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3 Reasons Not Hold A Grudge Any Longer

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  1. Atulya says:

    The biggest grudge I let go of while having
    a nice meditation was against my alcoholic father. It was a very liberating moment and one that I reflect on with deep gratitude. Thanks for this great blog! Keep the inspiration coming.

    1. Jeffrey I. Moore says:

      That is amazing, Atulya and thank you so much for sharing that! YOUR strength and ability to forgive is truly inspirational! 🙂

  2. kita says:

    Great post. Ive held a grudge for years its painful to forgive and bothering because of ni justice however little by little I am reaping the fruits of letting go and I am much happier than I was. Thanks

    1. Jeffrey I. Moore says:

      My pleasure, Kita! 🙂

  3. tetmarqueses says:

    By not holding grudges, does it mean one must forgive and forget? It confuses me at times. I do forgive those who have gravely wronged me, but I dismiss them from my life entirely. I have burnt bridges and never looked back. When I see the person, I don’t feel hatred, just indifference. Am I making sense?

    1. Everyday Power says:

      You don’t have to forget, but forgiving will allow you to move on. The more bridges we burn the more we understand how important forgiveness is. I’ve learned that plenty!!! 😉

  4. tenshii7 says:

    Reblogged this on Eccentric & Quirky Nami Files:Life and How I live it.. and commented:
    Truth, clearly expressed- this is lovely to see; so many people suffer because they can’t let go…and that, is something that hurts them most- at least most of the time. 🙂 Agree. I might reference this, at some point..

  5. tenshii7 says:

    Truth, clearly expressed- this is lovely to see; so many people suffer because they can’t let go…and that, is something that hurts them most- at least most of the time. 🙂 Agree. I might reference this, at some point..

  6. taliaaramos says:

    Reblogged this on taliaramos and commented:
    Aint Nobody Got time for that! 🙂

  7. whenexactly says:

    Reblogged this on How soon is now? and commented:
    I can find other uses for my time and energy!

  8. Beate says:

    Wholeheartedly agree! You forgot to mention the adverse health benefits of holding a grudge. Actually it was Jesus, who had the idea about forgiveness since the world began.

  9. Hi there!
    I’ve nominated you for the Super Sweet Blogging Award

    I’ve thoroughly enjoyed your positive and very inspiring blog. I thank you!

    1. Everyday Power says:

      Thank you! 🙂

  10. redheadcase says:

    Holding a grudge, holding onto pain, simply keeps me from making my experience in life the best it can be. Healing and moving forward, tiny steps at a time! =)

    1. Everyday Power says:


  11. Fred Fox says:

    The greatest role model for not holding a grudge is the biblical Joseph.
    After all his brothers did to him, he still harbored no resentment.
    “Anger begins with madness and ends with regret.” – Ben Hamelech V’Hanazir

    1. Everyday Power says:

      Great quote, Fred!!!

    1. Everyday Power says:

      Thank you for sharing!!!

    1. Everyday Power says:

      Thanks for sharing, O!

  12. Excellent! So many individuals don’t realize a grudge, in reality, hurts themselves as an individual, more than it injures anybody else. This was something I blogged about in my entry: “The Freedom of Forgiveness”.

  13. Justin Buck says:

    If I fell off a horse and broke my leg, I wouldn’t take it out of the cast once a week and re-break it! So why is it so easy to keep an emotional wound open? Healing can be difficult, but it starts with the DESIRE to heal. Human nature leads us to hold on to those grudges and seek some form of “justice”. It’s difficult to realize that our “justice” must be tempered by mercy (no “”, just real, genuine mercy) and that letting go is the most merciful thing we can do for both parties.

  14. davecenker says:

    Clear all the mental clutter and magic begins to occur 😉

  15. jwkuyser says:

    Reblogged this on Jake Kuyser and commented:
    I’m re-blogging this post from Everyday Power. I’ve held far too many grudges in life. It’s probably better just to let go of them. Forgive and forget!

    1. Everyday Power says:

      Thank you for sharing!!!!

  16. pamkelso says:

    I watched a Lisa Nichols video that had a little in it about this and it was wonderful. I forgive and turn loose easily, but I do have problems sometimes with people who don’t let go of me and I would love to have you address that. When you are trying to move on in your life and have clawing little hands all over your back trying to keep you in a situation that you are trying to move away from. Some people and organizations with huge rolodexes have the capacity to continually try to create unhealthy situations in peoples lives.

  17. Douglas Stewart says:

    Great reminder! Life is too short to hold grudges. I have lived as a grudger and as a forgiver. Being a forgiver is better.

    1. Everyday Power says:

      Doug, I agree!

  18. SID616 says:

    What do I do if I’m holding a grudge against a family member, and every day they give me another reason to be angry at them. The deal is this, I don’t want to say anything to them because I love them, I really do and I don’t want to hurt their feelings. But by keeping my feelings in I’m just making it worse. It is really hard for me to let it go and it bugs me to death… 🙁

  19. shoedooo says:

    A grudge is the heaviest thing you can carry… I saw that quote somewhere and it makes a ton of sense.

  20. Yuna says:


  21. Good blog! I think there is a proverb something to the effect of (and I paraphrasing here) “If I hold a grudge/anger/resentment, I must dig two graves: one for the other person and one for me.”

    1. Everyday Power says:

      I love that!! Thank you for sharing!!

  22. I know this is true — holding a grudge is self-sabotage

  23. rishsister says:

    Reblogged this on Rishsister and commented:
    Great info! Thanks!

  24. Reblogged this on futurebegonia and commented:
    I don’t bear grudge towards anyone. This is a good summary of why that’s a good approach !

  25. alise says:

    very good points. couldn’t agree more.

  26. PLUS….. negative emotions seriously affect our physical health, and are the roots of most illness. Laughter is healing~!

    1. Everyday Power says:

      Dr.Norman Cousins!!! I agree!!

  27. Anonymous says:

    I think that holding a grudge is something one stops doing once they grasp the true essence of life. When someone upsets you in any way, you should talk about it and find peace. Whether you withdraw yourself from that relationship thereafter is your call just as long as you do that in peace. Ask yourself if it’s worth it holding a grudge- unnecessary bad energy, negative feelings and so much more.

    1. Everyday Power says:

      Well said my friend!

  28. Dara says:

    You would not believe how much I needed to be reminded of this right now. Perfect timing!

    1. Everyday Power says:

      Glad I could help!!

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