17 Signs You’re On The Way To Being a Massive Success Story
Do you consider yourself a success? Are you living how you want to live? Are you doing what you want to do? How do you even define success in the first place?
I know many people who define success as having Degrees; High School, College, Masters and Doctorate. Or some people define success as making a six or seven figure salary. Or how about having a beautiful, loving family or being at peace with who you are right now in this moment.
How do you define success? And, what does the best case scenario for your life
Something I’ve learned in my own life is that in order for me to be successful in anything, I must recognize what I’ve already been successful at. I had to tell myself that it’s okay if I am not great from the start. I had to tell myself it’s ok to be where I am in this moment. I even had to see myself as a success, which is not always easy. It was then and only then, that I felt enabled and even allowed to take the next step in my journey.
When I saw myself as a success, I am unconsciously gave myself permission to move forward.
Odds are, you are on you’re way to being a massive success and you might not even know it!
17 Signs You’re On The Way To Being a Massive Success Story
1. Failure doesn’t scare you.
Recently I was watching the 10 minute YouTube video of “Who Moved My Cheese”. It was so powerful to see the concept of trial and error and how it affects our levels of success and overall quality of life. The video reminds us that the people who are not scared of failure are the ones that become massively successful, while the people who are ‘not trying to lose’ will never reach their full potential. Failure is not permanent and failure should not scare you out of action. Trial and error, emphasis on the error, will teach you everything you need to know about the next stage of your journey. Keep failing.
2. You have strong social skills.
You can think on your feet, you’re willing to have awkward, challenging and difficult conversations, you’re able to communicate with people with whom you just met or with whom don’t agree with. Having strong social skills doesn’t mean that everyone likes you or that you can persuade everyone. It means that you know how to communicate effectively and you’re willing to communicate and share your voice in order to get what you want and have the influence that you want. Your voice is a key factor for both influence and success. Dare to be heard.
3. You work on yourself.
Every day you do some sort of exercise, your conscious about what you eat, your reading, your learning, you’re constantly thinking “How can I do this better? How can I grow?” You sieve opportunities to grow. You refuse to work at places where you will not grow. For you, growth and expansion are top values, that you’re not willing to compromise. Keep growing.
4. You don’t comprise your character.
Your character and integrity are very important. Money will never be something that can sway your character. Your values, the relationships you have, how you treat people; those will not be negatively influenced by any external rewards. A huge part of your future success is maintaining and developing extraordinary character. You’re a star.
5. You are dedicated to serving people.
While everyone else is running around on the hamster wheel of life, you are focused on serving people. You know that whatever gifts life will send you are coming your way tenfold. You’re dedicated to serving people because that excites you. The idea of having a legacy and impact gives your life a sense of meaning, purpose and direction. You are here to serve.
6. You will wake up early.
Notice I said ‘will’. Even if you’re not waking up early now, you are willing to and you have before. You are willing to wake up early to get a head start on the day. We can never get as much done with as much focus and clarity as first thing in the morning. Even if you’re not getting up at 5AM now, you have the awareness that getting up early is a powerful tool for your success. Get up and get started.
7. You give love.
When I first got into the teaching profession in Harlem, New York City, my mantra was simple, GIVE LOVE. No matter what the situation was about, how stressed out I was, how many meetings I have to attend, how many calls I had to make or how many difficult conversations I will have today. My mantra was always, GIVE LOVE. And that changed everything. When we approach things with a loving mindset, we’re able to perform at extraordinarily high levels, we’re able to forgive, not hold grudges and remain in emotional control. Maintaining a positive mindset doesn’t just make us feel good, it’s a very productive strategy that helps us get things done, improves our concentration and develops our poise, character and influence. Give love.
8. People notice you.
When you walk in the room, you light it up, and when you leave everyone knows. There’s just something about you. People have been telling you your entire life that you have the ‘IT’ factor. You have an energy about you. You have this charisma. Maybe it’s because you’re very optimistic, maybe it’s because you have an empowering worldview, maybe it’s because you communicate your beliefs and your love for others. Whatever it is, people want to be around you.
9. You are very confident.
Confidence is the biggest key factor when it comes to getting things done and fulfilling our potential. When we believe in ourselves, we are willing to step out of our comfort zone and do things that make us really uncomfortable, because we know it’s going to lead to growth. We know that we might just surprise ourselves and our fears will not come true, and whatever it is we’re pursuing just might work out. You’re very confident. You’re not arrogant. People love your confidence and it inspires them to believe in their selves more. Your confidence will allow you to take action when others freeze up. Be bold.
10. You only surround yourself with great people.
I once heard my mentor, Les Brown say “If you hang around 9 people who are down, you will be the 10th one, if you hang around 9 people who are broke, you will be the 10th one, and if you hang around 9 losers, well…you will also be the 10th one. See it doesn’t take an Einstein to figure out that we are who we surround ourselves with.”
We can’t control our family, we can’t control where we grow up or what we’re born into, but we can control who we spend our time with. Successful people know that you can only surround yourself with people who want to be extraordinary. Watch who you’re hanging around.
11. You’ve learned to say no.
This was always very difficult for me. I always saw myself as a nice guy and to be honest with you, I’m still working on this one. The idea of saying no to engagements, saying no to people who you love and care about are not always easy. I’ve learned that I can’t be great at 10 to 15 things but I can’t be extraordinary at 1 – 3 things. I’ve learned to treat time like gold and honor my priorities. I’ve learned that saying no is a sign of confidence and self respect. Saying no will free up your time and lessen your commitments, so you can focus on what is truly important for you. Just say no.
12. You focus on your time.
You are great with time, or you studied and learned how to be great with time. You do not take time for granted and you’re aware that we all have the same exact 24 hours in the day. What we do with it is completely up to us and you take 100% responsibility for your time. You have spent time reading and studying how to create routines and rituals that will help you develop the habits necessary for success. You’re not just focusing on the reward, you’re focusing on the habit, time and effort that you’re putting in. Tick tock!
13. You don’t complain.
Of course you want to be honest, authentic and truthful but some people just complain way too much. And you know exactly who they are, you might even be one of them. This isn’t to call you out, but to create an awareness that criticizing, condemning and complaining does nothing for you. You’ve learned in your own life that when you’re positive you’re able to find solutions when others are stuck. When you’re not complaining you’re in a better mood which affects how you think, how you speak and how you communicate with yourself. You made a commitment to not complain anymore. Your words are precious.
14. You are patient.
You know that patience is another key to success. Many people give up on their dreams because they don’t get it when they want it. I once heard somebody say, “Be in a rush to be patient. The only thing you should be rushing towards is greater patience.” You know your success, your goals and your dream is a marathon not a sprint. This is something you’re dedicating your life to. This is not a get rich quick scheme, this is your livelihood, your legacy, your character and your reputation. You’re patient. You’re going to build it, brick by brick.
15. You practice discipline and self-control.
You know the power of discipline and self-control. Everybody wants stuff instantly. Everybody wants stuff right now, but you know the power of staying on course. You don’t beat yourself up when you mess up but you do practice self-control and discipline on a regular basis. You are highly intentional and highly deliberate with everything that you say and do.
16. You’re a self-improvement junkie.
As the old adage goes, “every day in every way you’re getting better and better”. Even on the days you don’t feel like it. Even on the days that are difficult. Even on the days where you just feel like sitting in the bed. There’s always a little something that you do each and every day to get better.
17. You hate average.
Well maybe hate is a bit strong, but you get the point. You don’t want to be average because you’re driven to do and achieve great things. You believe that average is not an option since greatness is possible. You want to give in a great way, you want to serve in a great way, you want to take care of your family and your friends in a great way. As Eric Thomas says, you are “Allergic to average!” Your drive will be another major key to your success. Through trial and error, through movement and activity, you will become clearer and clearer of exactly where you want to go. When other people say slow down, you say sit back and enjoy the show. You greatness junkie!
If you don’t have all 17 of these qualities and characteristics, you most likely have some. The goal is that you work your way up to embodying all 17 characteristics day in and day out.
Ask yourself the following questions:
Which of these qualities do I express all the time?
Which qualities do I express sometimes?
Which qualities do I rarely express?
If I expressed this one quality, it would have the biggest positive impact on my life?
What quality do you think will be the most difficult for you to express?
The key to your success will be your consistency. Commit to your daily practice in becoming the best version of yourself. Use your Everyday Power.