Holding Grudges: We’ve All Done It
We’ve all been there. We’ve all felt that someone has wronged us, slandered us, tricked us, lied to us, cheated us and so on. We’ve all held grudges. We’ve all rationalized it. We’ve all held on to it.
Here are three reasons why we should let it go:
Holding a grudge takes more energy than letting it go.
In order to hold a grudge you have to constantly run a negative experience through your mind over and over again, especially when and if you see the person – what they’ve done, what they should have done and how they did it. When you see them, you even replay it more vividly than before! THAT’S A LOT OF WORK! What are you getting out of it? Do you think you’re teaching them a lesson? Life is too short to waste any energy on holding a grudge. Live and let go!
Holding a grudge sabotages your own happiness.
Odds are if you hold one grudge, you are probably holding a whole bunch of grudges towards various people and events. How can you be happy, excited and passionate if your mind is full of reasons to hate, dislike and disconnect? Put your happiness at the forefront of your mind. You’re worth it!
Holding a grudge makes you and your life smaller.
Holding grudges limits who you will interact with, where you will go and what you will try. When we don’t grow we become smaller. We shrink. Don’t allow your grudges to limit you, sabotage you, or take up your two most valuable resources – your mind and your time!
“Holding a grudge is like drinking poison is waiting for the other person to die.” -Buddha
“Holding a grudge is like letting someone live rent free in your head!” -Unknown
As always, I hope this helps. Feel free to share this with your family, friends and colleagues.
All the best,