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Can You Figure Out The Success Puzzle?



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The 8 Pieces Of The Puzzle

Experience even more success by using all 8 pieces of the Feeling Successful Puzzle
I was recently asked two great questions about this sometimes-elusive thing called ‘success’. The first question was about how to become more successful in life and the second question was about defining what success is. For me, I think it is easier to answer the how question after I work on my definition of success. So here we go.

Firstly, success is not a thing, but a feeling. That is why someone can look successful on paper. They have the dream house, car, partner, job, bank account, pets, (add anything I might have missed), but they don’t FEEL successful. It doesn’t matter what amount of things you have, if you don’t feel successful. The material stuff is only part of the success equation. And that is why you cannot feel wholly successful, because there are other parts to the equation. Feeling ‘sort of’ successful is not where most us want to spend our time. We would like the feeling to be complete. Therefore I have come up with eight main parts of the puzzle that create an authentic and holistic feeling of success, which are:

1. Feeling daily positive emotions

2. Having high quality relationships

3. Feeling connected

4. Feeling like you are growing

5. Having and moving towards meaningful goals

6. Having financial flow

7. Experiencing optimum health and vitality

8. Being authentically yourself 24/7

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Our greatest feelings of success are experienced when we are ticking all of the boxes. I believe the most successful (and content) amongst us, have most of these covered off to a high degree and don’t just focus on one area.

Now that brings us back to the other question. How do we become more successful? How about I provide one strategy for each of the eight parts.

1. We can experience more daily joy by recalling 5 things we are grateful for. This primes us to notice the good in our life, and experience the emotions that follow those thoughts.

2. To increase the quality of your relationships, increase how present you are with partners, friends, family, and colleagues. Stop thinking about the past and the future and be fully, 100% present and engaged with the person in front of you. It might also mean you have to put the cell phone on silent.

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3. To connect to life, just breathe. Deeply. Realize the preciousness of every breath. Know that in 99.9999% of cases the oxygen you are breathing is freely given by this planet, we are all living on. Realize you are always connected to something bigger.

4. Now the growth thing. We need to feel like we are growing. Tony Robbins, that famous success coach, suggest that growth is actually a basic human need, in order for us to feel fulfilled. So do something that stretches you. Whether it is a new hobby, or skill, or responsibility, or project. Lean into our edge and feel the thrill of growing.

5. Time to tick the meaningful box by ensuring you have meaningful goals in your life. This is a big piece of the happiness equation as well. For me, meaningful goals are good for me, good for others, and good for the greater good. How do your bigger goals measure up against those criteria? You might need to go back to the drawing board and dream bigger.

6. Of course the money thing comes into success. I am sure you will agree: little or no money = stress. So we need to create a way to make it flow. Whether that is being an outstanding employee or running your own business. When we feel we can generate or access more money if we need it, then regardless of the number that sounds pretty successful to me.

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7. If your health sucks it is pretty hard to feel successful. I am sure you know the basics. Move your body regularly and as the author Michael Pollan wrote, ‘(Eat) Real food. Not too much. Mostly plants.’ Plus I like to throw in a bit of meditation while we are on the healthy mind, healthy body subject.

8. Finally, you have got to be you. If you need to put on a mask or persona or act to be in a relationship, job or friendship, then you are going to struggle with feeling successful. You will feel more like a fake or phoney. Part of being successful is living life and showing up in life as you. Not having to make excuses or be someone you are not. The strategy here is to work on owning the imperfect you, and being able to say with conviction, “I deeply and completely accept and approve of myself.”

There you go. A quick look at the game of success and how to play a winning hand. Too often people focus on one or two areas of the success pieces at the expense of the whole and then wonder why they look successful, but don’t feel successful. Maybe there is an area you might need to dust off and spend some more time on. What might it be and what can you do today to feed your feelings of success with the right fuel?

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Couple Entrepreneurs: How to Make It Happen With Your Partner



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Have you always dreamed of having success as an entrepreneur? Thoughts of working for yourself, doing things you’re passionate about, and not worrying about working for someone else may linger in your mind most of the time. If you’re married, there is a chance that your partner has some of the same goals, and that means the two of you could eventually become a pair of successful entrepreneurs who motivate one another, continually work hard, and reach all kinds of goals that will get you both further in life.


How to Make It Work


Although you may like the idea of becoming a successful entrepreneur while your partner does the same, it’s not uncommon to have some concerns about the situation. You may worry that you’re both going to take on too much and not have enough time for one another, but that isn’t always the case. It’s all about prioritizing work, setting a schedule, and being there to support one another through the ups and downs that will eventually occur.


Before working together to achieve goals, sit down and have a full conversation about the goals you’d like to achieve and the role you’ll each take on. Both of you will need to come to an agreement to keep work and the relationship separately while being respectful to one another. You can’t expect to have success with your partner if neither of you are respecting one another or collectively sharing ideas. You’ll need to focus on communication and compromising at times to make things work on a long-term basis.


Prime Examples of Successful Entrepreneur Couples


If you’re in need of motivation and encouragement because you’re not sure how to get your start in a specific industry with your partner, it may be best for you to learn a bit more about some of the successful entrepreneur couples out there. These couples work hard to achieve their goals and they support one another in various business ventures. They put forth the effort that is required of them to consistently achieve their goals.


Chris Sacca is a successful billionaire who once was fired from a job as a lawyer and then moved on to Google where had more opportunities to learn, invest, and become the success he is today. He is now the owner of a successful venture capital fund, known as Lowercase Capital. Although he’s had much success in his career, Chris Sacca’s wife, Crystal English Sacca, is a successful entrepreneur in her own right. She’s spent most of her career creating compelling and engaging commercials as well as digital advertisements for various companies. She’s worked for several of the most popular brands, including Sprint and HBO. In addition to these accomplishments, she works as an art director. While these two individuals aren’t doing the same things, they’re a married couple supporting one another while they each work hard to achieve their own personal goals.


In addition to Chris Sacca and his wife, Stewart and Lynda Resnick are another good example of a successful entrepreneur power couple. They currently have a net worth of 3.9 billion dollars. So, what is it that they’re selling? There is a good chance you’ve consumed at least one of the many products they own and distribute, such as Fiji Water or Halos oranges. The pair met when Lynda started her own ad agency and was assisting Stewart with a project for the business he was running at that time. Over time, they started working collectively together to invest and sell assorted products to the public, many of which are naturally good for human consumption.


Do What You Love and Respect One Another


There are plenty of entrepreneur couples out there. Some are just getting started while others have been in business for decades and continue to achieve a high level of success. Although you may be focused on figuring out your passion and what you want to do to get further in life while making a decent income, it’s important to understand that it’s possible for you to achieve the same level of success as some of these people who are earning millions of dollars each year. Most people don’t become a success overnight but figuring out what you want to do and how you’re going to make it happen is a great way to get started.


In addition to figuring out what you’d love to do for the rest of your life, you’ll need to remember to always respect your partner throughout the process. The thing about these successful couples is that they’re willing to provide support and guidance, they know how to communicate, and they believe in one another. If you don’t have respect, trust, and support in the relationship, it’s going to be difficult to have success as entrepreneurs together.


If you’ve always dreamed of running your own business with your partner by your side, it’s not a dream that is too farfetched. In fact, there are lots of successful couples that are working hard, reaching goals, and living the life they’ve always dreamed of having.

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How Does Sleep Affect Your Mental Health?



Sleep and Mental Health

Sleep is our body’s repair mode. Our cells, tissues, muscles, and hormones are all replenished during the deepest phases of sleep. This ensures that we are operating at our best the next day.

Experts recommend about seven (7) hours of sleep a day for an average adult. This is keeps you mentally and physically focused. But what happens when you don’t get enough? Is there a link between sleep and our mental health?


The Link Between Sleep and Mood

Even someone who isn’t an expert on the subject can appreciate how active they feel after a good night’s sleep. In contrast, one can feel exhausted, irritated, and distracted after not getting enough the night before. That’s because sleep plays an important role in your mood and performance.

Researchers from the University of Pennsylvania conducted a study in which the subjects were restricted sleep to only 4.5 hours each night. After a week, the subjects reported greater levels of negative emotions and mental tiredness. Once they were allowed to sleep normally however, there was a sharp improvement in their mood.

Just as sleep impacts your mood, your present state of mind also has an equivalent effect on the quality of your sleep. If you’re anxious or stressed, your body will release hormones that force you to stay awake through the night, depriving you of much-needed rest. The result is a cycle of stress and lack of sleep.

Research suggests that around 15-20 percent of people who are dealing with insomnia (an inability to fall asleep) go on to develop serious mental depression. While research is still being conducted about the exact nature of the relationship between sleep and depression, there has been enough progress to indicate a strong correlation between the two.

People who suffer from insomnia are at a significantly greater risk to develop depression or anxiety. In fact, the onset of these conditions can be accurately predicted by studying the patient’s sleep patterns.


The Link Between Sleep and Learning

In addition to your mood, sleep also appears to impact your mind’s ability to learn. Three separate processes govern learning in your brain: acquisition, consolidation, and recall.

Acquisition entails receiving information and storing it in your neural circuitry. The second process, consolidation, strengthens the neural connections in your mind so that the memory is stored in an optimally useful form. Recall is when the brain accesses this stored memory when it is needed.

Poor sleep compromises all three of these processes. However, it is acquisition and recall that are most affected by sleep deprivation. Recent research has also demonstrated that a lack of sleep can reduce the brain’s ability to consolidate information it is presented with.

Students take note: inadequate sleep may negatively affect your chances of passing that exam. Indeed, you may even find yourself forgetting how to do simple tasks. If you’ve ever been involved in back-to-back all-nighters during exam week, you may already have experienced forgetting a solution to a simple problem – even after you’d done it half a dozen times!


Dealing with Sleep Problems To Improve Mental Health

If you’re experiencing emotional apathy, anxiety, depression, or irritability, one of the steps you can take before seeking a professional is to assess your sleep situation.

Treat sleep as a ritual. Similar to reading to a child before putting them to bed, a habit that helps one disconnect from gadgets and put their mind in a relaxed mood can go a long way towards ensuring a restful, wholesome, sleep experience.

Making time before going to bed is a good idea. Avoid exposure to bright lights (such as those emitted by computer screens and smartphones). Try not to consume caffeine or alcohol, as all of these can be detrimental to the quality of sleep (and may even prevent the onset of sleep completely).

Obviously, the way you’ve set up your bed (and your entire bedroom) will also play an important role in how well you’re able to sleep. For example, memory foam mattresses are often recommended for individuals who sleep in awkward postures that can cause back pain. For some good reviews, check out The Sleep Judge.

If you can’t get rid of thoughts buzzing around in your head, you may want to listen to some natural background sounds, such as rainfall or wind rushing through trees. This will ease your mind away from distractions, helping you drift off to sleep. If you get the recommended amount, see how replenished you feel the next day!


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