It’s happened – you have the opportunity of a lifetime laid out in front of you and it seems an easy choice to take the plunge and do it… but something is making you hesitate and agonize over if this is really the right decision.
Or, let’s say you have a promising and well-established career, but SOMETHING just isn’t right. You have a dream doing something completely different, but the risk seems almost too great to start over. What to do? There are two simple questions to ask yourself that will shed immediate light on what decision to make
1. If you don’t do it, will you regret it?
Life is too short and too valuable to spend it living with regrets. Live your life so richly and fully that when you look back on it, you will know you were true to yourself and didn’t pass up on opportunities you wanted. Playing the “what if” game as far as what you have or haven’t done in the past doesn’t count. What IF you had gone to that other college, taken that other job, married that other person? And the retort to that should be not, “What if” but, “So what?” The future is HERE and the future is NOW, and what choices do you plan to make with it?
2. If no one else knew about it, would you do it anyway?
While the first question points to your own mindset and motivation, the second one points to how much you may be influenced by external sources – your family, friends, co-workers, society, and the media. We often get in a rut of doing things because “everyone else does it that way” or because “that’s what you are supposed to do”. When you momentarily remove yourself from those influences and pause to introspect upon your own aspirations, you may be surprised at what becomes important to you and what is really not significant at all.