run on autopilot is exactly the opposite of how you want to run your life.
If you want to live out your dreams, take control of your destiny, and fulfill that future of happiness, compassion, love, and success that you’ve always envisioned, the first step you need to take is using positive affirmations to take control of your inner dialogue.
The Inner Dialogue You Should Tell Yourself Everyday
You want to make sure that the thoughts passing through your mind are mostly positive instead of negative.
The following are four affirmations that will not only improve the quality of your thoughts, but will also send you on your way to creating that happy and successful future you know you deserve.
#1: “Today I Promise To Do Whatever It Takes for My Happiness, Success, and Future”
The only person who can make you happy—the only one who truly knows what your life is missing and can make your happiness a reality—is you.
Think back to a time in your life when you were depressed, stressed, feeling down-and-out, and dismayed. Who busted you out of your sadness? At that time, who was it that took the necessary steps—like asking for help, exercising, meditating, volunteering, or taking some time off from work—to get yourself out of that slump? It was you! Right?
The only person who can make you happy is YOU.
And on the flip-side of that, the only person who has the power to make you successful is also YOU. The only human being in the whole universe can transform your visions, your plans, your goals, your ideas, and your dreams into reality is you.
You are unique. There is only one you. So if you want to make your dreams come true, it’s on you to put in the hard work, discipline, man-hours, and dedication to accomplish your goals.
No other human being has the ability to take the necessary steps to create that fantastic life that you’re envisioning in the back of your mind.
That’s why every single day when you wake up and look in the mirror, you should say yourself: “today i promise to do whatever it takes for my happiness, success, and future”.
No one can make your greatness real except you. That’s why you have to make a lifelong promise to yourself that you will do whatever it takes to make that happy, successful, and extraordinary future that you deserve a reality.
Remind yourself of that promise every single day.
#2: “Today I am Grateful For Who I Am, What I Have, Where I’ve Been And Where I’m Going.”
There is no emotion more powerful, happiness-boosting, or essential for success than gratitude. Optimistic mentalities, feelings of pure joy, world-changing careers, and healthy relationships cannot exist without a foundation of an attitude of gratitude and appreciation.
Practicing gratitude is a powerful and proven way to create more positive outcomes in your life.
More often than not, feelings of sadness, depression, anxiety, and pessimism about your future, originate from an inability or lack of effort to feel grateful for the circumstances of your life.
So whenever you’re feeling down, you have to remember that no matter how terrible your life might seem—no matter how much it feels like the world is crashing down all around you—there will always be someone else out there who has it worse than you.
Consider the facts that there are people in your life that care about you, that you’ve made positive strides towards your goals in the past, that you still have your health, and that you’re still alive—that the universe gave you this opportunity to walk on this earth and make positive changes in the lives of others.
Even if you can’t see it right now, you’ve got so much going on in your life to be grateful for. And no matter how bad you have it, there is always some individual out there who went through worse pain than you and came out with a smile on their face.
Gratitude is the key to feeling truly fulfilled on a daily basis; finding the courage and optimism necessary to overcome huge adversity; creating healthy relationships; and building a deep sense of passion and love for yourself, your family, your friends, your past, your present, and your future.
If you want to live an awesome life, you have to start with an attitude of gratitude.
So each morning when you wake up, you should try this inner dialogue: “I am grateful for who I am, what I have, where I’ve been, and where I’m going.”
Make a habit of expressing gratitude for the circumstances of your life everyday by repeating this affirmation. It’s a mentality that will make you happier, more successful, more resilient through pain, and more attractive to other people.
#3: “The Opinions Of Others Will Not Sway Me. I Will Live My Dreams.”
We live on a planet populated by over seven billion human beings: seven billion opinions, seven billion beliefs, seven billion ideas, seven billion mindsets, and seven billion agendas. So no matter how strong-willed, opinionated, or independent you are, it is impossible to live out your life or make progress on your dreams without being affected in some way by the opinions of others.
As you write down your goals, set deadlines for your dreams, and put in the work necessary to make your visions real, there will most definitely be others who don’t think your dreams hold value. There will most certainly be people who not only doubt your ability to be successful, but also question whether your goals are worth chasing in the first place. Some of your closest family and friends may even pull you aside to talk you out of spending any more time going after your dream.
With so many different voices trying to convince you that their way is right and your way is wrong, it is super important for you to dedicate some time out of your day to repeating this affirmation: “The opinions of others will not sway me. I will live my dreams.”
Repeating this inner dialogue will help you convince yourself that living your dreams is a must, not an option. It will give you the conviction you need to stay true to your path to greatness—even when everyone around you is telling you to choose a different career.
#4: “Today I Will Not Be A Victim. I Am In Control Of My Destiny.”
So many of the circumstances that we enter this life with—the parents that give life to us, the locations where they raise us, the financial circumstances we grow up with, and the God-given abilities that the universe endows us with—are out of our control.
With so much out of our control, it’s very easy to feel like a victim.
It’s easy to just accept that things are they way they are and there’s nothing you can do to change them. But that attitude of being a victim is a losing approach for interpreting your situation.
Because no matter how many awful, terrible, unfortunate, or tragic circumstances are working against you, you are always in control of your destiny. You may not have control over the circumstances you come into this life with. But—no matter who you are or where you’re from—you always have control over the way your life turns out. Your destiny is always in your hands.
Because it’s not the circumstances that we come into the world with that end up defining us. It’s the way that we respond to life’s circumstances that ultimately defines us—defines our happiness, success, and significance in society.
So with that being said, you should absolutely make it a habit to repeat this affirmation to yourself every single day when you wake up in the morning: “I will not be a victim. I am in control of my destiny.”
Doing so will make you a victor throughout any and all circumstances that life sends your way—instead of a victim.
Do you pay attention to the inner dialogue within you?
As the old adage goes: “guard your thoughts for they become your words, and your words become your actions”. By saying these four things to yourself everyday, you’re already on the road to becoming a better version of yourself.